https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 15:38:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-where-to-start-sleep-hell#post-1533374 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 00:07:09 +0000 MrsLilybugg 1533374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs. As I write this post LO is asleep next to me and keeps squirming around trying to feel for me. (She just landed on my arm and fell back asleep.) you are definitely not a crap mom or wife. You're a great mom that has put her baby's comfort over her own. I never planned on co-bedding but starting at around 6 or 7 months her sleeps in the PnP (also next to my bed) got shorter and shorter. It used to be that she'd sleep there all night and I'd have her sleep on me in the morning , then eventually she's start in PnP but cried at 4 am and I'd just bring her in bed with me , etc, and now I've just given up and just bring her in all night mostly. I'm not sure how to answer your questions because I don't know much about sleep training. But you're doijg great mama- right now she seeks your comfort and you're providing it. That definitely doesn't make you bad! And you're not alone :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-where-to-start-sleep-hell#post-1533372 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 00:05:08 +0000 immabeetoo 1533372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not a crap mom! It's so hard when you're tired. I try to wait 3 days before deciding anything isn't just a short phase. There are lots of different 'methods' of sleep training - we did no cry sleep solution and had great success around that age, you can search for posts on it. Good luck mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-where-to-start-sleep-hell#post-1533371 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 00:03:17 +0000 lady grey 1533371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just do whatever you need to do to make it through until you can start sleep training with DH's help. Co sleep if thats how you can get any sleep. We used The Sleep Easy Solution book for sleep training and it worked really well for my LO. Don't do it alone if possible, the crying is so hard on mom. I even recommend moms leave the house and take a walk for the first 30 minutes after putting LO down awake and let DH listen to the crying, as it doesn't effect them the same way. My son stopped crying at night in 3 days! Naps took longer... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-where-to-start-sleep-hell#post-1533330 Sun, 30 Mar 2014 23:21:39 +0000 LovelyPlum 1533330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know nothing about sleep training or baby sleep, but I promise, you're not a crap mom or a crap wife. You're tired and stressed and this sucks. Just wanted to send you some hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-to-do-where-to-start-sleep-hell#post-1533327 Sun, 30 Mar 2014 23:18:56 +0000 singingbee 1533327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm currently typing this in the dark, with a sleeping baby on my chest because she won't stay asleep when we put her down. Lo is almost 6 months--one week away. </p> <p>Our usual routine:</p> <p>Bath, lotion, pjs, sing/read books, sleep sack, and then nurse. She usually nursed to sleep. Wasn't a problem because she stayed asleep through the transfer. She sleeps in a pack and play in our room. Well, then she got croup--slept for 7 days in our arms because of fever and coughing fits. Slept in her pnp Tuesday-Friday, then we went to my parents' house for spring break. Slept 6 hours straight in that pnp. Then went to a resort with the family and slept okay the first night, then lost it the next three nights. We ended up cobedding (just mom and daughter because dad was working out of town) and she slept. Came home, slept decently once we got back past the first sleep cycle. We went to our other place, where dh stays when he is working, and sleep was horrible. Like, up every hour screaming when she woke up. Everything. Look the next morning and she has her two bottom teeth cutting through. So, thinking that explains it. Get her some Motrin and Tylenol. Thinks everything will be okay. She is laying in the bed next to me now, touching me to make sure I don't move away. </p> <p>I feel like a crap mom because she wants to be near me, but I don't want to co-bed. I did it out of desperation on vacation, but I'm too worried to do it now. </p> <p>I feel like a crap mom because she is crying. Am I making her teeth worse? Will she remember this? Did I cause this by nursing her to sleep? </p> <p>I feel like a crap wife because I'm so sleep deprived I snap at him and I resent the fact that he can't nurse her. She will take a bottle, but will always nurse afterwards unless she is at her sitter's. </p> <p>Then I know there is a lot going on developmentally. </p> <p>We are going to sleep train the next time dh is off so we both can do it. I just don't know how to get through it until then. Do I make it worse and just hold her? Do I let her cry? I'm so upset. </p> <p>**sorry this is like the LONGEST post ever. :( </p>