https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 18:52:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share/page/2#post-2655304 Mon, 21 Nov 2016 13:22:36 +0000 snowjewelz 2655304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have cameras nor do we get any video/picture updates! I guess ignorance is bliss, lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share/page/2#post-2655092 Mon, 21 Nov 2016 08:26:01 +0000 nana87 2655092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have a problem with this because it seems like they don't have enough teachers around, or around closely enough, to regulate behavior. Of course it's totally normal for babies to take toys or pacis from each other or pull hair, but it would definitely bother me if the teachers didn't intervene or nip it in the bud as quickly as possible. At our daycare, it's a mixed aged classroom (6 months to 3 years) so there aren't that many little littles at a time so my perspective is a little different-- the teachers can basically have hands on or near the babies almost all the time. But if I were you, I'd think about what exactly bothered you-- that it was a paci, or the not intervening quickly. Is it more of a health/safety concern, or about teacher interaction? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share/page/2#post-2655007 Sun, 20 Nov 2016 17:28:02 +0000 Corduroy 2655007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I expect that daycare will share information that they find concerning. Injuries, inappropriate behavior, early/late milestones. I don't expect to hear about every "no no" or gross thing that happened. I expect babies to drink from other bottles or swap pacifiers. I expect preschoolers to say mean things and occasionally shove. I don't want to hear about each instance. I want to hear if it's getting worse or if DD is outside of typical.<br /> Occassionally I ask for detail. If we'll be visiting a newborn- any germs I should know about? When DS was doing a lactose free trial - did he really not drink from someone else's bottle? Otherwise I don't expect that kind of info. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share/page/2#post-2654788 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 14:04:47 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2654788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: no, I called because it was a paci, which would go home with the other baby. The toys that are room toys and shared by all and as they become gross throughout the day go into a "yuck" bucket are sanitized using Ozone or some thing that sounds similar at night. I am upset in the general sense that I saw my kid crawl over to another kid who clearly didn't want to be bothered and mine persisted and took his stuff. When one of the teachers mentioned he grabs at her hair she laughed it off and said he probably does the same to me. He does, but after that I made it a point not to let him hold and play with it long before uncurling his fingers. Today when he went for my braid he had a mischievous look because for weeks now it's been reinforced grabbing and pulling hair is a no-no. I guess it's a couple things going on as to why I didn't like what I saw and ultimately saw. At the end of the day though if I had not called I likely would not have known chewing on other babies paci's is a common thing for him. It made me change a bit of how I offered and let LO explore his sippy cup last night that has a similar material to a paci. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share/page/2#post-2654771 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 13:10:58 +0000 erinbaderin 2654771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Is it just because it's a paci that you're upset by it? Because I can guarantee you that the toys are also going from one kid's mouth to the next one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share/page/2#post-2654759 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 12:04:20 +0000 pachamama 2654759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I've always believed if there were cameras in day cares, no one would ever send their kid to them! I just think there are things that happen at daycare that we as moms don't love but are just part of 10 kids and 2 adults :-/ they're going to get sick, there's going to be things we can't control. I hate it but I guess that's how it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share/page/2#post-2654737 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 10:38:51 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2654737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I appreciate everyone's feedback and critique. This thread has been very eye opening. The daycare and all of LO's teachers are really great; however, my vent/ general question about behavior notification and correction is coming off as if I don't trust them with LO and that is simply not the case. I am surprised by how many of you are unphased by the paci sharing. I am still alarmed and grossed out. I know there's going to be tons of thing LO does that will gross me out. I'm just not there yet with going with the flow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share/page/2#post-2654724 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 10:14:37 +0000 Ms. RV 2654724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One time when I picked up DD she was sitting next to another little girl. That little girl had DD's paci in her mouth and DD had a paci in her mouth. I commented that they switched and the teacher said no, because the girl doesn't use pacis at daycare she doesn't know where that one came from. It made me laugh. Really, as long as there isn't something like HFM going around, it is really just building up their immune system. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654706 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 09:10:58 +0000 LemonJack 2654706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD goes to a small in home daycare. I've become friends with her provider and often will stay and chat awhile at pickup, but I generally only get the big details, which is what I expect.</p> <p>I'm a teacher myself, so I can attest to the fact that there are many things that happen throughout a day between kids that are perfectly normal to me, and so I forget about them quickly. I have too much going on to remember so many tiny details, unless they are noteworthy, and in those cases I do contact home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654698 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 08:39:23 +0000 yoursilverlining 2654698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: to answer you second question - no, I wouldn't want daycare to tell me if a lo stole my lo's pacifier. I mean, what's the purpose of sharing that info? There's nothing I can do about it. Babies drop paci on the ground and pop them right back in; would you expect that to be shared at pick up? </p> <p>If I knew a parent in my kid's room was watching the cameras so often and then calling the room, taking a teacher away from the babies, for something like this, I'd be pretty irritated. I think you should talk to the director about setting up more detailed reports if that's the level of detail you need to feel comfortable; I don't think it's appropriate or fair to expect the teachers to be proactive about sharing every detail, or to answer calls to the room about things that are not emergencies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654694 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 08:00:44 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2654694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: honestly, I wouldn't really care. I'd wash them at night and forget about it. In the realm of what babies will do this is small potatoes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654689 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 07:34:03 +0000 looch 2654689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I'd be sanitizing that pacifier within an inch of its life, lol. Then I'd probably put it in the garbage, buy 5 more and a paci clip.</p> <p>The thing is that kids are going to get sick as long as they're in the putting things in their mouths phase. So, you kind of have to ride it out until they're 2 or so. And trust me, they'll still get sick in kindergarten, no matter how many colds they had while in daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654683 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 06:55:10 +0000 hellobeeboston 2654683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: at that age I just assume EVERYTHING goes in the mouth. They don't discern; paci's, toys, food, shoes (yuck)... </p> <p>I remember looking at my baby in his little class and they were in a circle each with a toy in their mouth and I would think, I wonder when they're all going to trade, then try not to think about it. </p> <p>Lots of sickness to start, but they truly do build immunities and get sick less often as they get older. I suppose I wouldn't expect to be told something like that at pick up. I don't think it's realistic for the teachers to ALWAYS catch a toy or paci "steal", but would hope they would try... but yeah, I guess I'm "less rigid" as a parent in that I would just go with it since I consider that a normal, unfortunately gross, occurrence. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654680 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 06:06:26 +0000 catomd00 2654680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: no I wouldn't expect to be told if another kid had my baby's pacifier in their mouth. I'd assume they rinsed it off when they noticed, but honestly if they just gave it back to my baby then whatever. I washed pacifiers nightly when we did daycare anyways because I expected they'd be dropped and taken by others at some point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654661 Sat, 19 Nov 2016 00:33:52 +0000 daniellemybelle 2654661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I understand where you are coming from. I wouldn't really want my LO to steal a pacifier from another baby either, and I wouldn't want my LO to have a pacifier that another baby had in their mouth. It's a fair feeling to have, I think! </p> <p>At the same time, I think it is what it is in a daycare setting and I don't think you should lose confidence in your DCP at all over this. It is likely a very common occurrence. If things like this really bother you, I would maybe think about a different childcare situation. But honestly, even though your reaction is definitely understandable, in the whole scheme of things it's not a big deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654640 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 22:06:33 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2654640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: as a former daycare I probably would have forgotten to tell a parent about that unless it had just happened and I probably would have already rinsed it myself (though I guess that doesn't fully sterilize). Although my mission in the infant room was to try to get babies off their pacifiers stat. And that was what most of the workers did too. Though I have had worked at other daycare where they just popped it in the babies mouths often. </p> <p>As a parent, if my kid went to daycare and if she used a pacifier then I would assume it was dirty and have a back up for pick up and at home or clean it when I got home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654629 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 21:46:06 +0000 sapphire 2654629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: when my LO used pacifiers we washed them when they got home, just like bottles. I expected them to get dropped and shared at times. It wouldn't change what I did with them. Kids in daycare share germs - there's only so much you can do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654625 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 21:43:31 +0000 Silva 2654625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: just wanted to add that I totally get being worried about your kid being an aggressor but he doesn't have the capacity to have the kind of intent that you are reading into his actions. He's absolutely the sweet baby, like all babies, he just saw something he wanted! Don't overthink it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654624 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 21:42:06 +0000 Charm54 2654624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: no, I wouldn't expect to be told if my LO put someone else's pacifier in her mouth. I'm sure it happens all the time. She picks up way worse stuff at home from the dog and her sister, lol. Immune building I like to call it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654620 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 21:32:51 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2654620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think pretty much everyone is in agreement LO is being a normal baby and I overreacted by calling and even wanting to hear about that stuff at pick up. </p> <p>However, as the parent of the baby whose pacifier was used by another baby would you want the teachers to tell you? If you were informed your baby's pacifier wasn't just dirty (dropped on the floor), but used by another baby would that change what you did with it when you got home? I'm just trying to gauge when you all think it's appropriate for daycare to share routine happenings and perhaps a less rigid parent's response. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654609 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 21:02:55 +0000 alphagam84 2654609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gotta say I'm surprised your actually called daycare over your child taking another child's pacifier. That par for the course. Our close friends son is in daycare with our daughter and he was always trying to steal it and would occasionally get it in his mouth. We all laughed about it. Not a big deal and that's what happens when you have a bunch of babies together. I'd only ever actually call daycare if I saw abuse or neglect. They can't police every interaction or report every little happening to every parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654506 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 16:14:42 +0000 littlebug 2654506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have watched my kid, in person, pull a paci out of another baby's mouth and stick in her own. I have also watched another kid pull her paci out of her mouth and stick it in his own. That's daycare. And that's normal infant behavior. Babies don't know gentle vs rough. A (9m) is constantly man-handling D (who is 3). He complains but we remind him that she doesn't understand, and as her big brother he can help us teach her how to be gentle. But baby-on-baby violence (ha!) is completely par for the course. The teachers barely bat an eye at that kind of thing. Ours will intervene if there's obvious pushing/shoving/hitting, but taking a paci? No harm, no foul. I'd take a break from the camera. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654500 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 16:01:46 +0000 catomd00 2654500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: your child is an infant. Nothing he's doing will make him become a "tyrant" and he cannot be held responsible for "committing daycare sins". I'd leave it up to the teachers to handle unless you see something seriously dangerous going on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654497 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 15:51:49 +0000 ShootingStar 2654497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, their own boppies? That's kind of nuts. Boppies don't go in your mouth like pacis do. But I'd certainly be pissed if they didn't clean the pacifier before returning it to my child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654496 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 15:49:33 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2654496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: I wasn't totally obnoxious about it unless just calling in itself was obnoxious. She didn't sound annoyed in her tone or responses- could be good training since they tell parents to call or she was okay letting me know everything was fine and usual- ugh. I really don't want LO to become a little tyrant.</p> <p>@ShootingStar: No, he's never taken a pacifier properly at home, so it never occurred to me that he may want one to play with until she said this wasn't the first time he took someone else's to chew on it. I will see how he plays with one this weekend and see if I should send it with him on Monday.</p> <p>Some parents bring in special boppies for their kids sole use and it's a no-no for another kid to use it. Part of my inclination to call was to make sure my kid wasn't committing a big daycare sin. Parents bring in pacifiers just for their kid's use. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654492 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 15:38:03 +0000 looch 2654492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Take this with a grain of salt, because my son wasn't in daycare as a baby, but I can tell you that the camera would have been the death of me. We had to get rid of our video monitor because I was becoming a basket case at bedtime. </p> <p>I would seriously consider not watching it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654485 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 15:24:17 +0000 hellobeeboston 2654485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, like others said, that's just part of it, unfortunately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654483 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 15:20:50 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2654483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I think I'd be happier not knowing if my baby bonked someone on the head because I'd feel bad. Especially if the other kid was just sad for a second and my kid didn't do it all the time otherwise for sure I would want to know that they were being too rough too often and see if we could come up with a game plan to fix it. </p> <p>@LBee: for our daycare both sets of parents signed the injury/accident report for either the kid who is injured and the one who did it-whichever is their kid. I think it's more to protect the daycare and have a record of the situation in case the injury causes more serious outcomes and/or if legal proceedings are put into play. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654479 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 15:17:23 +0000 Truth Bombs 2654479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: no, I definitely wouldn't have called on that. I mean, what did you say "hey, you aren't watching my kid closely enough?". These things will happen, they are babies. Sharing a pacifier isn't the end of the world. I think you have to work on letting go of some control and trust his teachers to provide appropriate care within the realm of what is to be expected when there are 8 (or however many) babies sharing space. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-kind-of-info-does-daycare-share#post-2654470 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 15:09:54 +0000 ShootingStar 2654470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just don't think you get that kind of fine grain detail from a child care provider. Kids at that age have no concept of empathy. They only know that they want something, so they take it. They don't know how to be nice or to be gentle. It takes a LOT of coaching for kids to learn that. </p> <p>Do you send pacifiers with him? If you don't, you might want to send some, or something else he can chew on, so he doesn't take otehr kids. </p>