https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 20:40:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2144278 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 22:24:04 +0000 Torchwood 2144278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: We did choose them as a couple, we just lost touch with him after the divorce. She's my friend from way back. It's not that being divorced makes her unsuitable, just that we'd rather not basically make her a single mom if we have the option of asking a couple. She would get the insurance money, but it's still a lot of work. And she's also not ideal in several other ways, but she's so much better than our other options that we're sticking with her for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2144248 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 21:32:09 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2144248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: sounds like you chose your friend as god mother as opposed to both her &amp; her husband as god parents. How does her being divorced make her an unsuitable god mother? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2144193 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 20:37:24 +0000 lawbee11 2144193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're atheists so our LO doesn't have godparents. My parents would be her guardians if we passed away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2144190 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 20:31:41 +0000 yoursilverlining 2144190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO has godparents and we are not religious at all, so for us it's obviously not religiously tied. Her godmother is my husband's best friend of over 30 years, she is someone we love and wanted to honor with a special title for her relationship to LO. She will always be identified to LO as a "special adult" (LO already calls her auntie), but as LO gets older, her godmother is a safe adult to bring anything to. Her godmother is also someone she can ask moral and ethic questions of, in addition to us and other grownups. </p> <p>For us, it has nothing to do with guardianship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2144189 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 20:30:48 +0000 Torchwood 2144189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're atheist, but we used the term to refer to their legal guardians if something happened to us. It's currently a family friend, but she got divorced since we first got pregnant, so IF we can find someone better we will. Unfortunately we have zero good choices at this point. We'll probably let her keep the title though, because it means a lot to her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2144178 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 20:24:30 +0000 rachiecakes 2144178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>J's godparents are not guardians, just two special people we wanted to honor and should anything happen to us, we wanted someone who would be there for J and tell him about us, help raise and guide him as we would.<br /> It's my brother and one of my best friends.</p> <p>We had a traditional Christian baptism in a church. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2144139 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 19:56:46 +0000 LuLu Mom 2144139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is religious/tradition for us, we choice family. DH's brother and sister in law for DD1, and my sister and bro in law for DD2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2144059 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 19:04:24 +0000 Miss Ariel 2144059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My godmother was my mom's best friend and my godfather would up as the dad of my best friend.(Her mom was my brothers godmother.) growing up, and honestly still now, we loved that we were godsisters. She's my daughters godmother, and I love the idea her future kids and mine will be godsiblings.</p> <p>Basically we didn't do it for a religious or legal reason, but more as a second parental figure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2144050 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 18:58:50 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2144050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Given that our closest friends are not very religious or spiritual that will not be a consideration or duty for our God parent picks. We will choose friends that we want to honor and bestow this title to show how important they are in our lives and hopefully will be just as close to our children too. A god parent is a role model and a person that I would trust caring for my child and giving them advice. My god mother took a special interest in me and we were very close and she was a supportive, positive adult in my life. That's what I want for my kids too- a decent parent surrogate. Our children's guardians will be immediate family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2143937 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 16:59:06 +0000 namaste 2143937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Pretty much the same. My best friend is the closest person to me and they share the same values we do/etc. As of now, we have not asked them to be guardians for her but I'm strongly contemplating it after seeing my mother babysit for an hour. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2143935 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 16:53:20 +0000 mrsjyw 2143935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS' godparents are my brother and one of my best friends. We chose them because we see them as spiritual leaders and people who'll provide him with guidance.</p> <p>Our parents are our DS' guardians, my brother and his soon to be wife will be back-up guardians as needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2143932 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 16:51:21 +0000 Smurfette 2143932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We chose close friends. The man is the brother DH never had. We picked them because we wanted someone that would help with raising her to uphold Christian values and be a good person. They are not her guardians. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2143929 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 16:46:32 +0000 travelgirl1 2143929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We chose godparents as guides in life, rather than for religious reasons. Two godparents are catholic (two of DH's siblings) then we chose one of my sisters and one of my very close male friends, who I think will teach her a lot about tolerance. Guardianship was considered separately. In short, we thought each godparent had qualities that would benefit DD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2143923 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 16:36:23 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2143923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not religious so we don't have God parents for our son. </p> <p>We will assign a guardian incase something were to happen to us, but they aren't a "God parent". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2143916 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 16:30:20 +0000 birdofafeather 2143916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>interesting because we were having a discussion about this with friends of ours. we're all non-denominational christians (go to different churches and don't each seek out a particular denomination but go where fits our families) and i was told that one couple had another couple as godparents which was interesting to me as none of us baptized our kids. none of my other friends really knew why they selected godparents as it's not really something any of our friends (with the same spiritual background) has done. </p> <p>growing up catholic, i think of it as a catholic thing. my godfather is my uncle and my godmother someone i haven't seen since i was very very little, but i don't have a more special connection to my uncle because of it and we aren't particularly close. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2143910 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 16:22:34 +0000 twodoghouse 2143910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're not religious so we aren't having godparents for our kids. I was raised Catholic and my godparents were my aunt and uncle. I'm not sure if they were my guardians in case something happened people as well? They didn't really do any spiritual guidance, I don't think? It was more just an honorary title.</p> <p>My sister has chosen my brother and sister, and her SIL and BiL for her kids' godparents. I wasn't eligible as an atheist. :wink: however, my brother and sister are actually atheists as well (not sure if my older sis knows this) so I don't think they're planning on doing a lot of spiritual guidance either, but they're going to stand up during the baptism and promise to fill that roll. I don't know exactly what that means for them. My sisters kids are going to be baptized in the Lutheran church and we were Catholic so I don't know how it all differs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-reasoning-behind-choosing-god-parents-for-your-lo#post-2143901 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 16:13:06 +0000 BSB 2143901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Spiritual? Guardianship? Other? None of the above?</p> <p>What is the actual relationship to your LO? Family friend? Family(like uncle or aunt)? </p> <p>DH is Lutheran and I'm catholic but we did get married in Catholic church and we did agree to do everything in my power raise our children Catholic. I'm a bad Catholic and I applied those rules loosely. I'll try to raise them Catholic but really we just want our LOs to have some sort of christian background. </p> <p>Anyway, why did you choose god parents? Or why didn't you have them?</p> <p>DH has god parents which are his uncle and aunt and they were involved in his early childhood and still send him cards and gifts into adulthood. (ETA: Wait, I don't think DH's god parents are his relatives. I think it was a family friend. His god parents were invited to our wedding.)</p> <p>My god parents were a family friend and I saw them when I was little but my family has lost touch with them. I'm not even sure if they were Catholic. I think they were but I have no idea. </p> <p>As for guardianship if something were to happen to us, I don't think being a god parent legally requires you to be the guardian. So for us we'll have to agree on that when we make up our wills. They may or may not be the god parents. </p>