https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 20:16:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129707 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 11:42:50 +0000 mediagirl 129707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah. I think I'll go with the majority here and tell her my other friends already have childcare and ask if she can find care, as well. I'll tell her I'll ask the hostesses but since they both had to find childcare for the event, I doubt they would say yeah, go ahead, bring your kid that your husband won't watch... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129682 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 11:17:19 +0000 LuLu Mom 129682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In this situation I would be making my husband find childcare, it was his responsibility and if he wants to make plans he needs to find an appropriate sitter! My husband would know that's how it works in our house! ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129672 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 11:11:08 +0000 Boogs 129672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would point her to the planners since you were told to butt out. Plus, you can't be blamed for their decision. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129667 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 11:09:19 +0000 Lozza 129667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Yeah, my husband wouldn't even bother to ask whether he could go golfing if I've got an event on the schedule and he's watching the kid. If he needs to know the answer, he's seen my "Really?" face enough times to be able to recreate it for himself without my help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129569 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 10:21:38 +0000 mediagirl 129569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Yessssssssssssssssss. The whole husband thing is the part that annoys me the most, I think. Seriously, dude? Your wife had these plans since early March and you pull this? GAH! It's when I thank my lucky stars I have my husband who thinks about others (and me) first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129560 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 10:17:20 +0000 MamaMoose 129560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I'd ask her to find a sitter. Even if the two year old would be fine at the shower all the other mothers who are attending went to the trouble to make child care arrangements... and they will likely be offended if someone else's child is allowed to attend. I actually think it's pretty rude that she bothered you with this issue because her husband decided to go golfing instead of helping to share the responsibility of caring for his child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129557 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 10:16:54 +0000 Adira 129557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with what others have said - I would be really upset if I arranged childcare to attend the shower and someone else showed up with a child. I would point her to the hosts (doesn't she have their info for the RSVP?) or point the hosts to her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129554 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 10:16:12 +0000 chopsuey 129554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be okay with the 2 year old coming. But I would run it by the hostess first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129544 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 10:12:30 +0000 Alivoo01 129544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd email the hostess and see what they have planned (e.g. no kids) so that you can give the proper response. I'd be mad if I was told I couldn't bring my child, and someone else was able to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129542 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 10:12:26 +0000 Andrea 129542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Why don't you tell her to ask the planners if they think the shower would be appropriate for a 2 yr old - since you do not know what they have planned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129534 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 10:03:24 +0000 heffalump 129534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I'd just wait to see what your friend says. I think it should be fine to have her, but maybe they're planning something that isn't child friendly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129532 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 10:02:18 +0000 mrs. wagon 129532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If the shower is no kids and you aren't planning it, I would either ask her to ask the planners or just ask her to get a sitter. If she shows up with a kid and all the other women had to arrange for childcare, they will get miffed... I would be pissed!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-4#post-129527 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 10:01:14 +0000 mediagirl 129527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't been involved with the party planning for my baby shower this weekend, I've been told to butt-out. I do know the shower is all women, no men, no kids. I just got an email from a friend saying her husband planned a last minute golf outing (seriously?) and now she doesn't have anyone to watch her 2 year old. She asked if she could bring her daughter with her. </p> <p>Since I haven't been involved with planning, I don't know what the girls are planning for the shower. I sent an email to my best friend asking her thoughts on bringing the 2 year old to the shower. </p> <p>What would you do? Let her bring her daughter or ask her to get a sitter (which she did say she could try to do). </p>