https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 05:41:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16/page/2#post-514501 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 22:15:19 +0000 .twist. 514501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hehe I voted let him go! I see you've already made your decision. I agree with the others that said let him go and then make him let you have some free time to yourself. You totally deserve it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-514460 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 21:53:34 +0000 Maysprout 514460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably let him go but I'd need a good bribe ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-514379 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 21:05:56 +0000 doodlepoodle 514379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted to let him go, my reasoning being that I'm the full-time working parent/breadwinner and DH is a student and home with DS way more than I am. We BOTH need breaks. I cherish my time with J, obviously, but there are times that I need to be able to "reset" and have a moment to myself. I've only left overnight one time for a wedding with a girlfriend, but I felt like a new woman when I got home! DH has his "dude" time as well, so I feel like it's quite even in our home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-514303 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 20:25:50 +0000 sarac 514303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I say let him go, but make sure that you get a break in return. I ok'd my husband going on a business trip to florida when my daughter was 9 months old. It ended up being 8 days, and I was so furious by the end of it. Never. Again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-514079 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:49:02 +0000 Boogs 514079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH gave me my own time yesterday, in return he's boarding today. He hasn't been in nearly a year, he's been working hard, and he is just off on a day trip. We all need to recharge our batteries, so I'm glad to hear you let him go. Now he owes you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-514071 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:44:23 +0000 Rubies 514071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I KNEW you would let him go.<br /> But even if you asked him to say, it isn't about being a "bad wife"! I voted "hellz no!" (in my mind). Taking care of 2 is HARD WORK and if you had asked him to stay, you shouldn't feel guilty about that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-514035 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:21:39 +0000 PrincessBaby 514035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You did the right thing!!! There's nothing I could ask my DH to do for me that he wouldn't do, so if he asked me for something like an extra day to do something he loves, I'd say go for it:). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-514020 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:14:11 +0000 SugarplumsMom 514020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, you deserve a little something for being such a sweet wifey! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-514008 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:06:14 +0000 banana 514008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww...so kind of you! You deserve something nice!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513870 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:17:46 +0000 Andrea 513870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: what a good wife!</p> <p>I would also say yes. DH let me go on a girls trip to Chicago so I owe him a trip back. I would totally get some babysitting help for the weekend, though, so it wouldn't be that bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513821 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:04:05 +0000 Crisark 513821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have also let him go. He sounds like he'd be happy to return the favor. It's so good for the relationship when there is that give and take! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513760 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:48:54 +0000 BoogieBea 513760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're so sweet to let your husband go. With your LO2 so young, I think would've preferred that he come back early. But since he'll be away anyway - what's another day, right? It's awesome that you're already able handle 2 kids all by yourself. In the beginning, we hired someone to help with dinner and bedtime when my husband is away. My younger one is now much older so I don't need the extra help anymore.<br /> Hope you get some nice pampering when he returns the favor! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513664 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:21:59 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 513664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I think being "too good" to your hubs is a good thing...if he's "too good" to you too;)<br /> My husband lets me get away with A LOT so I let him off the hook when he needs it too.<br /> Hope your weekend goes OK! You never know, kids may decide to behave ;) But, i'd load up on Ben &amp; Jerry's just in case; that goes without saying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513651 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:18:16 +0000 mrsmate 513651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you are a saint for even considering letting him go. And I only have one LO.</p> <p>DH and I both ski (he also snowboards). I know how easy it is to get hurt on the slopes, even when you're an expert. A family ski outing is way different from a solo guy away from the family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513641 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:15:16 +0000 Alivoo01 513641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd let him go and see if one or more friends wouldn't mind coming over to "help" even if it means them bringing over take out/pizza and just crashing on the couch with you to help you watch one of the kiddos. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513636 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:13:51 +0000 chopsuey 513636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: I'm too good to him I think. :P :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513635 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:13:38 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 513635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would let him go, and find time to do my own thing the following weekend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513621 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:11:29 +0000 Bao 513621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say let him go, and then have him take the kids a day next weekend and you go have some me time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513615 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:10:22 +0000 MsLipGloss 513615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ArtBee: I think you're right - it is a mommy thing. And that's not fair . . . funny how DH used to not trust me to walk across the kitchen and without spilling, but now he is totally cool with me multi-tasking like a madwoman while holding my LO and he doesn't even bat an eye! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513609 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:07:56 +0000 mrs. wagon 513609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: hehe I KNEW you'd let him go!!! You are such a good wife. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513602 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:06:57 +0000 chopsuey 513602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha. Thanks for your votes! I told him he can go.. He'll be home most of the following week so I'll make sure to steal away for a while and leave him with the kids. </p> <p>@mrs. wagon: We'll definitely go on a snow trip together!! excited to have our kids meet ;) </p> <p>@mrbee: @prettylizy: I've gotten used to taking care of 2 kids even though it can get stressful. Chocolate ice cream has become my best friend :P :) I'll call for back up if I need it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513599 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:05:54 +0000 heffalump 513599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I think it's a mommy thing. It's just assumed we will do things because we're the mommy. </p> <p>You're the mommy, you will feed and get LO's meal ready while I sit here and eat my meal. You're the mommy, you can handle watching our 65 lb dog and toddler at this restaurant alone while I run to the store. Etc. etc. etc. </p> <p>But if we're at a restaurant with the whole family including the pup and I go inside I always have to take LO. He can't be left with both of them. How is that fair? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513588 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:03:43 +0000 sandy 513588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I voted let him go but I would have my mom come stay with me while he's gone. I could not imagine two kids for several days alone! I think your family is across the country...so maybe say you are going to fly your mom in for the weekend :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513583 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 15:02:33 +0000 o0olibelulao0o 513583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have kids yet, so that might sway my decision until I know what it's like... but I would let him go. But like others said, I would use it as a bargaining chip, and/or see if a friend or family member can come spend some time with you and the LO and stay the night to help out and have a little "girls night" or something after the LO goes to bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513558 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 14:56:25 +0000 MsLipGloss 513558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ArtBee: FWIW, I am a WOHM and I *still* feel like DH gets way more breaks than I do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513555 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 14:54:52 +0000 Mrs. Train 513555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually let my husband go when he asks. He doesn't ask often so I try to make things work. I know If I Was smart enough to ask he would let me go do things I just never ask. Make plans for yourself like play dates or meet ups with other people so you aren't alone all the time. That's when my craziness sets in, if I can't have any grown up time for several days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513543 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 14:50:02 +0000 skibobrown 513543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would let him go, but only if he agrees that you can have a day away from the house to do something that you enjoy in return. It's good for him to get out and do something that he enjoys, but this should work both ways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513532 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 14:47:58 +0000 Mrsbells 513532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted let him go boardin but honestly if I were in your shoes I probably would say no. Because I hate when Dh has to travel and I'm by myself with the baby, its so stressful </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513531 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 14:47:42 +0000 MsLipGloss 513531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @MrsWagon and @ArtBee: I would ask him to stay (and not go boarding). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-16#post-513527 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 14:46:29 +0000 heffalump 513527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd make him stay. Call me a bad wife.... but why does he get to go off and have fun snow boarding while you are at home with two kids by yourself? Snowboarding isn't going to go away, it will be there next year when the kids are older and easier to take care of.</p> <p>I don't know... being a SAHM I feel like DH already gets so many more breaks than I do. He gets breaks to go to the bathroom, to eat breakfast, to eat lunch, etc every day. The least DH can do is help on nights and weekends so I can pee in peace occasionally. </p>