https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 05:45:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-constitutes-trying#post-1283170 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 22:21:17 +0000 sandy 1283170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: good to know! If we don't get pregnant this cycle I will make sure to BD a few times after O day </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-constitutes-trying#post-1283114 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 21:40:02 +0000 sarac 1283114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was cycling on clomid, I got pregnant the cycle that I stopped stressing about having sex every day or more. Unless you know you're working with a sperm quality/quantity issue, I wouldn't sweat frequency too much. At least not for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-constitutes-trying#post-1282774 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 17:35:15 +0000 mlm2934 1282774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3-5 times around O is plenty to constitute trying!! I will say that for me, I don't temp and just use OPKs and CM, and the month we got pregnant this time was the one month that we had sex a few days past when I thought I ovulated. I thought I ovulated around Wed, but based on the baby's size, it lines up to me actually ovulating on Sat, so I think that one extra time we had sex was "the one". The previous months I was exhausted from BD by time I got positive OPK and would stop cold for nearly the whole TWW. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-constitutes-trying#post-1282717 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 16:18:17 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1282717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't been DTD on the two-three days FF estimates we shoyld. I only track AF, no charting, so I may not really ovulate acxording to FF. Either way, we are NTNP- more NT than anythibg else. Until my husband makes a more actionable connitnent to TTC, I'm not going to sweat it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-constitutes-trying#post-1282693 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 15:56:42 +0000 Torchwood 1282693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We try for EOD starting when AF stops. We try to step it up to every day when I get to around CD13, since that's roughly when I O. I don't temp or use opk's, so I don't know exactly. Though to be honest, DH always gets super excited about lots of BDing at the beginning, but by the time we get to O (all of a week, so not long) he's complaining that he doesn't want to. It's really frustrating. I told him AF hadn't stopped when it had this time, to delay the start, so maybe he'd be less "tired" by the time O came. But now his back is hurting, so nothing yesterday. </p> <p>When you say "around O," what do you mean? 3 is a lot if you mean just O day or maybe the day before. 3 is fairly little if you mean the whole week preceding or something. </p> <p>FWIW, the first bfp I got, we managed to BD all of twice the entire month, and neither were as close to O as I'd hoped. So when they say it only takes once, it's definitely true at least sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-constitutes-trying#post-1282690 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 15:53:26 +0000 mrs. 64 1282690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that hitting the fertile period at least once constitutes trying. You at least have a chance. We aim for 2-3 during that period, but sometimes it doesn't happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-constitutes-trying#post-1282685 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 15:48:23 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1282685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 times during the fertile period is considered a good month for us. We shoot for EOD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-constitutes-trying#post-1282658 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 15:08:29 +0000 LindsayInNY 1282658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We stick with an EOD schedule once I start OPKs (CD15 since I O late). I typically get a +OPK around CD19-20 so we try for ED around then. After a year of TTC, we don't want to look back and think "if only we did one more time" so we try to cover all our bases! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-constitutes-trying#post-1282655 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 15:07:10 +0000 MamaMoose 1282655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did two days of sex, one day off, repeat so about 4 or 5 time around O. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-constitutes-trying#post-1282626 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 14:39:22 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1282626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After looking back through my Fertility Friend records, I noticed that many months we've been "trying," we only had sex 1-3 times during the period of ovulation (about 5-6 days near O). There was one month we BD 4 times and one 5 times, but the others were no more than 3. Do you think we need to step it up? How often are you having sex around O? </p>