https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 16:51:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892457 Fri, 26 Jul 2019 11:54:43 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2892457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone! I had a pretty good idea that I should have at least smiled at her. Next time I'm gonna bring my a-game! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892308 Thu, 25 Jul 2019 13:53:43 +0000 KT326 2892308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pajamas: Yes! Especially from the parents of much older children. They've "been there, done that" so you know they know what it is like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892276 Thu, 25 Jul 2019 12:25:30 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2892276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KT326: oh my that makes me tear up too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892258 Thu, 25 Jul 2019 11:05:06 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2892258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KT326: Love the sentiment "you are doing a great job" I think that never gets old between parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892254 Thu, 25 Jul 2019 10:33:58 +0000 KT326 2892254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@charm55: we were at a minor league baseball game and my son was melting down, sitting in the middle of the walkway just losing it (I think he was around 4?). This mom walks by with her teenage son, looks at me and says these days won't last forever, you are doing a great job. Totally made me tear up because I was on the brink of losing it myself. As she walked away with her son I heard her tell him he used to throw fits like that! </p> <p>@Mrs. Cereal: I usually try to at least give a smile, or at least an I've been there you are doing great comment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892246 Thu, 25 Jul 2019 09:43:16 +0000 paigeface 2892246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@charm55: Incredible! Made me tear up. I too think even a small comment or smile goes a long way because I know it does for me when I have both my kids melting down in public. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892232 Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:24:22 +0000 graceandjoy 2892232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would've asked to help! I've done it before. Usually they decline but I sure hope that helped them to know that someone cares! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892194 Wed, 24 Jul 2019 21:36:31 +0000 crazydoglady 2892194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@charm55: That's so incredible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892191 Wed, 24 Jul 2019 20:42:25 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2892191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@charm55: that is the sweetest thing!</p> <p> I try to offer a sympathetic smile if I have the chance or say something like “oh my we have all been there” or even a understanding “aww”... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892187 Wed, 24 Jul 2019 19:38:58 +0000 charm55 2892187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A couple of months ago my oldest compeltely melted down at the grocery store. I was mortified and bewildered because she is almost SIX and this is out of character for her. </p> <p>The one thing I remember from that day though is the kindness of strangers....the man who let me go ahead of him in line, the lady who told me her now grown daughter used to do that too and it was normal, the cashier who gave me a free chocolate bar and told me to enjoy it when I got home.</p> <p>After, I made my daughter write an apology letter to the grocery store employees and we went back when she had calmed down to deliver it. The employees were so gracious and fantastic and good to her (and me).</p> <p>On one hand I shudder to think back of that day because I was so completely mortified, but on the other hand it makes me feel so grateful for the kindness of others. My daughter and I both learned a lot that day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892183 Wed, 24 Jul 2019 18:37:06 +0000 crazydoglady 2892183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I smile of solidarity goes a long way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892182 Wed, 24 Jul 2019 18:36:09 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2892182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: that’s a good idea. Last week my kids were being pretty hyper at the story (5,3&amp;1) and a lady said “those are some happy kids!” So that was nice. </p> <p>I probably wouldn’t say anything but sometimes I try to shoot a smile. If there was something obvious she needed help with, like loading groceries I would offer to help. And I would shut down any judgment I heard if people were being vocal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892181 Wed, 24 Jul 2019 18:30:32 +0000 Jess1483 2892181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom often tells the story that when me and my brothers were being awful in a grocery store, a woman simply came up to her and said “you have beautiful children” She said it was the perfect thing to make her feel not judged and supported. I’ve never been in a situation to use it, but I generally try to say something humorous or supportive, even “we’ve all been there. “ I have offered specific help in a situation like this. An acquaintance with an autistic child was having trouble getting him in public as he was running. I offered to basically corner him with her if that would be helpful. She did take me up on that. If I think I have an idea of something I could do to be helpful, I do. Also, at my job, I will just bend down and try to engage the child. But that is a slightly different situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-64#post-2892180 Wed, 24 Jul 2019 18:17:25 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2892180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to get other people's ideas here: Today I was at the grocery store alone (bliss!) and while I was checking out, at a few check stands over, there was a younger (than me) mother with three kids who all looked to be under the age of five. Her middle child was screaming and having a giant meltdown. People in the store were being judgy and I couldn't decide what to do. So I did nothing. But as I drove away I couldn't help but wonder if I should have offered to help her. I think we've all been in these situations and while I would probably never accept help, I very much wanted to help her if she needed it. So what would you have done... ignored the situation and move on, offer to help the mom, tell the mom she's doing a great job, or some other reaction?</p> <p>Not looking to judge her at all, just wondering what other moms would have done in my position. </p>