https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 00:15:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024592 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 22:15:06 +0000 808love 2024592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Chocolate: I am super independent and am comfortable with authority. So in that way, I fit in with the grown ups. That's pretty insightful that the youngers have never been alone and are raised sharing and therefore adapt in peer relationships pretty easily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024524 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 21:42:31 +0000 hellobeeboston 2024524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was oldest of 2 and in some ways I got away with more than my sister. In some ways I was a typical "oldest" but not fully </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024506 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 21:37:10 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 2024506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyPenny: Yes that could be why indeed. Inherently they probably always knew how to be better friends because Im sure your parents would have made sure they played well with you and their other siblings and tried to hammer out any bad behavior (hitting, biting, etc) as soon as it happened vs when you were younger and they never had to address those issues because you didnt have to share or deal with another child. My son didnt act aggressively ever until he started school when I realized he never had to before among adults but now other kids were touching "his toys" and in his space. My daughter has never had a toy that was soley hers as her brother is into everything she is and she never has as much personal space because he is around always. There are pros and cons to both but socially I anticipate it will be easier for my daughter going to school, easier for her and easier for us discipline wise as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024482 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 21:29:52 +0000 JennyPenny 2024482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm an oldest and was very much treated as an oldest - stricter rules, more responsibility. I was much more independent than my brothers and it's interesting because my mom seems to lament how independent I am...</p> <p>@Mrs. Chocolate: wow, thats a really interesting perspective. My younger brothers have always been more social and outgoing than me and it never occurred to me that it could be because they spent a lot less time alone... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024445 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 21:13:51 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 2024445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@808love: Im an only like stated before but I have 2 of my own so it is interesting to the see the dynamic and how my DH do treat them a little differently because of their age difference obviously. The biggest thing I have come to realize is that socially my son has to navigate it all on his own. We of course help him along but like in pre-school he has to learn how to act and be with other kids and since he was an only child for much longer its all very new for him. His sister will always have the benefit of his knowledge. When she enters school she will already have been around another child her whole life making it easier I think for her to share and act around other kids (less hitting etc because this is already addressed at home) Also her brother will always be there to inform her of things directly and indirectly as they age since he will have gone through everything years before her. Growing up as an only I always had to navigate alone as well but never passed on my experiences since there was no one else. I remember running into so many social things that other kids knew of because they grew up with other kids that I never knew. Knowing this I try to arm my son with as much extra knowledge as I can as he grows but I realize my daughter wont need it as much as she will naturally pick up on a lot at home with her brother as is. Its very interesting I think, birth order and how it effects your life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024419 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 21:07:42 +0000 Anagram 2024419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was 5th of 6. My brother was just 22 months older than I was and my mother annoyingly treated us the same in terms of chores (she would frequently confuse our ages and shout at us to clean up more, because we were in Middle School now....but I was still in 4th grade), but when it came to COOL things, she would then pull the "he's two years older" card.</p> <p>As an adult, I think it was a girl vs boy thing: my mom was fairy traditional and so cleaning was more acceptable at a younger age for a girl, but going places with friends meant a girl "had to be more protected" so then I wasn't allowed till an older age than my brother. 1960's throwback double standards! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024391 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 20:55:27 +0000 808love 2024391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was raised as the oldest (come to find out I have older brother/sister but that's another story). Anyway, it is a lot of pressure to lead, protect, be responsible for the younger. I do think you have first hand adult attention and special experiences the younger doesn't get. For example, the younger is expected to pick up a lot on his/her own or from big brother and sister whereas I think the oldest gets a patient explanation because it is the parent's first go around.<br /> Again, that's generalizing because sometimes some parents are much more level headed with the second one and the first one, they are struggling to keep it together. I think it depends. Seems more fun to be the youngest but then again, I think it's just grass is greener mentality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024345 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 20:36:57 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 2024345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: He is the oldest of three. He has a younger sister who is his blood sister (I have no idea if that's how you say it) and a younger brother who I'd quasi adopted. The short story is his younger brother was a neighborhood kid who hung out a lot with my husband and his family. Eventually his mother couldn't care for him properly and lost their home and DHs family took him in. His father had left his mother ages ago but was still alive and local so it was kind of like a quasi adopted<br /> quasi guardianship thing. He moved in when he was around<br /> eleven I think and my husband sixteen or seventeen but he<br /> had part of the family in many ways before that too. My husband is typical oldest though as his order never changed his sister went from baby to middle and is kinda a mix of both youngest and oldest I feel from being pushed out of that slot at an older age </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024342 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 20:36:17 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2024342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was the first born and the only girl. I definitely display some tendencies of the first born. We are treated differently in some regards but most of the different-ness is just due to my parents learning what didn't work with me and that makes me proud to have them to look up to. I had a little more responsibility and I am far more independent but otherwise, everything was prettypretty even at our house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024264 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 20:10:04 +0000 rachiecakes 2024264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was the first born. My parents were harder on me and I definitely rebelled/distanced myself. My only sibling, my little brother was classic youngest and was the child that could do no wrong. Still is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024260 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 20:08:45 +0000 mrbee 2024260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: Sniff sniff... I feel your pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024258 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 20:08:34 +0000 matador84 2024258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First born. I am definitely a true first born. I think I was treated a little differently, but I am first child and the only girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024256 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 20:07:58 +0000 artsyfartsy 2024256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was the middle of 3 girls.</p> <p>I was definitely the outcast, forgotten middle child </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024253 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 20:07:24 +0000 mrbee 2024253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Chocolate: What's Mr. C's birth order? Just wondering! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024243 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 20:06:20 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 2024243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I was an only child but I was treated like the baby and display most of those traits. Most people categorize onlys to be like the oldest but its just as easy for them to be treated like the baby since they are essentially both the oldest and the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-birth-order-growing-up-were-you-treated-differently-than-your-siblings#post-2024237 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 20:04:45 +0000 mrbee 2024237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was the third of four kids, and was definitely a middle child. I wasn't a classic middle though, because I was the younger of identical twins. So I was both a middle and a younger at the same time, if that makes any sense.</p> <p>At the time I didn't like it very much, but over time I've come to see that it was very freeing not to be the oldest! And being younger and having older siblings forces you to develop skills to compete with older kids. If I could go back in time though, I'd rather be the youngest than a middle!</p> <p>What was your birth order growing up? Were you treated differently than your siblings? </p>