https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 03:23:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1617176 Tue, 06 May 2014 16:22:30 +0000 MaryM 1617176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure if we'll ever have more than one, but the youngest of three and would like to throw out there that I'm my mother's favorite child, so there's another benefit to having another</p> <p>lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1617154 Tue, 06 May 2014 16:12:07 +0000 septca 1617154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Radish: not even baking #2 yet, but DH and I have always said we were open to a third for exactly the reasons you listed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1617117 Tue, 06 May 2014 15:54:46 +0000 Lindsay05 1617117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are planning on having more than two at some point. I think we are (or at least I am) making that decision on pretty much the same reasons you listed. I do not think they are bad reasons at all. I come from a two sibling household and it was just way too small. </p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I think you should blog it ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1617047 Tue, 06 May 2014 15:34:00 +0000 Kachang 1617047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I would love to see a blog post on this. I just realized that I posted the exact same thing 3 months ago and I am no closer to making a decision. =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1615470 Tue, 06 May 2014 08:39:38 +0000 swurlygurl 1615470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm currently pregnant with #2, but your whole situation sounds pretty similar to mine. I grew up with 1 sister, DH had 2 siblings. I definitely want a larger family, and want the future dynamic with the older kids. I view these next 5 years or so as 'pushing through' with the baby/toddler stage to get there. There will be a LOT of sacrifices (travel, money, time, leisure, etc), but in the end it will get me the family I've always wanted. Growing up I knew I wanted more siblings, and I love watching DH's family dynamic. I know it's not guaranteed to get such a great dynamic - I have lots of friends who do not get along with siblings/parents, don't want families of their own, etc - but I'm going to try my best! :)</p> <p>DH is less sure about a future 3rd baby, because he recognizes the stress it will put on our family in the early years, but he does want 3 older kids. It's just a game of give and take for now! You have to be willing to make some sacrifices :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1615467 Tue, 06 May 2014 08:38:24 +0000 MrsKoala 1615467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I'd be interested in a post on this. We're planning on two children with our minds open for the possibility of a third either biologically or adopted and I'm always interested in other's reasons for choosing to expand beyond two children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1615403 Tue, 06 May 2014 08:22:50 +0000 MamaBehr 1615403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have three, ages 4, 2, and 4 months. I love it! I found the leap from 1 to 2 kids was difficult, but the leap from 2 to 3 is easy. I can't say I've found my stride this time, because each baby is different and even though I've had a 4 month old I've never had a four month old with a 2 year old and a 4 year old. But, in general I'm use to splitting my attention, so adding a third doesn't make this any more difficult. I love watching my other two be big siblings to the baby and I think every sacrifice we have to make and have made is worth it! </p> <p>I'm even hoping I can talk DH into one more :) hahaha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1615261 Tue, 06 May 2014 07:30:34 +0000 Radish 1615261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want three for the prospect of more varied close relationships for everyone. I think it just enhances the family dynamic and I feel like it gives each of my kids an extra person in their corner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1615167 Tue, 06 May 2014 06:39:27 +0000 Pumuckl 1615167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: You should definitely do the post. I do believe there are quite a few people who have similar troubles/issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1614939 Mon, 05 May 2014 22:14:45 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1614939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kachang: Our solution was to not decide. If someone comes and asks us to place a child with us, we'll say yes and if an oops happens then we'll be happy... but nothing active. I think we're both fine with that decision.</p> <p>I was actually working on a blog post on this issue, but I figured no one would be interested and I haven't blogged in forever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1614847 Mon, 05 May 2014 21:16:44 +0000 T-Mom 1614847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kachang: ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1614834 Mon, 05 May 2014 21:11:03 +0000 Kachang 1614834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T-Mom: Thanks for your input, it was really helpful. I think our situations are kind of similar. And I never realized I had a wall before (not so active on HB, obviously). Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1614825 Mon, 05 May 2014 21:07:29 +0000 T-Mom 1614825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kachang: I wrote on your wall about how we made our decision but I can relate.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1614801 Mon, 05 May 2014 20:58:37 +0000 Kachang 1614801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ Mrs. Jacks - I just have one sister and my husband is one of three - I definitely think that factors into it. My husband isn't going to push hard for #3 - he realizes having another child is tougher for me and I do most of the household stuff. I don't have a huge desire for #3 like I did for #2, but I feel bad knowing that my husband really wants a third. And, if I woke up pregnant tomorrow, I wouldn't be sad about it. But, since the decision is almost entirely in my hands - I don't know what to do! Thanks for your input. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1614785 Mon, 05 May 2014 20:49:12 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1614785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You sound like us! Except I'm the one wanting three and my partner is less sure :). I come from a family of four, so two seems so quiet to me. But the last thing I want is to push for something that my husband doesn't want... Oh and I'm 42... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1614773 Mon, 05 May 2014 20:46:01 +0000 wonderstruck 1614773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know you said you're not looking for advice, but I absolutely would not make this decision based on the desire for more grandkids, help when you're old, extra person to care for your DD, etc. I don't think it's really fair to the child to have those kinds of expectations before they're even born - they could very well fall in love with a career or lifestyle that takes them to another part of the country or even the world, not want to have children, hate feeling burdened by people expecting them to be responsible for their sister's care, etc.</p> <p>I'm still pregnant with #2 so obviously I have some time to decide, but this will be a tough one for us. We both always thought we'd want two, but stuff has come up that has me doubting that decision. For the time being we've agreed to table it until we are done with the baby years, and see how we're doing financially and if we feel like starting over or are happy with just two. Although...ahh this is going to sound terrible and is probably just as questionable as your DH's reasons for wanting a third, but I don't think I'd be willing to try for another unless DH agreed to adoption or PGD for gender. I feel kind of awful typing that because I love my boys so much...but I've always wanted a daughter and having trouble imagining myself never experiencing the other end of a mother/daughter relationship, and that desire is definitely swaying me towards wanting a third. I know you were more looking for people who have made up their mind, but this is definitely something that's been on my mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-made-you-decide-to-go-for-baby-3#post-1614737 Mon, 05 May 2014 20:29:28 +0000 Kachang 1614737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to hear other folks' perspectives and stories. Apologies, I wrote a novel below. </p> <p>DH and I are at a bit of a standstill over Baby #3. DS is 3.5 years and DD is 18 months. DH has a demanding career which involves long hours and tons of travel. My career is slightly less demanding, but is certainly busy. I do the majority of household and kid stuff. Life right now is manageable. We are certainly busy and tired, but we are managing our careers and enjoying our family as well. </p> <p>DH wants #3 - he acknowledges that it would make life tougher for the next few years, but points out that these years (young kids who need you completely) are short. He is thinking ahead and thinks it will be nicer to have 3 children, more people at holidays, more potential grandchildren, more children to help us when we're older, etc. Also, DD has some health problems and he would like to know she has another sibling to help her in the future if she needs it. FWIW, our kids only have 2 first cousins. From a financial perspective, we could afford a 3rd. I'm in my late 30s, so I can't wait forever to make this decision. </p> <p>Anyway, I'd love to hear from anyone who was on the fence about #3 and decided for or against it. I worry about how crazy life would be with 3 kids, especially since my husband works so much. But, I know that I would love #3 as much as my first 2. BTW, I'm not asking you guys to help me decide - I realize that's what it sounds like. I really just don't know what to do and would love to hear from other people, especially couples who disagreed about whether to have #3 and how they resolved that. And how things turned out. Thanks for reading! </p>