https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 19:24:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898988 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 20:35:33 +0000 maddyz 2898988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Go! I have been surprised that the things that my kids have sat through when my mom is in it. They love performances and talk about them all the time. It feels like an important memory. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898981 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 19:27:36 +0000 poppygirl15 2898981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: :silly: Ha! I get you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898979 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 19:25:01 +0000 erinbaderin 2898979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@poppygirl15: @nana87: We definitely all have to go, because I super can’t deal with two days of my parents without my husband as a buffer, and also because driving with my children is a non-stop parade of “I want to watch Transformers.” “I want some goldfish.” “I want some applesauce!” “I don’t like this Transformers, I want to watch Pokémon.” </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898975 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 18:57:31 +0000 nana87 2898975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you all have to go? If you just take the kids, maybe you could make it a long weekend so your dh doesn’t have to take off, or you could just go alone and make it a quicker trip </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898934 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 13:21:16 +0000 nwm 2898934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To me it's maybe less about repaying the favor than about how much it seems like your dad wants you there--whether it's to show off to his grandsons, or to show off his grandsons to the folks he performs with--either way, seems like it's important to him, and it's pretty sweet! Totally get why it's a hassle and pain, but I would want to go if it seems that important to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898931 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 13:06:06 +0000 codeitall 2898931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to say no until I saw that they had traveled down to help you out. Try and do something a little longer to make the trip worth it.</p> <p>Honestly, I wouldn't go unless I felt obligated to pay them back for doing me a favor, and since they have, I think you gotta suck it up :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898929 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 12:55:58 +0000 threeplusme 2898929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents live 4 hours away and we try to visit once a month. Its not always convenient but my kids love seeing them and I worry that they wont be around forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898890 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 09:17:18 +0000 jennlin821 2898890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you approach this a different way?<br /> Will the play be recorded? How about a planned weekend at their house where you can all watch the recorded play together. That way your dad can watch with you and your kids - and he'll get to answer questions as they pop up and the kids can play quietly as they get bored with the play still on the TV. </p> <p>Or leave the kids at home and just you go. He may just want some family there to support him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898886 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 08:45:30 +0000 graceandjoy 2898886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go considering they are active in your life and help out. Can you just make a weekend trip out of it? I have girls almost 5 and almost 3 as well, and I don't think doing a 4 hour per trip drive somewhere for a weekend is too bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898874 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 08:00:11 +0000 bakingdoodle 2898874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely go. It would please your dad so much and it's not like he has a performance every week...<br /> I am probably older than you but I want to spend more time with my parents when I can. (But i live 6h away by car from them and only see them 4 times a year... at this point?) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898870 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 07:48:36 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2898870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do it. It sounds like it's really important to him. I get not wanting to though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898864 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 07:23:00 +0000 woodentulip 2898864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was exactly us--we live 3 hours from where my parents are, and my dad also acts in community theatre, and we took my kids at 3 and 5 to see my dad in HALF a show because it started at 7, and the kids couldn't last. But 4.5 years later and my kids still talk about it, and so do my parents! It was so worth it, though I do acknowledge it was a PITA. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898854 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 06:54:41 +0000 Mama Bird 2898854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way! I do not see kids that age enjoying a pantomime or most performances that are not specifically for kids. I do see a strong possibility of them ruining it for other spectators, and I'd mention this concern to your dad and be very apologetic about not being able to go. Maybe someone can take a video for you to see at home... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898849 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 06:45:44 +0000 erinbaderin 2898849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, you guys are all so much nicer and more reasonable than I am. My parents turn me into a bratty petty teenager. My husband agrees with you that we should just suck it up and go but I don’t wannnnnaaaaaaa!</p> <p> :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898831 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 22:39:22 +0000 poppygirl15 2898831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does your DH have to come? If not, leave when it's convenient for you &amp; the kids and let your DH have the weekend off. I think it's really sweet that your dad is so eager to have his grandsons watch him. It's much more likely your older one will remember the trip than the soccer lesson. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898821 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 20:59:32 +0000 skiierchck99 2898821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go and try to make a weekend of it. I also get annoyed by these things but my mom being dc with a tumor three years ago really made it hit home that life is short and our time with our parents is limited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898815 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 20:26:36 +0000 Foodnerd81 2898815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it really means that much to him AND they go out of their way to help you a lot, I’d probably suck it up and go. I was going to say no until you mentioned all the help they do for you. But it would suck so I’d also understand not going... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898814 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 20:25:37 +0000 bhbee 2898814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have the flexibility to make it all more fun for you? Maybe leave early Saturday, stop somewhere fun on the road trip, plan some fall activities in your parents’ area, etc. Whatever will fit in.<br /> I get being annoyed by family commitments, we definitely struggle with it since we spend almost all our vacation time and $ on it. But this sounds worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898813 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 20:23:05 +0000 Anagram 2898813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn’t call it a minor inconvenience, but I’d go anyway since they are there for your guys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-65#post-2898811 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 20:14:54 +0000 erinbaderin 2898811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, the context: my kids are 3 and 5. My parents live about 4 hours away.</p> <p>My dad is an amateur actor, always has been. He’s doing a pantomime this fall, and he wants us to bring the boys up to see it. I really don’t want to and resent being asked - my husband is just starting a new job and has no leave and can’t telework, so we wouldn’t be able to leave until 6pm on Friday, and the kids don’t sleep well in the car. I don’t think they’ll be able to sit through a full play - my dad says “if they want to leave after half an hour that’s fine!” which...sure, except that we have an 8 hour round trip for that half hour! On the weekends my older son has swimming and soccer, my younger son has skating, and I have handbell choir - we’d have to miss them all. </p> <p>On the other hand, my parents come down to babysit for us on a regular basis, they just spent 3 full days with the boys while we went on vacation, and it would mean a lot to my dad. </p>