https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 06:22:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-429767 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 15:51:25 +0000 heffalump 429767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell. I didn't want any questions or pressure. But then I did get pregnant and told our families.... and then miscarried. After that I'm sure they knew we were TTC but we didn't talk about it. I didn't want to talk about it for the same reasons, too much pressure. </p> <p>This time I think I'll keep it a secret again. My mom knows that I do want to TTC some time in the somewhat near future, and when people ask if I want more I do say yes, but I always say we want to wait till LO gets a little more independent which is true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-429757 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 15:47:53 +0000 KT326 429757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Luckily my mom understood our struggle with infertility as she struggled with it too. We were very open to everyone that we were going through fertility treatments. I never felt any pressure from anyone. People would ask us how the treatments were going but that's it. </p> <p>I'm sorry your mom doesn't understand. Those who don't struggle with conceiving just don't really get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-429706 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 15:28:43 +0000 MrsCastro 429706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we didnt tell anyone when we decided to start trying...we were lucky and got pregnant on our first cycle...when i told my mom she was shocked and didnt believe i was pregnant (ended in M/C)...fast forward a few months...on halloween, i went home sick not feeling well...mom called me that my dad wasnt feeling well so i went and helped him get checked into the hospital...i was walking back and forth to the bathroom and even through up a few times...mom asked what was going on and i told her i had the stomach flu...she told me "your pregnant"...i told her i hoped (but wasnt)...she turned around and told my sister...thank heavens my sister stepped in and told her to back off...because if she continued that i would more then likely not tell her i was pregnant until i was in the hospital giving birth...</p> <p>i just didnt/dont want the additional stress of people asking "when...when...when"...i have learned through this process myself...its somehting you dont ask, because i have learned to hate the question myself... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-429256 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 12:31:15 +0000 GrapeCrush 429256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we didn't tell anyone. i was afraid that it would take a while and people would constantly be asking if we were pregnant. we got married in May 2011 and from that day on, we were bombarded with people asking us when we were going to start and if i was pregnant. we just said 'we'll see what happens, when it happens'. i don't plan on telling anyone when we start next time either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-429244 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 12:27:02 +0000 mizjl 429244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell a single person that we were TTC because while I wasn't diagnosed with PCOS, I was one of the unlucky ones with irregular, albeit ovulatory, cycles. I really didn't want to keep hearing "are you pregnant yet?!" from people every month so every time someone brought up the "when are you guys planning to have kids?" thing, I'd just say some smart-ass answer like "I like my money and my sleep too much!"</p> <p>I just feel like it's such a personal question to ask and answer, like, do you really want to know if my DH and I are having unprotected sex?! It's just so much more that I'd like to share about my private life. I have to admit, some support from my mom would've probably helped in the few months we were ttc, but it's really not something I'm fully comfortable to share. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-429155 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 11:51:30 +0000 Mrs.Someone 429155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents are too anxious for us to have kids, so we haven't told them anything, and they know I'll get upset if asked.</p> <p>We weren't planning on telling DH's parents either, but they were planning a trip to visit us and ended up booking tickets (international) without confirming dates. We decided to give them a hint in case they wanted to wait to come since its so expensive. Turns out we haven't gotten a BFP yet and they will be here in a few weeks. My SIL did end up getting one, so my ILs were really nervous that we would get one at the same time, making them want to be in 2 places at once! Hoping that this month is a good one and we can have good news for them when they get here!</p> <p>As for friends, I told my best friend at the beginning. She lives in another country though, so its been all through email. I told 2 close local friends eventually, one who is my main confidant, and another who has been having trouble of her own. I specifically haven't told another close friend of ours because she likes to give "advice" and is now 6mo pregnant. Shes asked me several times if we were TTC and I made it clear that we won't be sharing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-429143 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 11:43:00 +0000 LindsayInNY 429143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't plan on telling anyone outright. One set of friends know we're TTC "soon" but that's kinda it. We told his mom no questions until I'm 30 so she doesn't ask, but knows it's in the cards. Most of my/our friends haven't outright asked us. I know people have asked my sister though. But yeah, we won't be telling anyone when we start TTC - not family or anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-429057 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 11:06:16 +0000 Modern Daisy 429057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't told anyone except for my bestie, but DH told his immediate family and cousins. My bestie is really sweet and supportive and asks for updates every month or so, and DH's family 'congratulated' us on deciding to TTC and haven't asked about it since. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428967 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 10:15:18 +0000 Smurfette 428967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We, well me, only told 2 or 3 girlfriends that we were TTC. Didn't tell my family cause I wanted to be able to surprise my parents with the big news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428924 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 09:58:18 +0000 Foodnerd81 428924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell many people, certainly not any of our parents. My sister knew, and a handful of people know our general timeline, but I only talked to my sister about it really. We've been very lucky in that we didn't have any complications and it didn't take long to get a BFP, but I'm glad we didn't really tell anyone. That's very personal.<br /> I did talk about NFP/FAM when I went off the pill but we were still TTA, with a handful of people. Partly because I was a tiny bit obsessed with it and with how much knowledge I gained from it, and partly because so many people don't really know it's an option or think it's way too much work, so I wanted them to know. Reactions ranged from, hmmm I need to look into this, to So, you'll be pregnant soon since you aren't on birth control.<br /> I couldn't talk to my mom about this. She's like your mom, @Sugar.Biscuit: , in that if it isn't the way she did it, it's weird. And, she didn't get her period between my older sister and me, who were born 4 years apart, and never even went to the doctor to find out why. I just don't think that's such a healthy attitude, to just ignore issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428918 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 09:55:27 +0000 JerricaBenton 428918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We never really told anyone when we were TTC. When friends would ask (which I always thought was rude!) we would just say, 'we'll see,' or 'we're not sure.' My mom and I are super close so she knew that we wanted kids and never really pushed. I'm just the kind of person that couldn't have handled too many people knowing, especially since it took a little while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428914 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 09:52:57 +0000 prettylizy 428914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't really tell anyone, my mom sort of knew we were trying and she was very supportive (though we didn't really talk much about it). I was pretty private about it all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428912 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 09:50:27 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 428912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my closest friend when we started trying because she was trying too. She has been really supportive. She understands what I'm going through because he is struggling with infertility too. We decided to tell our parents when we good out about our infertility. I couldn't let my husband go through surgery without having his mother know. All of our parents have been really understanding. It's nice to be able to cry to my mom if I'm stressed. And we have 4 more people praying for us. My mom doesn't completely understand because she never tried to conceive and had 3 kids, but she is a good listener. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428904 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 09:47:51 +0000 Mrsbells 428904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we werent officially TTC when we got pregnant, but I still think its a personal thing that I wouldnt share with anyone until I got a positive pregnancy test </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428902 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 09:47:09 +0000 travelgirl1 428902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like @sea_bass: I knew I had PCOS before TTC. I'd been having acupuncture to prepare and regulate my body then did one month of cycle monitoring and got our bfp. We didn't tell anyone about TTC but that didn't stop people from asking, which I thought was incredibly rude. Now I never ask anyone about their TTC plans in case they have issues they don't want to talk about like we did </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428900 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 09:46:27 +0000 mlm2934 428900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't told anyone, and we have always quickly answered that we aren't quite there yet to probing questions about wheb we were gonna have a baby so I don't think anyone suspects. I did break down and in vague details tell my BFF bc she is tryin and having some trouble, but she has no idea to the level I am trying. </p> <p>I just want to surprise others! Plus I don't talk about my sex life to friends even so it just seems so personal to discuss TTC and all the TMI details with IRL friends and family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428852 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 09:00:19 +0000 blackbird 428852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell family (they had an idea, but minded their own business) but my closest friends all knew. It was something we all discussed--we all got married, had careers, it was natural that it would come up. </p> <p>That really sucks your mom is so insensitive, though. I'd definitely say that she is someone you can't talk to about this kind of stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428840 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 08:53:18 +0000 BananaPancakes 428840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone. As far as anyone knew we didn't even want kids. That's no one else's business, as far as I'm concerned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428838 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 08:49:43 +0000 Adira 428838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell family! Hubs family was already bugging us about having kids and I didn't want them to be asking EVEN MORE if they knew we were trying. I was worried it might take a while and I didn't want the constant reminder from them about how long it was taking.</p> <p>I told my two best girl friends who were VERY supportive, although neither really understand what I was going through. One got pregnant without even trying and the other doesn't have kids, so neither really understood what it was like to go month-to-month without getting pregnant. But they were very excited for us and tried to really hard to understand what I was going through. It was nice to have someone to talk to about it even if they didn't really understand what we were going through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428826 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 08:38:27 +0000 ValentineMommy 428826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone. We just showed up at my mom's house and said, "you're going to be grandparents!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428819 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 08:33:13 +0000 sea_bass 428819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sugar.Biscuit: I only spoke to my DH about it. I knew I had PCOS before I started TTC so I just presumed it would take a while and that we might need intervention. I hated the idea that people would know that we were trying and would be waiting for an announcement or talking about why it was taking longer for us. I am very close to my mum and never spoke to her about PCOS. I just didn't want to have to process her feelings on the matter as well as my own. </p> <p>In the end we got very lucky and it didn't take us too long to TTC but I would keep it private if we were trying again. I am very private person and I valued my privacy more than being able to talk to people IRL about it. </p> <p>One of the reasons why is that a couple of our friends are going through IVF and neither of them told us but we heard it on the grape vine. I just feel like when it comes to fertility or babies people cannot keep it to themselves, even if they promise they will... </p> <p>Best of luck to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428815 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 08:31:21 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 428815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Note to self: never say, "to make a long story short", it never ends up any shorter lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-were-your-family-amp-friends-reactions-to-ttc#post-428801 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 08:16:05 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 428801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In April I converted to Catholicism &amp; switched from BC to NFP. During that time mom was asking a bunch of questions &amp; was very skeptical on the whole process (as most people are). She is in her early 60's and never really understood her cycles, "Every 28 days you get your period, what more do you need to know?" So I broke down the cycle process to her several times &amp; explained how I can choose to either make a baby or avoid making a baby based on CM.</p> <p>Anyways to make a long story short, about 3-4 months into it I was talking to mom about how I thought I had PSOC. I was concerned that this was hurting our chances at conceiving. Her response was, "You need to stop fussing about your cycle, I just don't understand why you girls go though so much just to have a kid. Pretty soon you'll be temping, praying to a fertility god &amp; dancing around in the rain." </p> <p>I asked her how many times she tried before she had my brother &amp; me and she said maybe 1-2 times. Which answered all the questions I had about why she said what she said. She never had to experience it. My SIL took 3 years hand full of IUI's and 1 IVF before they had their first so I thought mom might have understood it more. </p> <p>I had to reach out to a lot of my friends who had similar situations in order to get the support I needed. Then I found HB :-) and I knew I wasn't alone. Now that its going on 10 months she is finally starting to understand our struggle. She wants a new grand baby just as much as we want a child. </p> <p>The first few months were not easy w/o my mom's support &amp; understanding. How did your family &amp; friends react to your TTC? Did you tell them or just keep it a secret? </p>