https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 02:18:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-822032 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:24:15 +0000 littlek 822032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TheSwissWifeStyle: I know crazy!!</p> <p>I didn't get a cell phone until I started working. I see kids with cell phones and it scares the heck out of me how common they will be when B is old enough to have one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-822030 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:23:56 +0000 littlek 822030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TheSwissWifeStyle: I know crazy!!</p> <p>I didn't get a cell phone until I started working. I see kids with cell phones and it scares the heck ou </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-822024 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:22:22 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 822024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow this is scary. About how the girl who didnt have a smartphone got excluded...? Um, what happened to talking to friends in the hall?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821968 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:01:38 +0000 Pepper 821968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: Wow, good point! The yearbook thing especially, since I never played sports ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821960 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:59:15 +0000 runsyellowlites 821960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pepper: "I can't think of anything that compares in my childhood."</p> <p>Getting people to sign your yearbook or cheer for you when your number is called for a rally or game... to name just a couple. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821951 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:56:17 +0000 Pepper 821951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, that is a crazy amount of dependency on social media! It's funny though, because I can see the obvious differences between my middle school years and her life, but also the similarities. We didnt have group chats on iphones (i didnt even have a cell phone til I was 15 or 16), but we had notebooks that we'd write messages in to each other, and pass around through our group of friends. We also used AIM religiously! I didn't have a tumblr, but I had a Geocities webpage, haha. I graduated HS in 2003, just to give a frame of reference. </p> <p>I think the big red flag is the way that popularity and social interactions are guiding their activities on these sites. Facebook "likes" as a way to boost self esteem is just sad, and I can't think of anything that compares in my childhood. I always said I'm glad that Facebook wasn't around when I was in middle school and high school! Hopefully it will be long gone by the time our LO enters school... though I'm sure something equally as popular/annoying will emerge in the coming years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821935 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:51:18 +0000 pregnantbee 821935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm exhausted just reading this. Sometimes I feel the same way, though! It's sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821919 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:45:37 +0000 birdofafeather 821919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I started seeing this two years ago when I was volunteering with HS freshmen. I was surprised. I think the sad thing that PPs mentioned is that this exclusion kinda thing is always around but now it's so accessible. I hope to instill in my daughter that likes on photos don't mean anything, but its hard. My friend has a 13 yo step daughter and she's navigating this now. Way different than when we were kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821908 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:42:54 +0000 sera_87 821908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She sounds just plain RUDE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821898 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:39:44 +0000 runsyellowlites 821898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: Really though I thought this was going to be about things like sexting &amp; the graphic/vulgar things that accessible to our youth on their phones! Cue age 13 parental restriction settings... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821894 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:37:36 +0000 Freckles 821894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, this makes me so ill. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821830 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:18:38 +0000 ladyfingers 821830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: Oh, I know I wouldn't have! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821825 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:17:58 +0000 runsyellowlites 821825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: I'm forever thankful I was before social media exploded! I don't think I could've survived cyber bullying &amp; competition! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821818 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:16:19 +0000 Koolbreeze 821818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! That shocked me. Leaving your friends out because they don't have an iPhone? Really?! Competition for who gets the most likes? Sad. </p> <p>If this had been the case when I was 14 (not that long ago, I'm young) I would have had no friends! Lol. My dad told me if I wanted a phone I could buy it myself. I was the only person in my group of friends with no cell, I lived.</p> <p>My SO and I agree our children will not get their own cell or computer (possibly a tv too, depends) until they're much older. And we will limit their useage and pay attention to what they're doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821792 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:10:22 +0000 Adira 821792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, this freaks me out. I really don't want my children to become addicted to their phones (or other pieces of technology like this), but I'm not sure how I can prevent it, except by not letting them have it, haha. But I also don't want to make them miserable by having them be left out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821783 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:08:23 +0000 stargal 821783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: ya it does seem like she knows its crazy but is addicted to it anyways... I think too, its just SO normal to see EVERYONE (parents, peers) on their phones all the time so maybe it becomes second nature to people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821770 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:05:00 +0000 ladyfingers 821770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stargal: The sad thing is it seems like she even realizes that is ridiculous, but can't help but be sucked into it anyway. It's like nobody can think for themselves anymore because of what might happen to them socially if they do.</p> <p>ETA not that that's new among the middle and high school set... but I feel like the repercussions are so much more severe today than they were when I was that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821767 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:04:25 +0000 lilteacherbee 821767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So crazy. My little cousin (11 years old) has an iPhone. He has had some sort of phone since he was 8 (usually a smartphone). He has absolutely no restrictions on what he can do on it. He is OBSESSED. He lives next door to my mom, so he's over there a lot and as soon as I walk in the door, he's shoving his phone in my face showing me some new app, song, picture, etc.</p> <p>The sad thing is that he's been held back twice, so he'll be turning 12 in the 4th grade next year. His parents blame it on the school, his teachers, etc, yet they let him play on the phone ALL THE TIME. He seriously wanted to bring it into our grandfather's funeral in April and I almost went off. If you try to bring up school, he says "I dont talk about school." My sister and I are both teachers, so we could help him, but he refuses (and his parents let him do whatever he wants). He's obsessed with technology to the point that it makes me mad to be around him, which is sad. I'm scared to think about what he will be like in a few years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821765 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:04:17 +0000 ladyfingers 821765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: That's a good point about verbal communication. I feel like so much nuance gets lost in electronic communication, and that can't have a very positive effect on a generation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821763 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:03:13 +0000 stargal 821763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that was scary to read. im sorry but i would be SO dissapointed if my kid turned out to be like that, mean i know. but the phone is the center of your universe, you exclude people who dont have iphones... sad to see. you base popularity on how many likes you get. i know these kids are young but cant we expect better out of them?!?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821762 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:03:03 +0000 runsyellowlites 821762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: I totally understand the "likes" concern! There are so many things that our youth base their identity &amp; worth in, I hate it!</p> <p>ETA: It's really always been like that though with the excluded, etc.... this is just the new avenue of it. =( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821759 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:02:22 +0000 mediagirl 821759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband sent me this article. It is frightening. We are going to do our best to teach verbal communication and how important it is to our daughter. The whole phone thing scares me. I don't know when she will get one but it certainly won't be anytime soon.</p> <p>ETA: Oh and we will monitor her usage, this girl sounds a bit out of control. Our daughter will not have access to her phone after bedtime. Those hours she said she was up until texting? No. Sorry. You will find other, better quality friends if your friends are going to exclude you b/c you can't chat with them on your phone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821755 Fri, 31 May 2013 11:00:51 +0000 ladyfingers 821755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: I think what scared me most was the idea of all the Facebook likes, and the friends being excluded just because they have no iPhones -- like they can't even conceive of another way to include a friend in things. It's so bizarre!</p> <p>@mrbee: I can totally relate to her *need* to get on Facebook, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821739 Fri, 31 May 2013 10:55:59 +0000 mrbee 821739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The scary thing is that that doesn't even sound that unusual to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821734 Fri, 31 May 2013 10:54:47 +0000 runsyellowlites 821734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's pretty crazy how different it is than when we were growing up!</p> <p>DS won't have any social networking apps on his phone b/c he'll have the same age restrictions that DH has on his..... 13 &amp; he won't have the safari app available either. Of course this is for different reasons than being a social media addict, but it should help curb his use. We still haven't decided when he'll be getting a phone but it likely will be after or around driving age, mainly so that he'll have a way to reached/be reached in case of emergency... this will be the same for P &amp; our future children as well (atleast at this point as technology *is* ever changing).</p> <p>What I really thought this article was about is MUCH worse, so I wasn't quite as off put at the idea that they just are out of control with excessive use... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-really-happens-on-a-teen-girls-iphone#post-821691 Fri, 31 May 2013 10:43:42 +0000 ladyfingers 821691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is sort of terrifying.</p> <p><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/23/teen-iphone_n_3322095.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/23/teen-iphone_n_3322095.html</a></p> <p>I feel like it's worse for a girl, but it still makes me very worried for how different our son's social landscape will be compared with what ours was like.</p> <p>Thoughts on this article? </p>