Hellobee Boards Topic: What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?

Hellobee Boards Topic: What kind of birth experience do you/did you want? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 01:20:58 +0000 cranberryapple on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want/page/2#post-253837 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 20:26:55 +0000 cranberryapple 253837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had wanted a medication-free birth but gave into pain medications, and boy, am I glad I did! I was also hoping not to tear, and I got my wish there! :) matador84 on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want/page/2#post-252531 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 20:41:21 +0000 matador84 252531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would love a natural birth, but I think I am too scared! DH lives 80 miles away during the week and I am getting so paranoid he won't be here if I go into labor. I am tempted, but trying not to cave either--for a scheduled induction with an epidural as soon as I walk in the door! DigAPony on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want/page/2#post-252488 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 19:48:12 +0000 DigAPony 252488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hilsy85: Yay! hilsy85 on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252356 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 17:41:28 +0000 hilsy85 252356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Thanks ladies! Obviously, healthy mama and healthy baby is my number one priority. But since we are using a doula, I feel like it would be helpful to her if I gave her an idea of what I want so she can help me create that type of experience. For those of you mentioned students, thanks for reminding me that I do NOT want students observing, lol. @sorrycharlie: hopefully your labor will be just as fast as your mom's! @DigAPony: that is a fabulous way to put it. I think that's one of the things I've heard that's spoken to me the most! @looch: YES to the no episiotomy for sure. I'm really scared about having to get one! loveisstrange on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252308 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 16:28:05 +0000 loveisstrange 252308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My ideal birth experience would be a calm, zen water birth with no meds, no intervention. Dim lights, soft music just me and my body and my baby. I don't know if I'll be allowed to do that, but I'm going to push for it next time around. I have a rare heart disorder called Wolff-Parkinson-White syndrome and I don't think I'm allowed to not be monitored. :( MaisyMay on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252301 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 16:24:07 +0000 MaisyMay 252301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've not been given much of an option. As I'm high risk, I'll be induced a few weeks before my due date. My doctor said that this will probably end up being a c-section. My mom and MIL both had c-sections. My MIL, who had vag and C, said that the recovery from the C was so much easier and faster for her. Whatever gives me a healthy little baby in my arms is a-okay with me. DigAPony on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252297 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 16:20:33 +0000 DigAPony 252297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I hope to birth at home or in a birthing center, with the possibility of a water birth. I hope to feel safe, supported, strong, and to bond with my husband. Running Elley on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252250 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 15:31:16 +0000 Running Elley 252250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I just want both our son and I to be healthy at the end of it. Ideally I’d love to have a natural birth at a hospital with no medication. DH will be with me in L&D and our families will be waiting in the waiting room. I’d love to have a relatively quick labor with no tearing. However I have no delusions about my pain tolerance and I won’t beat myself up if I end up with an epi. I wouldn’t even be sad about a c-section. I just want to meet this guy! sorrycharlie on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252249 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 15:31:12 +0000 sorrycharlie 252249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @oliviaoblivia: ah - thanks! Minnie_Girl on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252240 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 15:24:55 +0000 Minnie_Girl 252240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm planning a homebirth with a great group of midwives. So I'm obviously aiming to make my birth experience as natural and physiologically normal as possible. Ideally, I won't get overwhelmed, feel scared, or tense up. I want the full experience of birth--the parts that aren't easy or painless, along with the amazing fruits of labor! Ultimately the hard work of natural labor should pay off with a very healthy, safe delivery for baby, AND my own health and happiness (not just "Thank God I made it out of that alive," haha). AprilK on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252217 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 15:01:21 +0000 AprilK 252217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ For my son, my plan was healthy baby and healthy mommy. The next time we have one I'd like a little more say b.c all hell broke loose for NO good reason. Baby was never in distress and everyone was just being complete jerks to me. For the next time, I'm taking much more care in selecting my ob/gyn and setting the tone with that.... if someone is disrespectful or rude I am going to tell them to get the heck out (including nurses!) - as a first time mom I had no idea to stand up to people and completely got walked ALL over. And I'm one that never really gets walked over - but it's just all so overwhelming! :p Might get a doula to help with all that. Mrs. Jacks on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252209 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 14:53:59 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 252209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ One that lead to a healthy baby and mom which is as comfortable as possible... Which is what I got! MrsMccarthy on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252108 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 13:43:58 +0000 MrsMccarthy 252108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Natural water birth with no interventions or medications if possible. WISH ME LUCK!!!! oliviaoblivia on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252083 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 13:29:05 +0000 oliviaoblivia 252083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @sorrycharlie: W&I is a teaching hospital, they are affiliated with Brown University School of Medicine. purrpletulips on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252063 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 13:17:46 +0000 purrpletulips 252063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Healthy baby and healthy mommy. edelweiss on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252054 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 13:13:36 +0000 edelweiss 252054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ i'd like to labor at home as long as possible, although my lack of pain tolerance might send me to the hospital on the early side for an epidural. i used to think that i wanted a medication free birth, and while i would prefer that, i'm not setting it as a high priority--i've been treated with narcotics/anesthesia before for pain, and i was totally for it at the time and thought they were amazing. filly on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252038 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 12:57:29 +0000 filly 252038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ sister and husband only during L&D. yes to an epidural. i am having twins so i am prepared for an emergency c-section. would like skin to skin & to nurse as soon as possible. healthy babies. healthy mommy. no visitors for first 12 hrs. THE END. sorrycharlie on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252027 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 12:46:39 +0000 sorrycharlie 252027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @regberadaisy: yeah that's kind of weird that they mentioned that! i could see mentioning if the student was female vs male, but their nationality/heritage seems a bit much! heffalump on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252024 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 12:46:22 +0000 heffalump 252024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @sorrycharlie: Lol, now that I think about it I think before hand I would have thought that I'd say no to a student observing me. But I said that I didn't want anyone to come into the room when I was in labor other than DH, and I let my parents and inlaws in for a little bit. You just never know until it happens! regberadaisy on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252017 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 12:43:44 +0000 regberadaisy 252017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @sorrycharlie: haha I don't know. I just thought it was odd because when she came in to ask if I would be OK with it she made sure to mention that the student was Chinese?!? Like ok...why would it make a difference? heffalump on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252016 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 12:42:57 +0000 heffalump 252016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @regberadaisy: I didn't mind, we have a lot of teaching hospitals here and I feel like they have to learn some how! I actually thought it was kind of neat being her first birth. looch on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252014 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 12:42:27 +0000 looch 252014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My ideals: 1. as few interventions as possible unless medically necessary 2. possibility to use birthing tub 3. no internal fetal monitoring 4. no episiotomy 5. delayed cord clamping, immediate skin to skin contact littlebug on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-252008 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 12:37:55 +0000 littlebug 252008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm hoping to labor at home as long as possible (we live 2 miles from the hospital). I would like to allow labor to progress naturally, as long as it is safe for baby (ie, no pitocin). I prefer no pain medication but am not totally opposed. And I want immediate skin-to-skin after delivery, for an hour, just me and Hubs. Obviously, this is my wishlist but we will do what the doctor's think is necessary, as long as I am fully informed and give full consent. sorrycharlie on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-251999 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 12:33:48 +0000 sorrycharlie 251999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @artbee: @regberadaisy: wow! I don't know if I'll be okay with it..maybe it'll depend on my mood then. I think my hospital is a teaching hospital but I'm actually not sure at all (women & infants in RI). @regbera, I cannot believe that!!! that's so horrible if they did in fact assume that! @hilsy85: if they tell me to go home, I'm going to sit in their waiting room for awhile and scare all the other women, but I am not going home! my mom showed up in labor with me at 6p and they were taking their sweet time with the paperwork, so she yelled that i was coming NOW - and I was born by 6:14pm. LOL. I am terrified of not having time for the epidural! ladyfingers on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-251861 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 11:11:32 +0000 ladyfingers 251861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Quick births apparently run in my family -- my birth mother has had 5 other children in addition to me, and even I (her first) came really quickly. So that would be nice! Otherwise, I do want an epidural but I want a pain management option that allows me to be as present as possible both during and after the birth, but lessens the amount of pain I'm in. I don't need to be completely pain-free. I just don't want to be high during the experience. And I want time (just me and DH) with the baby afterwards. photojane on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-251847 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 10:59:52 +0000 photojane 251847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ healthy baby, healthy mama, as painless as drugs can make it! Honeybee on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-251837 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 10:50:57 +0000 Honeybee 251837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Hmmmm, with my first I really wanted a med-free birth; with my second, I just wanted to labor as long as possible before getting the epidural. When I have another one, I think my goal will be to actually leave the hospital within 12 hours of birth; I planned that with both kids, and it didn't work out with either one. :( hilsy85 on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-251827 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 10:47:36 +0000 hilsy85 251827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Thanks so much ladies! These are all really helpful to read :) Keep 'em coming! I think I can agree with those of you who said they wanted to labor at home for as long as possible...one thing I'm afraid of is going to the hospital and being sent home! LuLu Mom on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-251811 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 10:39:19 +0000 LuLu Mom 251811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I told my doctor I wanted whatever is best for baby and mommy, I would like medicine for pain management and I said no student.s (as I'm delivering at a teaching hospital) regberadaisy on "What kind of birth experience do you/did you want?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-birth-experience-do-youdid-you-want#post-251800 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 10:34:10 +0000 regberadaisy 251800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @artbee: oh I was definitely not OK with a student there! They asked me and I said no but I think the nurse misheard me. Then my husband asked me I thought you didn't want student observers? So we had my labor nurse tell the other nurse that I did not want a student observer. I think for some reason the other nurse thought since the student was Chinese and I'm Chinese that I would then be OK with it?!?