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Hellobee Boards Topic: What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 02:59:49 +0000 mrs. wagon on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like/page/2#post-1821585 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 13:00:37 +0000 mrs. wagon 1821585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I gave him very careful instructions before we ever went into labor. They were: do not speak or touch me unless I ask you to. He did a great job. He stood for almost 24 hours straight at my bedside. The nurses were begging him to sit down and he just wouldn't. The next day the bottoms of his feet were killing him and he couldn't figure out why. We were all like, dude, you stood for a day straight. The only negative thing I remember is that he was practically fainting from hunger, so I begged him to go out and get something to eat. For some reason he thought he wasn't allowed to eat in the labor room, so he ate really quickly at the cafeteria and ran back... but he was still gone for like 20+ minutes and I couldn't understand where he went!! Then when he came back I was like where is your food??? haha. He had indigestion too from eating too fast. Poor guy. Our second delivery was much more laid back. We ate in the room and watched a movie. The only negative that time was that he was a little more verbal in making suggestions, like walking around or trying the shower during contractions... I told him to shut up. cheert16 on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like/page/2#post-1821563 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 12:47:07 +0000 cheert16 1821563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: He was super supportive, there for me the whole time (even when I was crying and saying I wanted to go home) Worst: He watched the whole damn thing- even when I asked him NOT too!! Also he left the room (to tell our parents the baby was here) when I was hemmoraging when my placenta wouldn't deliver ( although he didn't know what was going on till he came back into the room!) 2PeasinaPod on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like/page/2#post-1821498 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 12:24:54 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1821498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @.twist.: Seriously...DH is a biologist, so he was very curious. He was fine with the pushing, but said it did not look like a baby that came out of me. Not to mention he saw other things that belonged in my body...not out and on my stomach. Weagle on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like/page/2#post-1821471 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 12:13:48 +0000 Weagle 1821471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He did everything perfectly except waited too long to shower and pack before leaving for the hospital. This time, he's decided on his own that it's best to avoid transition in the car :) .twist. on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like/page/2#post-1821450 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 12:02:54 +0000 .twist. 1821450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @2PeasinaPod: Why don't they listen? haha He told me he felt queasy when they gave me the episiotomy. WELL, next time, listen. 2PeasinaPod on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like/page/2#post-1821447 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 12:01:35 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1821447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @.twist.: Same here...I guess that's considered a worst for me. I told him not to look and he watched the whole darn thing. Then was sorry he did once they pulled LO out of me for the emergency C-section. swurlygurl on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like/page/2#post-1821444 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 12:00:19 +0000 swurlygurl 1821444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: Let me make my own choices. He didn't question me whenever I made a choice, which is SO unusual for him - I would have lost it if he tried having input about labor techniques/pain management... thankfully he knew better! Also, his parents showed up during labor (WTF?!) and he didn't bat an eye when I said absolutely no they cannot come in. And lastly, he gave in to the spelling I wanted for L's name :) (We settled on the name months earlier, but were in a serious debate about spelling. I was about to give in to him, but after watching me labor he said I could have whatever I wanted!) Worst: He is miserable without sleep... L was born at 2:34 am, so by the time we got settled in our recovery room he was begging me to let the nurses take L to the nursery so we (HE!) could get some sleep. I did not want my baby going anywhere, and was miserable the 1.5 hours she was gone. I've already told him he's leaving to go sleep at home for baby #2 because I can't handle his lack-of-sleep-crankiness. .twist. on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like/page/2#post-1821402 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 11:44:19 +0000 .twist. 1821402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: He was so great. He helped where ever he could/was needed. He encouraged me, didn't ask any dumb questions. Worst: It's not even that bad, but I told him NOT TO LOOK, and he watched the entire birth. Episiotomy and all. 2PeasinaPod on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like/page/2#post-1821356 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 11:28:40 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1821356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH was honestly so awesome. He kept everyone at bay when I needed him to, was a great coach and was there every second I needed him to be. The only funny thing that we still laugh about now was that he called my boss and said, "Hey, it's R, M's wife. She had the baby!" Orchid on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1821345 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 11:20:46 +0000 Orchid 1821345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Cherrybee: he broke you out of the hospital??!! Please do tell more! Cherrybee on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1820321 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 15:01:58 +0000 Cherrybee 1820321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My hubby was amazing. He held the monitors on place while I thrashed about, he watched the monitor and counted me into and out of contractions - he was incredible. The best - he broke me out of hospital mid induction (it took 4 days to really get going) and whisked me home for a nap because i couldn't sleep on the hospital ward! The worst - he kept moaning about how long it was taking for labour to get going and how it was a waste of his 4-wks off work! Glitter on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1820314 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 14:54:35 +0000 Glitter 1820314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He was the best! He remembered everything from our childbirth classes and kept encouraging me and reminding me how to breathe (I went pain med free). He didn't leave my side for one minute through my entire 16 hour labor! Vegmama on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1820257 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 13:51:32 +0000 Vegmama 1820257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He was amazing. I had the home birth I hoped for. Best part: he acted as my doula. We took classes to prep, and he used the tools he learned to keep me company. He thought he'd suck, but he gave me the strength I needed. I don't have a single bad thing to say. wonderstruck on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1820256 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 13:50:25 +0000 wonderstruck 1820256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Some of your husbands are lucky they're not married to me, because I probably would have smacked my DH if he had said some of the above comments while I was in labor! Best: Immediately did anything I asked or looked like I needed, whether it was to be quiet, help me in/out of the tub, massage my back while I was on the birthing ball, etc. And he stayed very supportive of what he knew I wanted for the birthing plan but didn't second-guess me if I changed my mind during labor. My nurse started to question if I really wanted an epi since I was so opposed before, and thank god he jumped in and was like, "Please just get it to her ASAP, she has been debating this for hours and wouldn't be asking if she wasn't sure." In hindsight I feel awful for him when they decided I needed an emergency c-section, because I was terrified and didn't want it, and I know in that moment he was so torn between wanting to protect my wishes and our baby's safety. Worst: It took a few hours of walking through the lobby and hospital grounds while going through very painful contractions before they would admit me, because they said I was still in early labor. My ILs called him about halfway through this process and said they were on their way to the hospital, and he had a dumb husband moment where he didn't want to tell his mom no, so he just said okay and hung up. This was the one time he detracted from my birth plan because he and my ILs both knew damn well that I didn't want them seeing me in labor - I was in pain and needed to focus. I gave him an earful and he called them back and told them to go home and re-iterated that while we knew they wanted to be in the waiting room, they had been told not to come until I was admitted. DigAPony on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1820218 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 13:12:30 +0000 DigAPony 1820218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My husband was great. My labor was shockingly fast so we were both at a loss and all the stuff we had read in the books went out the window because we anticipated a slow labor. He was just there for me and did what he could and never left my side. Thankfully we had great nurses and they took charge. The only thing he did that annoyed me was when we were pulling up to the ER bay (it was a Sunday so that's where we had to check in) he started to pull into a parking spot and I yelled at him "PULL AROUND TO THE FRONT!!" I was not going to walk any farther than I had to and he was parking like it was a normal situation! All in all, very minor--that was the only time I yelled at him. skipra on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1820187 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 12:38:43 +0000 skipra 1820187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It was a totally different experience with my two labors. First one was an induction and he was by my side the entire time. He was awesome. The worst thing was that he nevet truly mastered the whole hip squeeze thing. Second labor I mostly felt like I was on my own and it sucked. My mom was supposed to be helping with DS but she was on the phone 90% of the time so DH was with DS and I was laboring alone. The worst was that he didn't take it seriously when we were driving home from an appointment that I wasnt going to make it back to the hospital. He should've turned the car around but he thought we could wait out rush hour traffic. I guess tge best was that he made it in time for the birth and had enough sense to call an ambulance rather than having me deliver in the car! oliviaoblivia on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819982 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 05:54:28 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1819982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @birdofafeather: stupid stuff like "did you know you're having another contraction? Wow did that one hurt? How are you feeling?" I don't know just dumb stuff and I couldn't handle responding to him politely. birdofafeather on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819947 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 02:14:04 +0000 birdofafeather 1819947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @oliviaoblivia: what kind of questions?! DH was pretty awesome during l&d: massaging my back through contractions, walking with my to breakfast after my water broke, etc. he just was not the best with the vocal coaching. So I'm glad my doula was! 78h2o on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819882 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:43:14 +0000 78h2o 1819882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: was excited when I woke him up and told him contractions were 5-1-1, we could start getting ready to make the long drive to the hospital. I ended up riding with my parents while he followed in his car (we needed two cars and he was the only one who could drive stick). He called to check on me every 5 min and kept trying to figure out a faster way through the rush hour traffic (and he did, thankfully)! He was really good applying counter pressure when I asked him to. Worst:I labored alone all night because he needed to sleep (Not his fault, my choice because he is not someone who can function without sleep and I wanted hin to be awake for the birth more than the labor)...still, it was a rough, lonely night. I got an epidural after 32 hrs of labor (with zero sleep) and he refused to shut off the tv in the room so I could try to sleep...because HE couldn't sleep without it (nevermind that he'd gotten 8-9 hrs the night before and I'd gotten zero and was about to push a baby out...grrrr). If you can't tell, I'm still pissed about it. Then, when they gave me the go ahead to push, he tried to leave the hospital to buy eye drops and coffee...even when I told him to stay. When my parents arrived, they intercepted him leaving and my mom told him there was no way he was going anywhere. He was great while I pushed, but I am also sort of bitter that he never once said good job, I'm proud of you, or anything like that after she was born. He has since apologized for not letting me sleep and trying to run to the store, but I'm still kinda pissed! 808love on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819849 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:58:05 +0000 808love 1819849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hummusgirl: awesome!!!great visuals!! :silly: :bfp: :bummed: hummusgirl on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819848 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:55:34 +0000 hummusgirl 1819848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: Was super helpful and encouraging throughout, carried giant birthing ball through the streets of NYC in the middle of the night when we were sent to walk around so I could progress more. Worst: As I was getting my epidural, he was sitting in front of me and said, "I think I'm gonna pass out." The doctors had to tend to him while I was getting a needle in my spine. :shocked: 808love on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819843 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:53:56 +0000 808love 1819843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Admirable thing: held my leg in position for three hours while I pushed Worst: didn't suggest different laboring techniques when I was struggling swedishfish on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819841 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:51:05 +0000 swedishfish 1819841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: was involved during the entire process, wanted to stay while I got my epidural (but wasn't allowed to), tried to coach me, etc. Worst: my epidural wore off during my pushing marathon and I felt everything. I was in a lot of pain, the pitocin was turned up, and I could barely take a breath between contractions. He thought it was hilarious that I was screaming for a c-section and that I couldn't do it anymore. He kept reminding me of those moments for a few months PP until I reamed him out. cookiemomster on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819834 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:43:32 +0000 cookiemomster 1819834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He was great throughout the entire process, so I really can't find a worst. The best thing he did was helping me stay calm while they point in my epidural- both times since they screwed up the first one. I was terrified and in a lot of pain and he really helped me keep still and focused. He also did a lot of advocating for me with the nurses and stuff making sure my needs/wants were met because he could tell I didn't have the energy to do it myself. He's the best, really. Love him. lawbee11 on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819820 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:29:57 +0000 lawbee11 1819820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: Held my leg and encouraged me the entire time..."you got this, I can see her head, you're so close" etc. Worst: Complained that he was tired and hungry (I labored overnight). Oh hellllllls no! MrsA on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819813 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:27:46 +0000 MrsA 1819813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: he was amazing!! He was in the shower with me and our doula for 4 hours, and the two of them got me through hellish back labor. He was my rock! Worst: not huge, but I was SO pissed at him when he thought he had time to go pee in between contractions. No way, mama needed counter pressure! Oh, and he drank coffee to stay awake and his coffee breath made me want to hurl. MrsStar on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819812 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:26:53 +0000 MrsStar 1819812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: Was so involved in keeping me comfortable during my induced-labor. I had back labor so he spent at least 4 hours putting counter-pressure on my back/hips, he pulled my underwear up/down (with a pad in it) when I needed to go to the bathroom. He kept strong for me when I had a breakdown when I hadn't made any progress in 2 hours. Bad: He spent quite a while on his phone (he wanted to keep his parents and my bff in the loop) I hated when he left to go eat. catomd00 on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819720 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 19:58:00 +0000 catomd00 1819720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: rubbed my head, told me how great I was doing and encouraged me. Kept me calm every time I started freaking out. Worst: wouldn't sneak me any food or drinks! Thankfully I had a relatively quick labor. artsyfartsy on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819707 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 19:35:01 +0000 artsyfartsy 1819707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Best: He waited on me hand and foot and did everything I needed him or wanted him to do. He remembered my birth plan and what I wanted and stuck by it more than I did. When I told him I was thinking about accepting the epidural so I could sleep he said "Are you sure? You're doing so well!" :) Worst: not even worst really. He wasn't overly involved. No massaging or coaching but I wasn't in much pain even before the epi and I didn't progress far at all before opting for my c section. matador84 on "What was your DH like during labour? Good parts and worst parts of what they were like?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-dh-like-during-labour-good-parts-and-worst-parts-of-what-they-were-like#post-1819704 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 19:33:31 +0000 matador84 1819704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The best-making jokes and keeping situation light. Truthfully, he was there but I barely remember his presence. The worst: he missed the birth of my second child.