https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 10:55:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition/page/2#post-2061921 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 06:50:23 +0000 knittylady 2061921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 was hell. Going from one to two has been a lot of work but a breeze emotionally! I gap PPD going from 0-1 but have been just so happy since we became a family of four. It's crazy, I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition/page/2#post-2061909 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 04:23:39 +0000 matador84 2061909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 was a doozie. 1-2 was a breeze! My kids are 17 months apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition/page/2#post-2061896 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 02:10:31 +0000 lemondrop 2061896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 x 1,000,000. </p> <p>While there are plenty of moments of frustration, the second time was so much easier. We had major life, work, and financial changes with the first, the second time was already established, so it was much easier to roll with (26 months apart). That said, I have even less spare time than before, so I have had to work pretty hard at being efficient. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition/page/2#post-2061776 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 21:53:58 +0000 GrapeCrush 2061776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 was so much harder. It was just more of a shock to the system. With number 2, we were expecting the 'worst', and it was so much easier. We were more relaxed, and mine are 15 months apart. </p> <p>I've heard the transition from 2-3 is a cake walk, though </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition/page/2#post-2061741 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 21:19:01 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2061741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have 2 (yet!) but I will IN April and I'm terrified. Having one wasn't that big of a deal to me. Our world changed but we had the ability to completely 100% adapt our new life to hers. No question. Now I'm scared because my day can't totally revolve around the needs of either of them and that sounds harder to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition/page/2#post-2061713 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 20:54:53 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 2061713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 hands down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition/page/2#post-2061626 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 19:49:33 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2061626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KayKay: yes to this! "honestly, sometimes I really like dealing with my immobile, mostly quiet baby instead of my whirlwind toddler". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition/page/2#post-2061396 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 16:38:15 +0000 rattles 2061396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Zero to one was so much harder for me. Adding DD2 when DD1 was 23.5 months has been (mostly) a breeze. Some of that is just the type of babies they are, but mostly it is that I already live a kid-friendly lifestyle and home and have more mom friends and activities than I did with DD1. The only thing harder was that my second got sick so early! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2061242 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 15:17:40 +0000 KayKay 2061242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. high heels: agree about #2 improving the marriage. i think the first LO can put so much pressure on the mom (pregnancy, birth recovery, nursing if you do that, staying at home if you do that) that it can feel like you get the bulk of "work". With LO2, you can divide and conquer the parenting...and, honestly, sometimes I really like dealing with my immobile, mostly quiet baby instead of my whirlwind toddler :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2061235 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 15:14:40 +0000 KayKay 2061235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 was gobs harder. It coincided with a couple other big life changes for me (stressful job issues, new job, significantly less travelling) that made my "new" life way more different than I expected...and then I had a difficult time adjusting to that.</p> <p>I expected 1-2 to be about equal in terms of change and tried to prepare for the worst. It has been a breeze, and nothing like I thought. DD1 has adjusted well, DD2 is a dream baby, and I have been a lot happier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2061156 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 14:46:05 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2061156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 for so many reasons! I was so nervous/scared as a first time mom, #1 was a harder baby than #2... DH had to adjust too and a lot fell on me at first. </p> <p>1-2 was a breeze in comparison. Nothing really fazed me, and there was a confidence I just didn't have the first time around. I was already immersed in motherhood from #1 anyway, so adding another wasn't a huge change. Pre-kid life was already a distant memory by then. DH was also a pro by then and took on all toddler duties so I could focus on the baby. I think having #2 actually improved our marriage! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060883 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 13:17:54 +0000 MapleMoose 2060883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0 to 1 was really hard because I hadn't done it before. Now I'm not a rookie anymore and 1 to 2 has been much easier than I expected. But LO1 had reflux and undiagnosed food allergies and she cried non-stop and didn't sleep. So that was quite a stressful time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060863 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 13:08:41 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 2060863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Each was easy and difficult in their own ways</p> <p>0-1 was hard because we didn't know what to expect &amp; we were thrown into parenthood and always second guessing our decisions. It was easy in the sense we could nap when baby napped, everyone was eager to help us, and there was no real mess because I only had one kid to look after. But, it was also HARD because we fit our lives around baby's schedule &amp; that was tough. </p> <p>1-2 was easy because we knew what we were doing. Baby fit into our schedules (and we wish we'd have done that with it oldest) so she fit seamlessly into the family right from the start. It was tough, though, bc we couldn't always sleep when she slept. And, the laundry! The toys! The mess! The food! The help isn't there as much bc like mrs jacks said, didn't we just do this? Everyone thinks you've for your shit together by the time kid #2 rolls around and I'm over here treading water. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060826 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:58:06 +0000 Mrs. Train 2060826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 didn't seem that bad to me but then 1-3 when number 1 was 8 months old kicked my rear end. I never slept and baby care was never ending. It just seemed like all I did all day was change diapers feed and try to get them to nap, change diapers, then feed then nap. Going from 3-4 when my twins were 2 was a piece of cake. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060801 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:48:46 +0000 chopsuey 2060801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1.<br /> My kids are 20 months apart, but I knew what to expect! Plus DS was a really easy baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060777 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:40:23 +0000 kodybear 2060777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 was harder. i stressed about everything the first time around (eating, sleeping, etc). i was a lot more relaxed the second time around. E was going through a bad toddler phase at the time tho so having a newborn seemed SOOO much easier compared to his crazy sister! ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060770 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:38:18 +0000 BandDmommy 2060770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't think either was bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060759 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:34:48 +0000 sarac 2060759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd heard that 1-2 was harder, so I'm more afraid of that. 0-1 had a lot of learning curves at various times, and she never slept, so yeah. But it was never terrible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060726 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:22:50 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 2060726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 was much harder. I think a lot of it had to do with LO's temperament, though. LO1 was colicky. LO2 isn't a great sleeper, but he's an easy newborn. I will say that the bad moments are much worse when there are two to deal with, but they are fewer and further between than the rough patches with my first - probably just because I have more experience and either know how to defuse the situation faster or just let the chaos roll off my back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060723 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:22:42 +0000 Espion 2060723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dunno. 0-1 was definitely hard, but 1-2 has been just as hard in its own way. Mainly because this kid doesn't want to sleep more than a few inches away from me at all times. And when he does sleep, it isn't for more than a couple hours. If it wasn't for DH, I'd crack for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060709 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:15:45 +0000 sorrycharlie 2060709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>as far as the baby? they're both pretty straightforward but I also nannied newborn on! </p> <p>for my relationship with DH? definitely harder with our first. total adjustment. now, we've done it, we know what we're doing, we're in a groove and things are good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060702 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:09:48 +0000 regberadaisy 2060702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1. My first never slept. Queen of 20m naps till well over a year and averaged 10hr overnight. And would only nap in my arms and take over an hour to put down at night. </p> <p>#2 is by no means a good sleeper. But better and I guess #1 was already 28m so that helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060699 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:08:48 +0000 blackbird 2060699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh god i hope so, LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060693 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:05:00 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2060693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither was too bad for us. I'll vote 0-1 because my labor was so difficult and BFing troubles made her first weeks painful for me. 1-2 is WAY easier than I expected (23.5 months apart). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060681 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:01:45 +0000 MamaBehr 2060681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: First off, I decided to be a SAHM after my second was born, so that was a major transition. But, in general you have to figure out how to divide your attention when you got from 1 to 2. I also needed to figure out balancing different needs and how to keep one busy when the other needed something from me. When the third one came, I had that figured out. I have noticed that at the park I automatically scan every 3-5 minutes to see where my kids are. It is inherent in me now. So, adding one more little head to check in with is easy now. Also, my oldest is old enough now to keep herself relatively entertained and could entertain the middle one, if the baby needed me. She, is also old enough to help (get me a diaper when I forget one, get the baby a snack etc) and likes to help!<br /> Maybe it isn't the case for everyone, but I have found the transition from 2 to 3 the easiest. zero to one was VERY hard (I might have skipped back to work!), one to two was difficult, but 2 to 3 was so easy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060677 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:59:17 +0000 swurlygurl 2060677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's a tough one... I think 1-2 was harder for me. Baby #1 was easy, but I had really bad anxiety after birth. Still, taking care of a newborn and a toddler is not for the weak!! (19 months apart)<br /> I think just not being able to sit down and relax with my new baby (#2) was really difficult for me. When baby #2 was sleeping I had to tend to baby #1, so I never got any rest or sweet baby cuddles </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060676 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:58:25 +0000 LML 2060676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely think it depends on the baby. Our first one had reflux and was a terrible sleeper (partially due to my inexperience in getting babies to sleep), plus some medical issues. Our second was a super easy baby. So even though they were only 20 months apart, going from 1-2 felt like a breeze compared to going from 0-1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060667 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:56:31 +0000 coopsmama 2060667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: Agreed. Mine are only 13 months apart. I don't think age difference necessarily makes a difference -- maybe it depends on how well the second baby sleeps, along with other factors, etc.? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060665 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:56:23 +0000 Mamasig 2060665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: I was wondering about how 2-3 is! My 1st two are 20 months apart and I was hoping for around 2 years between 2 and 3. So glad to hear it was the easiest transition. I'm also curious as to why it was the easiest. </p> <p>I thought 1-2 was way easier than 0-1. I don't worry about things as much and my body was somewhat used to the sleep deprivation. It wasn't as big a shock to my system. Sure, I'm tired all the time. But honestly the hardest part is at bedtime when they both want me. That's when I wish I could split myself in two and comfort both of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-the-harder-transition#post-2060661 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:54:28 +0000 Freckles 2060661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0 to 1 for sure, but I think it also depends on your baby. LO1 was a hard newborn, and LO2 has been soo easy in comparison. It definitely helped with the transition to 2. </p>