https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 09:33:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-28028 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 13:29:18 +0000 Shutterbug 28028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: I agree, I had no idea that so many women have had miscarriages. It's so sad that people feel they can't be more open about it in real life - all these women must feel so alone, when really they aren't alone at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-28021 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 13:12:23 +0000 cyndistar3 28021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tejbee: don't worry too much, I can tell you it doesn't always take a long time :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-28018 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 13:08:35 +0000 Mrs. Louboutin 28018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had no idea it would be so fast to get pregnant after finding out you can only conceive a couple days each month. We were going to start tracking everything in July with an ovulation predictor kit and just based on taking my temperature when I remembered each morning randomly tried in June and got pregnant. It was a bit of a shock, albeit a good one. I also couldn't believe how different my pregnancy could be from y mother's. It took her forever to get pregnant and then had the easiest pregnancies. I got pregnant practically from my husband looking at me and it had been a long, arduous 6.5 months so far. Horrendous morning sickness for 4 months almost to the point of hospitalization, failing thyroid tests, glucose tests, etc. I feel like being pregnant is a marathon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-28000 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 12:48:46 +0000 plantains 28000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: Exactly, in fact every month that isn't February has more than 4 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-27997 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 12:47:58 +0000 plantains 27997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, until I started reading baby boards I had no idea just how many women suffer miscarriages. It is heartbreaking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-27986 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 12:39:23 +0000 Mrs.VW 27986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have to say that I naively assumed it would be easy. I secretly hoped for a BFP the first month but now we're on to month 4 of really good timing. Hopefully this is our month! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-27975 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 12:24:09 +0000 Mrsbells 27975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>40 weeks is still 9 months though, not ten months. Some months have more than 4 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-27974 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 12:21:06 +0000 MK0180 27974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello, this is my first post on these boards... been lurking for a while but as we are getting into our 3rd month of TTC I know I will be around. I didn't realize how much certain symptoms could be so much like pregnancy symptoms. First month off BCP I was convinced I was pregnant (exhaustion, nausea, sore boobs, etc) but that it was just a side effect coming off the pill. And that every month after that my symptoms before AF are very similar to pregnancy symptoms. I wasn't expecting a miracle the first time around but it's hard not to get your hopes up after the TWW. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-27559 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 20:26:57 +0000 mynoahbear 27559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also didn't think it would take so long. I didn't realize all the preparing you do like taking BBT daily and charting all the work involved. I remember always hearing people say they got pregnant and it was a total surprise, that it was completely unplanned. I thought because of hearing such things, it would be super easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-27490 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 16:52:05 +0000 cyneswith 27490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That I'd be sane and reasonable during TTC, not taking tests until my period is late... Yeah. That's not happening this time around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-27470 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 16:01:16 +0000 Rosie Girl 27470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How you can try everything, and still not get pregnant. How infertility treatments don't guarantee a pregnancy (I knew that, but didn't realize it would take so long with them, maybe a cycle or two). How emotional it can be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-27371 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 11:28:26 +0000 tejbee 27371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*sigh* we'll just have to do it to it and see what happens. We're not jaded yet...pure innocent idealistic optimism over here! heh </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-27365 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 11:17:25 +0000 carrieknitscake 27365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tejbee: Some couples are very fortunate enough to get a sticky BFP right away. I honestly went into TTC thinking it would be easy. I've learned otherwise since. I only found out recently that it took my brother and SIL some time to conceive their kids. I was under the impression that they were first tries. </p> <p>I know one couple where both of their kids (expecting second right now) were first tries. They're considered extremely rare in TTC in general. If anything, in the past four months, I've learned which techniques work better for us and which don't. This was our first cycle lubricant free. I also didn't take Mucinex since I didn't think it was doing anything for my CM. It's a learning process and some of us conceive faster than others. You can be in tip top shape and still take months to conceive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-27337 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 09:40:15 +0000 tejbee 27337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You bees are worrying me. DH and I are planning on TTC this month. We're just planning/expecting our LO to stick first try. Of course I understand it might not work out that way right off the bat, but listening to you girls makes me want to stick my fingers in my ears and go La-La-La-La...haha :[ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-12045 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 22:47:00 +0000 cyndistar3 12045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also had no idea it didn't just take one time of having unprotected sex to produce a child and that there was only a small window of time that you could. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-12043 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 22:43:33 +0000 Aandmklover 12043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never knew that you could get so down about yourself. I am so frustrated with my body and wonder why it's not doing what's built for. Grrrr... And you feel like you are so alone because you don't want to tell a ton of people that you are trying because all they do is ask questions and if another person asks about being pregnant the day I start my peroid I may.... (cry, slap them, walk away, flip them off) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-11427 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 10:01:31 +0000 Mrsbells 11427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never know that pregnancy is calculate from the 1st day of your l ast period. That really confused me, So the 1st 2 weeks of pregnancy you arent actually pregnant at all. I still dont really get it, I just accepted it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-11405 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 09:26:35 +0000 Muffin 11405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone also! The few days, the life span of sperm, the CM, basically the whole process! I thought you had unprotected sex and you would eventually become pregnant, not all the science behind it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-11242 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 20:46:03 +0000 carrieknitscake 11242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely didn't know that it would take a long time since I know so many first cyclers. I didn't know how emotional it would be when you got your period when you don't want it. I also didn't know the number of techniques out there to encourage pregnancy like baby aspirin, Instead cups, Mucinex, etc. The longer it takes, the more I find these techniques and am willing to try them. I didn't think that I would take recent pregnancy announcements so hard. Yeah, it's been a hard journey thus far. I just want my BFP and a baby in my arms in 2012. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-11230 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 20:39:40 +0000 Mrs. Oyster 11230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everything everyone's said so far. No idea it was this difficult. No idea how slim of a chance you actually have every month. No idea how obsessed I would become about it in such a short time. Also - no idea there were so many women out there having a hard time getting pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-11188 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 19:55:43 +0000 Sunshine1810 11188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with a lot of other people on here...I had no idea that it would actually be difficult! It's silly but I guess I just thought it would happen right away and that I wouldn't have any problems. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-11148 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 19:24:00 +0000 Mrs. D 11148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought it would take at least a few months until my body would be used to being off the pill. I didn't really expect to get pregnant the second cycle off! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-2775 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 21:55:53 +0000 Pepper 2775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely didn't realize it wasn't so easy to get pregnant (cycle 5 over here)! I had no idea about CM. Noooo idea what it was or why I had it! Also, had no idea how thought consuming this whole process is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-2716 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 16:50:18 +0000 PBandBaseball 2716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think everything that has been mentioned above was surprising. I agree that the idea that you're considered 2 weeks pregnant before you ovulate is very strange! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-2711 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 16:34:18 +0000 howjoyful 2711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much everything you ladies have mention and more each day we research, I am so thankful for all the information available and kind of scare to realize how many complications and things can go wrong =[ We only decided this month we are going to TTC once we are together again (2 more months) So there is still time for some more research =] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-2672 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 14:45:13 +0000 Iiamsn01 2672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly? everything you mentioned plus more. We already have my daughter who is 2 and we are trying for the next one. I didn't know it was so hard! we got prego by surprise last time. I really had no idea the work I would have to do when I actually put in some effort. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-2537 Wed, 05 Oct 2011 16:50:43 +0000 HabesBabe 2537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babychin-- omg, i couldn't imagine being any of those women! one of my friends is a L&amp;D nurse and she told me about a woman whose baby died right after birth, and there was no indication they would have any problems. i couldn't imagine being excited for the past 9+ months, getting to the hospital, and coming home without a baby :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-2531 Wed, 05 Oct 2011 15:25:22 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto everyone else - I had no idea we only had a few "fertile days" in the month (agree it's a scare tactic), no idea sperm could live 4-5 days and how difficult it is to get pregnant/achieve a healthy pregnancy...</p> <p>Just this year alone I know several women who had miscarriages, someone whose baby died the DAY it was born (soo sad...), someone whose baby was born 2 months early at 2 lbs 4 oz with a coarctation of the heart... :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-2353 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 19:03:27 +0000 geekinheels 2353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with everyone else — I had no idea that it could be so difficult to get pregnant, how common complications/miscarriages are, and that you *can't* get pregnant just from having unprotected sex (thanks, 6th grade health class!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-misconceptions-did-you-have-about-ttc#post-2343 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 15:56:54 +0000 elouise 2343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Similar to others, I didn't realize how long it could take and how common (or so it seems to me) that problems/miscarriages can happen/arise. </p>