https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 00:39:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646726 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 11:54:31 +0000 lilteacherbee 646726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: I completely agree. It's been 13 months with a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks for us. I'm currently 5 weeks pregnant and nervous, but I'm making the decision to have faith and believe everything will work out the way it's supposed to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646703 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 11:44:28 +0000 travelgirl1 646703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The horrible sense of failure ad uselessness I felt before we even started trying. I knew I wasn't ovulating for over a year before we TTC and spent the time having acupuncture etc to try and sort myself out. I felt like I was broken, and there was no point to me at all. I wish I'd have cut myself some slack. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646663 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 11:25:08 +0000 singingbee 646663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't change anything, even losing our daughter. It was and still is horrible, even as we come up on her 1 yr birthday, but it's our journey. I hope this LO that we are currently gestating (:) ) knows how much they are loved and wanted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646654 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 11:21:01 +0000 BSB 646654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have started earlier. Having trouble TTC for the past 2 years has really made me bitter and annoyed at people who got pregnant so easy. (I'm sorry) I was such a happy and positive person before TTC. I've noticed that infertilty has changed me. </p> <p>I know my marriage is stronger and finances is better but the changes IF did to me is not worth it. The wait is agonizing, the unsucessful and cancelled IUIs is just heart breaking. </p> <p>I had a plan for everything. How soon after I got married we would start TTC. We had a few TTC breaks because I wanted to be financiall and relationship stable. I had a timeline when we would have our second or third. How my career would change around family.<br /> But here I am struggling to have my first child. All the other details don't really matter. I'm at a point where I am trying to change my life so that something clicks and God (or whover makes these choices) allows me to get pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646640 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 11:06:20 +0000 loveisstrange 646640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurpleUnicorn: Same here. Thats what I meant by I would have planned it. I had an emotional breakdown when i got my BFP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646639 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 11:06:18 +0000 rachiecakes 646639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will always be grateful that it worked out as perfectly as it did. We wanted to get married, wait a month and get pregnant so we could have a Christmas baby. Crazy that it actually worked out that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646637 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 11:04:23 +0000 PurpleUnicorn 646637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsDragon: oh definitely me too. even after my shock, a part of me was happy from the beginning because i had been having some baby fever when i got the BFP. but i was just watching an episode of How I Met your Mother last week where Lily and Marshall got their BFP and were so happy, and i realized i never had that moment with DH, so i hope to have it for LO #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646633 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 11:01:01 +0000 mrsmacandcheese 646633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurpleUnicorn: I feel you there - we didn't really journey either. But I feel like we're so lucky to be where we are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646434 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 09:09:22 +0000 PurpleUnicorn 646434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>not sure if my comment fits in this thread, but i would like to HAVE a journey! i cried when i got my BFP because it wasn't planned and i was stressed/upset/in shock. I would love to have that moment when i cry because they are tears of joy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646423 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 09:03:42 +0000 Grace 646423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish it had happened sooner. I would have been so happy to have gotten preggo with the first 3-6 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646334 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 08:00:00 +0000 mrsmacandcheese 646334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It seems petty but I wish we had our financial affairs in better order and had a house - TTC didn't go to plan for us and while I know you don't NEED a house to have a baby, I'm desperately hoping things will work out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646322 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 07:40:56 +0000 Pirouette 646322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I'd realized how different my body would feel off bcp. I'm glad I went off when I did, I just wish I had known how unpredictable my body would be! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-646301 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 07:21:31 +0000 chibee 646301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am still on the journey and I really wish I had gotten off bc sooner than I had, and I wish I had known better to push dh in the beginning which led to so many problems. We are in a much better place now and I am hopeful that our journey won't be long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-640571 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 14:45:19 +0000 loveisstrange 640571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have actually planned it?</p> <p>We were much younger than we would have liked, my FIL had just died, we were about to make an international move... It was horrendously bad timing and it took me a long time to accept it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-640539 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 14:40:44 +0000 derevival 640539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On my journey still too</p> <p>Wish I knew how long it will take! This is killer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-624634 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:14:34 +0000 spaniellove 624634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Still on my journey...but I wish I had stopped being so scared and listened to my gut when I knew I should switch REs. I wish I hadn't listened when the urologist and clinic who were both working for the same managed health care company told me IVF was the only solution for me. I wish I'd listened when everyone in my area told me to try the other doctor who'd do more testing and wouldn't bombard me with medication. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-624613 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:09:57 +0000 twinmama 624613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: Woah, crazy! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-624600 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:07:35 +0000 meganmp 624600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MerryC: Hey, I got pregnant with our twins two months after our third anniversary too! Weird:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-624584 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:05:00 +0000 2PeasinaPod 624584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took us 2 miscarriages and 18 months to have S. Seeing him now, I don't know I would change anything, but I do still think, "what if" I had come off the pill sooner to get everything out of my system and get more regulated. I wouldn't trade S for the world now though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-624558 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 13:59:10 +0000 regberadaisy 624558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, absolutely nothing. Because everything that happened resulted in our amazing daughter. I would have years of heartache to have her in our lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-624548 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 13:57:37 +0000 twinmama 624548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: You summed it up for me too. The almost 2 years it took to get pregnant were excruciating. But it made our marriage stronger and we did a lot of traveling to distract ourselves. If I had known it would happen, even with all the help, it would have been easier to wait. </p> <p>The funny thing is that our original plan was to ttc/'get pregnant' after being married 3 years. The we jumped in early and started ttc after about 1.5 years, and it didn't work. While we had major help, we got pregnant with our twins 2 months after our 3rd anniversary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-624536 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 13:54:54 +0000 anonysquire 624536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish it wouldn't take as long, that the doctors had definite answers and that I was more positive about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-624505 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 13:46:56 +0000 sweetooth 624505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@marionberry: I cried when I saw that scene too! </p> <p>@meganmp: I know what you mean about it just being a TV character. But we sometimes "see ourselves" other places, you know? I think your husband handled it wonderfully. My husband doesn't question my tears, he gets it. He just kindly wipes them off of my cheeks. You're so right about the feelings of loss. Thank you for the good vibes! I'm happy to see those adorable little babies in your user icon, and know that you made it through all of this :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-621790 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 17:13:01 +0000 meganmp 621790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: Glad I could bring some laughter to your day! I know exactly how rough it is, if that helps at all. I cried at that HIMYM too, and then thought how ridiculous I was being- it was a TV character, for crying out loud! DH made me feel better- he told me that it was not ridiculous, it made sense- on the show, they were worried about no luck after TTC for three friggin' months. I knew people in real life like that, and they had gotten pregnant soon after, without all of the medical intervention I had to have. He told me that it is not silly jealously (which is what I felt like it was), it's mourning the loss of something you were cheated out of. Anyway, good vibes to you on this IUI! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-621723 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 16:43:20 +0000 marionberry 621723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: Like your comment about Lily, I remember watching Giuliana Rancic's surrogate delivery and bawling my eyes out thinking that was never going to happen for me. It's crazy how TV touches us that way. And it is really hard to talk to friends who haven't gone through infertility because they just don't get it.<br /> @dagret: I agree that going through infertility made our marriage stronger. We really had to support each other when we constantly kept encountering problems. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-621674 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 16:23:26 +0000 sweetooth 621674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: Your comment about getting mad when Lily on HIMYM got pregnant made me laugh. :) I just saw that episode yesterday and it made me cry. I just had my third IUI this morning and I'm doing my best to stay in a good, positive place. But it is SO hard. I, too, get angry and bitter when I find out that another person is pregnant...except for when it's someone that has been going through infertility. I usually see that as a sign of hope.</p> <p>I wish I could change how closed off I've become from my friends. I don't know how to be social, and normal in social settings when these medicated cycles feel so all-consuming. I find myself just trying to survive and protect myself since I'm in such a fragile, emotional state at various times during the month. It really sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-621659 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 16:19:04 +0000 pui 621659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't started TTC yet, I just wish I had gotten to start sooner. If it was up to me, I would have had kids by 26, but I am 26 now and so things did not go as I hoped lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-621649 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 16:17:10 +0000 lovehoneybee 621649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took us 13 cycles and a miscarriage to get E. I only wish that I had known that we'd get there eventually and that it'd be better than we ever could have believed. I stressed out about it a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-621579 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 15:58:05 +0000 meganmp 621579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, the years that it took to finally get these kiddos made quite a bit of difference in our world. I honestly think it strengthened our marriage, because we now know that if we could get through all of that, we can get through anything. Also, I think that we're in a better place in our lives in many ways- better off financially, more of our friends are having kids, etc. Granted, it really, really sucked to have to go through all of that. I think that if I had just KNOWN that it would take that long but we would indeed get them, it may have made things easier. I also wish that I could change how bitter I was- there were many times I would get irrationally angry when somene else got pregnant (hell, I was mad when Lily on How I Met Your Mother got pregnant!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-change-about-your-ttc-journey#post-621566 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 15:56:06 +0000 Foodnerd81 621566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were lucky and had a pretty short and uneventful TTC journey (19 weeks pregnant now) but I wish I could have been a little more relaxed about it. It's just not my nature, I want to feel I'm doing every single thing I can to give us the best odds. I hope with the next one I can relax a little more. </p>