https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 02:03:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-638484 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 02:02:03 +0000 Boogs 638484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually got so sick of pregnancy questions, so I was always happy to get other questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-638458 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 00:50:59 +0000 autumn865 638458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the "can I help you with..." Especially in later pregnancy everyday tasks were really hard. Asking for help sometimes made me feel like an invalid but being offered help was just nice. I remember being 30 something weeks and struggling to get a case of water in my shopping cart. No one around me offered to help and I felt so frustrated and clumsy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-638302 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 21:26:27 +0000 pastemoo 638302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Well aren't you beautiful today?"</p> <p>:P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-632610 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 02:53:51 +0000 immabeetoo 632610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How is your day? </p> <p>I was sick of talking about being pregnant,period, so having the option it to would've been nice sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-632600 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 02:32:14 +0000 tororojo 632600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you manage to look so great while being pregnant? ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-632440 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 22:07:32 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 632440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A co-worker asked me the other day how the baby was doing. I thought that was super nice considering I usually get "How is pregnancy". Both those questions get two different answers. It also felt good to hear somebody other than Mr. Hedgie ask about our BABY vs the process of making the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-632430 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 22:02:27 +0000 maybebaby 632430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One thing I love is when people remember that in addition to being pregnant, I am also still just me--so asking about my life outside of pregnancy (school, work, husband, etc.) is always nice! Specifically pregnancy related, however, I agree with what's already been said! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-632412 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 21:53:30 +0000 theRoo 632412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even "what's your due date?" can have its pitfalls...by the time I was answering "two weeks ago!" I was getting some grim amusement out of the whole situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631534 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 15:52:15 +0000 rachiecakes 631534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631528 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 15:51:09 +0000 Mrs. Pen 631528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I don't think people in general know how far along you can find out gender. I didn't until I got pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631498 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 15:43:32 +0000 Mrs. Pen 631498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: I don't think people mind the honesty though, especially when it's a fellow mama asking! They sympathize :)</p> <p>I think some women get sick of EDD/gender/names etc just because they're redundant - but it's fine to ask! Honestly I might have felt it was "off" if someone didn't ask anything at all for fear or saying the wrong thing than asking redundant questions :)</p> <p>- EDD<br /> - Gender/team green<br /> - how do you feel?<br /> - Have you chosen names? are you sharing them? (I don't ask WHAT the names are, just if they have any ideas)<br /> - are you putting together the nursery?<br /> - where are you delivering?</p> <p>For later on:<br /> - how was your shower?<br /> - did you get what you needed?<br /> - are you nervous?<br /> - can I bring you a meal?</p> <p>I HATE the question "do you need anything?" Or "if you need something, just ask!" because it's extremely vague. This coming from people I'm not comfortable asking *anything* (what I REALLY needed was someone to clean my house, do laundry and cook... but I didn't want them to feel pressured to). Instead - if you REALLY want to help - ask if you can do those tasks! </p> <p>"Can I bring you a meal?"<br /> "Are there any housekeeping chores I could help you with?"<br /> even monotonous things like loading/unloading the<br /> dishwasher were hard in my third tri because of the bending<br /> over<br /> can I shovel your walk way? mow your lawn? etc..</p> <p>Hope that helps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631462 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 15:35:48 +0000 .twist. 631462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BKCaribBaby: haha! I sometimes undo my jacket, but I still don't think I'm big enough for people to notice yet! haha damn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631424 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 15:25:39 +0000 BKCaribBaby 631424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I specifically got the winter coat that I did so that people could see my belly while walking/riding the subway. It works...well, most of the time. :) </p> <p>Would you like my seat?<br /> I think this will be my treat. :) (I've gotten two free lunches this past week from friends/colleagues)<br /> These two usually bring a smile to my face. </p> <p>I know I used to ask the "how are you feeling?" as well, but I prefaced it with telling people that I was sure that they were getting that question a lot.</p> <p>In general, depending on who it is, I appreciate regular conversation. I'll be talking and thinking about this little person all the time quite soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631377 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 15:08:46 +0000 Sweet T 631377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can't go wrong if you lead with a compliment. I appreciated hearing "you look great" or "you look beautiful," especially since there were days where I just felt huge and not great. I didn't mind the due date or gender questions so I consider those safe. However, most people don't know to quit while they're ahead. I constantly got "when are you due?" It was usually followed by "oh! You won't make it to your due date!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631239 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 14:44:13 +0000 yoursilverlining 631239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@betsyboop: I agree about finding "how are you feeling?" annoying. I always wanted to say "how do I feel? Well, I've been puking for months on end, so pretty much like total crap! You?" But you just have to lie and say "great, thanks!" and hope 57 other people don't ask you the same thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631224 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 14:41:59 +0000 Foodnerd81 631224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Yes- about the 'how are you feeling' in the 2nd trimester. I didn't want to gloss over everything, so I would say something like, A lot better, much less nauseous. Like-- I suffered through the 3 months, I'm not pretending I didn't! </p> <p>And yeah, the boy or girl question, when I wasn't showing at all, I was like, um... how far do you think I am? Do I look fat?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631189 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 14:36:40 +0000 Maysprout 631189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha probably the most offended I was was when we told one of our friends I was pregnant and all she said 'oh'.</p> <p>I wouldn't worry about asking repetitive questions, it's normal for people to want to know when you're due, if you're finding out it's a boy or girl, etc. I had so many people tell me negative things about parenthood during my pregnancy that when I find out someone is now I usually make a comment about how fascinating it is to watch them acquire all their new skills or something positive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631067 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 14:05:44 +0000 betsyboop 631067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally found the "How are you feeling?" question annoying because I always had to lie and say "Great!". The times when I was honest, I just felt like I was whining, and I didn't want to be like that with acquaintances and more casual friends. I think "You look great" is fine, and I didn't mind the due date or boy/girl questions either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631052 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 14:01:34 +0000 mrbee 631052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've learned to say nothing, other than "you look great!" There's not a lot of upside to saying anything... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631032 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 13:55:54 +0000 littlek 631032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's hard to think of things to say, because a lot of things got annoying to hear when I was pregnant. I think it's hormones. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-631025 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 13:54:16 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 631025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it's a funny question because like @Anagram, I felt silly being asked how I was feeling 30 times a day, especially since it was after the 1st trimester and I was...fine. Plus most people don't want to hear about your heartburn or discomfort.... I would say just chat as per usual, unless you know a person well enough to ask big preg. related questions and know they would be comfortable giving you honest answers... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-630999 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 13:48:28 +0000 Grace 630999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I think it might be a crap-shoot. I haven't been offended by anything that people have asked me. Even things that I know would annoy other women just make me laugh. It's almost a catch-22, like you said: you don't want to offend, but you don't want to sound uninterested. And for me, I try to keep baby/pregnancy talk down, because I don't want to bore anyone by talking about it too much. Maybe you'll have to do it on a case-by-case basis. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-630990 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 13:46:25 +0000 JoJoGirl 630990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah please start every conversation with "you look great!" or "you're so tiny!". haha. Other than that although we hear it every day, I do think "how are you feeling" is appreciated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-630986 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 13:44:34 +0000 ladyfingers 630986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Can I buy you a milkshake?" Was one I always appreciated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-630968 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 13:40:08 +0000 Mrsbells 630968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally i prefer no questions. Just treat me as you would if i wasnt pregnant. I got tired of constantly being asked about it towards the end </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-630967 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 13:39:55 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 630967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: lol I hated the glowin thing too</p> <p>I was pregnant in the summer and so hot and uncomfortable and fat and sweaty. I usually rolled my eyes and said "I think you're confusing the glow with my sweat!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-630961 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 13:36:39 +0000 Anagram 630961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hmm..... first a disclaimer: I haven't actually been offended by anything anyone has said to me (so far--but I'm only 21 weeks).</p> <p>BUT....it's strange that now I have about 11 coworkers per day ask me how I'm feeling. Like, NOW, in the second tri, I feel fine. But in the first tri, before anyone knew, I felt like total crap every single day because of my morning sickness and no one knew, and therefore no one asked (or noticed) then. lol</p> <p>So now, I'm just like, "great!", "fine!", "good!", etc. It's just interesting. They probably all think I've had a very eassssy pregnancy (I would say I have not). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-630526 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:31:31 +0000 Modern Daisy 630526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind "How are you feeling" and "When are you due". I'm getting annoyed with "Boy or girl?" because 1) it's still too early to tell and 2) When I find out I won't be sharing with the world until my shower this summer. </p> <p>I totally agree with "Would you like my seat" and "Can I carry that for you" as being acceptable as well! Especially in this city where everyone takes the subway and I have no car so have to carry everything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-630478 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:19:21 +0000 .twist. 630478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: haha! I'm waiting for this one too! Winter coats really hinder any belly visibility so even if I get frustrated with people, it's no their fault because they can't see that I am indeed pregnant! </p> <p>How far along are you, what gender, how are you feeling are fine questions and I don't mind talking about any of them! </p> <p>that you look good is nice to hear also! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-ask-pregnant-women#post-630454 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:12:15 +0000 Foodnerd81 630454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: Hahaha-- YES! Can I carry that for you? would also be nice! </p>