https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 22:49:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413267 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:42:31 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2413267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Tiger: there are days when there are bags outside for 5 or 6 kids so it's not just him, but he's by far the most. I'm thinking of going the compassionate route too and maybe taking in a. Pic of him at birth etc. That's not necessarily why he's not trained but it might give them enough of a reason to be more patient with him.</p> <p>@daniellemybelle: he's never been fully trained, so accident days are more frequent than non accident days. But he's really close to having the control down, before he didn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413263 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:40:06 +0000 hellobeeboston 2413263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: wow that's pretty intense. My LO turned 3 in October and he is no where near ready. I'm not going to force it (also new baby in the house).... No real advice, i would be annoyed but I probably wouldn't change schools at the end of the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413229 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:14:31 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2413229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't even bother training K until he was 37m and have no plans to try to train D before 3.5. I see policies like your schools or ones that require 2-2.5yo to be fully trained and I just can't understand it. </p> <p>In your situation I'd get the doc note and see how that process goes, but I might also try to peek in and ensure they aren't scolding him or shaming him for having accidents. If he's the only one in his group that is, I might be concerned about what that will mean for him socially also. K's class of 3-almost 4yo's had pretty frequent accidents, one day we got sent home the wrong dirty clothes since they got confused! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413193 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 17:46:08 +0000 daniellemybelle 2413193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be upset to hear about any teachers being frustrated with my LO too :( That definitely will not help the situation.</p> <p>How long has he been having accidents? I know newly 3 is young/average for boys with potty training but I feel like once they are trained accidents - while they happen! - should not be frequent. I'm wondering if school is almost making the accidents worse in some way. Can they take him more frequently? Prompt him differently? Reward/praise him differently?</p> <p>If this were me I would probably take a break from school and do a potty training refresher/boot camp. But we used the OCPT method (successfully at 22 months) which is not a "gradual" potty training style. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413060 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 16:15:17 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2413060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: I don't mind getting he dr note, already called for an appt.<br /> @mrsjazz: I get it too! But all do the kids have accidents. I feel like they should maybe have better training or something. So I'm more than willing to work with them, I just feel in such an awkward spot...and aready did before too. Plenty of kids younger than him are 100% trained. </p> <p>And I'm not sure what their procedures are for communicating policies like "what works with Dylan." I've communicated extensively with the director and a couple of teachers, but not others. The place is open from 7-6, so I don't really think they have any totally all-staff meetings except on professional development days 2x per year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413048 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 16:10:03 +0000 Greentea 2413048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I taught 4K and kids had accidents. One had one everyday! My school was private and very gentle (for lack of a better word?)</p> <p>3 is pretty young. I don't really have any advice, but I feel for you! How does he feel about it? Or maybe you can't tell. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413035 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 16:02:24 +0000 mrsjazz 2413035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our school has the same requirements though they are more lenient than your school because there are still a few kids in pullups in LOs class. I can see both sides to this. He's not ready and this is completely normal. The school has a policy and it could be frustrating to constantly deal with accidents when the policy is fully potty trained. Can you work with the school/teachers on a joint potty training protocol so that you're using similar methods? He needs praise and patience. Do the dr. evaluation just to show you're trying. I wouldn't switch unless they don't agree on using similar potty training tactics. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413028 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 15:59:30 +0000 lemondrop 2413028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And with the lack of education or patience- it may really benefit everyone to have a solid plan for him. If it were me, I'd take full advantage of the special needs status she is willing to give and plan out how you want it to go. Yes, it's annoying to have to get that doctor's note, but if you can use that to keep things at a constant routine for him and keeping it a good experience, it would be totally worth it to me given the challenges we went through in potty training. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413022 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 15:56:53 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2413022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's maybe what a Dr note would provide. A medical expert saying that this is his "normal". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413017 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 15:54:22 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2413017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: thanks that is a good point, switching might disrupt everything more. I just feel like they aren't educated enough on what is normal maybe? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2413014 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 15:52:59 +0000 lemondrop 2413014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine was in no way potty trained until well after 3.5 and still has had some regressions until much closer to 4. It took ridiculous amounts of praise both on our parts and the school's parts to get him through the most recent bout. It also took bringing in treat rewards at home for the poop since that was our biggest issue and he is very candy motivated despite his communication challenges. </p> <p>It is frustrating when someone has an issue with your baby and I totally get living in dread over when the next incident is going to happen. Being that you otherwise like the school, I'd jump through the hoops and meet them halfway since switching schools could be more disruptive for him. Hang in there :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-preschool-issue#post-2412982 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 15:34:59 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2412982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty upset. My 3 y/o started preschool in August. The school had a policy that you have to be potty trained before attending. I was totally upfront with them that I was starting in July and throughout the past months, we continue to discuss his progress.</p> <p>Today I got a call from the director that some teachers are frustrated because he's still having accidents. (Not daily, but close to it. But has made tons of progress. This is the first week back after 10 day break.) She basically said she understands and is fine with his current potty behaviors, but needs to show the staff that she's doing something since it's a policy so she wants me to get a doctor eval. She's basically going to call this a special needs situation. It's stupid, but I'm even okay with that. (He's a micropreemie, turned 3 in October, actual due date, Jan 17...so in a week or two. So he's right normal with average boys ok potty training.)</p> <p>What mostly bothers me is that anyone at all is frustrated with my son, that they could be demonstrating this him in some way and that they will cause a fight with potty trying and it'll never fully happen. </p> <p>So on the one hand, I can get the doc eval, meet with the teachers (there are 14 - 1 is always just on bathroom duty), have a specific policy for how to help Dylan with potty training to keep it on track and positive,</p> <p>Or I can find a new school.</p> <p>Overall I really love this school and imagined him being here for the next 3 years.</p> <p>Advice please?? </p>