https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 06 Jun 2026 18:09:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155835 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 11:42:56 +0000 miramira 2155835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>- Not rely on advice from "parenting experts" and instead trust my own instinct more<br /> - Co-sleep sooner if the next LO awakens every 2 hours...<br /> - Stop allowing myself to feel judged </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155820 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 11:36:59 +0000 TheReelDeal 2155820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm on the stress less boat too!!! I've started some of it now, I used to feverishly review LO's nap schedule at daycare then I realized I was driving myself nuts. It makes life so much better when you realize this is just a short moment in time and though it feels like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, it's there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155807 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 11:31:51 +0000 catlady 2155807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would like to do a bunch of things to be less stressed, such as:<br /> - Ask for more help and accept more help<br /> - Be kinder to myself about getting back in shape<br /> - Try to go with the flow more about sleep, nursing, schedules, etc.<br /> - Actually let baby cry for a minute or so before running in and grabbing them<br /> - Get outside more during maternity leave (we are specifically aiming for a spring baby instead of a fall/winter baby like last time so I can do this)<br /> - Actually consider formula if baby has MSPI/FPIES instead of forcing myself on a restrictive diet (this will probably be the hardest for me since I already know that I will feel guilty if LO1 is EBF and LO2 is not) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155774 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 11:16:42 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2155774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was way more relaxed and flexible the second time around! I just had the mentality that "everything is a phase" and didn't analyze anything. Didn't sleep train, completely threw all that stuff about "sleep props" out the window and just did what I needed to to survive/maintain sanity, he fell into a natural schedule/routine all his own by 6 months, and I was just way more easygoing about everything. But he was also a very easy, happy, non-fussy baby that could be put down anywhere so it made it easier for me to be this way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155755 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 11:08:12 +0000 Chillybear 2155755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ask for more help from my mom, I really regret not having her help the first night home from the hospital and the week when hubs went back to work.</p> <p>Listening to all the rules when i started pumping.... I wish i had started pumping sooner than 5 weeks and after every feed to boost my supply and freezer stash before going back to work. in the same vein - also having LO feed on both sides at every feed. (Pumping at work and having a low supply was a huge source of stress the first year of LO's life)</p> <p>Sleep trained before the baby can stand in the crib (before 6-9 months)</p> <p>Have Hubs help with some of the night wake ups i was far too sleep deprived for far too long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155712 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 10:43:58 +0000 NovBaby1112 2155712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>echoing lots of others that are saying stress less, enjoy it more. I was a stress basket with LO1, worrying about sleep, nursing, eating, her schedule, etc. for a long time. I hope to be more laid back this time and just ENJOY the newborn days</p> <p>also have baby sleep where ever. LO1 only slept in her crib, white noise on, with complete darkness. I want this LO to be more flexible!</p> <p>be more willing to let DH bottle feed/do more in general for the baby. I was a bit of a control freak with LO1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155704 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 10:40:01 +0000 Jass 2155704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stress less and enjoy the newborn phase more, easier said than done and ignore unsolicited advice especially from my MIL. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155703 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 10:39:17 +0000 Applesandbananas 2155703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes X1,000,000 to stressing less. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155694 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 10:34:35 +0000 Mrs.Lemondrop 2155694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: @rattles: This. Dear god, this. I was the first in my family to BF for like 3 generations and I was so worried about nipple confusion and bottle preference (we did legit get latch issues from a paci for a bit) that I was way too uptight about the bottles and wasting breastmilk. She took bottles early on when we had to introduce them at 3 weeks so I could get dental work done. Well, we didn't have to give her one for about a month at Christmas (2 months) and she never took one again. </p> <p>She's 6 months now. DH and I have never had a date night. I can't leave for more than the 1.5-2 hours. And I have like 75ish ounces of milk sitting in the freezer about to age out. lol Such an ironic waste of energy.</p> <p>Next time I will chill tfo about it, knowing that I will be successful in BFing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155351 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 06:53:54 +0000 illumina 2155351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not stress about BF, not stress about sleep, not stress about naps, not stress about starting solids...you get the picture! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155307 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 05:53:11 +0000 blackbird 2155307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Be kinder to myself in the early days! that's really about my only big "thing" that i'm telling myself I'm going to do. I really had the mentality with E of not starting any bad habits I didn't want to keep, and it worked for the most part with her personality, so I'm going to try the same thing with #2, which will hopefully make transitioning to daycare easy! </p> <p>Just trying to take a laid back "it's no big deal" attitude to everything, especially feeding and sleeping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155293 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 05:27:29 +0000 Pirouette 2155293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: @rattles: yes yes yes! We didn't even ever had a break from the bottle, but she started having issues after she started solids and never took a bottle again. This time around, we'll do bottles early and often, because it led to a long period of reverse cycling as well as constant concern over her weight and eating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155283 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 04:20:29 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2155283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Totally. </p> <p>I will try to remember that a newborn won't die if he/she isn't held every moment of the night and day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155280 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 04:09:32 +0000 Adira 2155280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stress less! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155272 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 02:54:39 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2155272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I had another, omg that baby would only know the crib! We'd go exploring and none of this tiptoeing around nap-time nonsense! That baby would learn to sleep when it can. And DH would have to take a much longer paternity leave! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155231 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 00:01:11 +0000 MrsB2012 2155231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I won't give #2 a bottle to bed. #1 is 21 months and still gets a bottle at bedtime. I just don't have the energy to get rid of it now with a nb. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155222 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 23:46:37 +0000 Corduroy 2155222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I plan to travel a little and get out more. </p> <p>I will not spend my maternity leave trying to get LO2 to take a bottle or hold him for every nap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155195 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 22:37:08 +0000 rattles 2155195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: This was mine. DD1 stopped taking a bottle after we missed a couple of weeks giving her one. I've been on DH to give DD2 one weekly so that I wouldn't be on such a short leash. So far, so good at 5 months, but this is when DD1 quit, so I'm really a stickler about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155186 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 22:26:38 +0000 autumnlove 2155186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to be more active on my maternity leave! Do more activities, do more around the house, arrange playdates, exercise, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155184 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 22:25:35 +0000 PinkElephant 2155184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Make sure to offer a bottle consistently. DD2 originally took one, but I didn't offer for awhile and then she started refusing at around 5 months. I feel like her dependence on a boob for nutrition/comfort feeds into some sleep and self soothing issues...and it's making it super difficult to wean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-willwoulddid-you-do-differently-the-next-time#post-2155177 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 22:16:01 +0000 Applesandbananas 2155177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The one big thing I think I'd do differently the next time around is having baby sleep in a crib. </p> <p>With LO, he slept in the rnp, then we bedshared, and at 2, we are just now starting to move away from bed sharing. He's in a floor bed now. I think it's contributed to some of the sleep issues we still struggle with at 2. </p>