https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 11:29:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516827 Wed, 06 Apr 2016 08:39:12 +0000 Anagram 2516827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Same! </p> <p>I remember with LO1 that year 1 of being a working mom was the hardest. Things were significantly easier once I pump weaned and got LO off bottles and I didn't have to worry about pumping output and washing pump parts and bottles so much.</p> <p>I'm right in that stage right now with LO2, so it's hard, but I know I have 4-5 more months in this stage and then things will get easier. It doesn't really make sense to make big sweeping changes now for something that will be over in 4-5 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516788 Wed, 06 Apr 2016 08:14:19 +0000 snowjewelz 2516788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my mental health, marriage and physical health would be 3 big things to signal that a change is needed for real. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516775 Wed, 06 Apr 2016 08:04:45 +0000 MtnBiker 2516775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My tipping point was my health, and I regret not tackling it sooner. I reduced my hours at work - everyone thinks its to spend extra time with LO, but its really primarily for me to take care of myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516772 Wed, 06 Apr 2016 08:00:15 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2516772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't respond to the last thread, but like everyone, I struggle with balance. I need a lot of downtime as an introvert, and it's really hard to find that with a kid who doesn't go to bed until after 9, a full time job that requires me to be "on" pretty much all day, a long commute and trying to be the best parent, person, etc. But it doesn't make me unhappy. I love my job and wouldn't give it up, but when it gets overwhelming, I try to build in time like today, to work at home so that I'm less "on." I neglect going to the gym and my own self care a lot (and I need to be better about that), but I always build in 15-30 minutes of reading time after LO is in bed. Husband and I have been pretty terrible at investing in our relationship, but now that LO is a little older, we've been trying to get out more. It's never perfect, and it's always a bit of a struggle, but I wouldn't categorize it as unhappiness. Though once it gets into that territory, it's time for a change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516670 Wed, 06 Apr 2016 04:12:06 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2516670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My morning routine has been a huge stress factor. I reached my tipping point last week. For my sanity, I couldn't see myself continuing while needing to finish up all that I need to do for school. DH offered to switch drop-offs with pick-ups with me and OMG, it's like I'm on vacation! It required a change of schedule for the whole family: DH starts work later and gets back later, and we all eat dinner later. The change so far works better for everyone since we're having longer days (sun is out for longer) and DH's work is busier at the end of the work day (which he missed because his old schedule required him to leave work earlier). Plus, it gives DD and I time to make dinner together.</p> <p>I'm currently on day 3 and my mental clarity is much, much better. I'm just hoping DH can keep his hair by the end of summer :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516658 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 23:56:04 +0000 lamariniere 2516658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mental health. Years ago when I was still young and single in my very first job I finally realized how horrible the job made me feel. I dreaded going in every day and was getting very depressed. So I found a new, much better job and quit with no notice (I was an at will employee). Absolutely no regrets and the new job literally changed my life (ended up meeting my DH there). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516473 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 19:12:36 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2516473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just went back to work, and my quality of life is SO much better than it was as a SAHM, but I think that is just because I was really not cut out to be a SAHM like I thought I would be. That said, my job literally just pays for daycare...sometimes it doesn't even cover it fully, so if I ever got to a point where I was unhappy with my work I probably wouldn't stick around long. If I thought I would be more mentally stable as a SAHM, I would make the switch. It would take a lot for that to happen though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516457 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 18:47:33 +0000 ShootingStar 2516457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We kind of got there recently with where we live. I've never loved this area, I moved here for work. And the weather the past few years has been so tough. The cost of living is high, the commute is terrible. I also miss living near my parents. So last month when we were visiting them we finally said lets just move here. We still have a ways to go because our house needs to appreciate more. But I got tired of constantly being frustrated by where we live. So now we're making concrete plans for a change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516357 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 16:23:02 +0000 gotkimchi 2516357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: this is how I feel! I'm not unhappy I just feel "stuck". I wish things were easier! I have to work because we need ins and even if we didn't I would still work but I hate feeling like I HAVE to </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516355 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 16:21:02 +0000 hb3233 2516355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if the stress of work was seriously impairing my health or the health of my family. Or maybe if I was treated really badly and there was just no way I could win the fight (like some of the sexual harassment horror stories you hear about...) I'm willing to have things suck in the short-run to make them better in the long-run, but need to know its not permanent and have some confidence that it's likely to pay off in the long-run. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516339 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 16:04:11 +0000 MrsRcCar 2516339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was highly unhappy in his food service management job. So he quit and went back to school. He got a job working in the field he is going to school for. It did make me a SAHM but I couldn't work with my boys therapy and doctor appointment schedule. This schedule isn't rainbow and sprinkles but it's short term until he finishes school in January. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516335 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 15:59:34 +0000 MrsKoala 2516335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My tipping point would be going to the office everyday and dreading it. I've had that feeling before and I refuse to do that again. While I may have some struggles balancing parenting and working, I look forward to the challenges of my job and genuinely love what I do every day. If I didn't, I'd change it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516329 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 15:54:41 +0000 mediagirl 2516329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not unhappy, I just struggle to find the balance. I can't change anything right now. Maybe in the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516326 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 15:52:18 +0000 Cherrybee 2516326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I often think that I come across as pathologically dissatisfied; it seems I'm always moaning about something. But its because my tipping point is simply not feeling happy or my LO/DH not being happy. If I'm not happy, then something needs to change. These days, I have other priorities to consider above my own happiness - LO's long term well being etc - so some things cant be changed on a whim (eg I can't just quit my job because we need my wage), so then I have to work out what, specifically, I'm struggling with and try to remedy that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516303 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 15:26:59 +0000 looch 2516303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have to be seriously demeaned to leave my job, like basically put on notice.</p> <p>Other than that, the only other reason I would make a change is if someone's health were impaired and it required hands on care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516296 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 15:21:30 +0000 skipra 2516296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My tipping point was LO's health. He was FTT when I returned to work and refused bottles. No way was I going to risk his health for anything. </p> <p>DH was comfortable in a dead end job for wayyyyy too long and so overqualified. It took them putting him on a performance review for him to get motivated about finding something else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516274 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 15:07:16 +0000 catomd00 2516274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband just got laid off and finallyyyyyy after being miserable in his career for at least as long as I have know him is taking this time to make a change. His tipping point was it making no sense to have a long commute and time away from his family and not being able to help me out with our kids for a paycheck. I have been supportive of him doing it for a while now but he was hesitant but I'm so excited for<br /> Him! I've always had jobs I love and i cannot imagine going to work every day to a job I hate. Unfortunately, it means we aren't going forward with purchasing our forever home right now, but hopefully he will settle in to his new path soon and we will recover the Lost expenses and reap some intangible benefits (starting with his happiness!) quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516257 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 14:48:09 +0000 yoursilverlining 2516257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on what the issues are I'm looking to change and my long and short game. Sometimes being unhappy/overworked/overtired in the short term means a better long term. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516238 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 14:28:01 +0000 Charm54 2516238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My tipping point is if I have to commute. It's a small possibility that this might happen next year, and if it does I told DH I'm not doing it.....he works crazy hours as it is, I don't want to give up more time with my girls. We'd have to make some choices but we'd make it work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516231 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 14:25:51 +0000 gingerbebe 2516231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For DH and I, our tipping point has always been our marriage relationship. If we're fighting or resentful or pissed off about something, we have to fix it because we cannot go on and be good parents or employees or friends to other people because we're doom and glooming about the other person. It actually forced us to change a lot of things about parenting and household balance stuff after our son was born because the plans we made with regards to certain parenting things just did NOT work for our marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516230 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 14:25:44 +0000 jetsa 2516230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I just made a change but for me it was not feeling value in the work I was doing day to day so why continue to do it just so I could have more money and a pension in 27 years...nope sorry. Not feeling valued at work and giving up additional time with my kids was too much for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-it-take-making-change#post-2516217 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 14:22:19 +0000 Kemma 2516217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The thread about struggling while being a working parent got me thinking, what would be your tipping point for making change?</p> <p>I remember reading somewhere that "if it was that bad, you'd change it and if you won't change it then it's obviously not that bad" and it totally got me thinking about why we continue to accept being unhappy when there could be better options out there. (And this applies regardless of working or parenting status) </p>