https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 06:36:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-7#post-223331 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 02:39:24 +0000 808love 223331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with PP, I'd do it on a Sunday before the baby arrives if you are up to it. Let them worry about getting organized. Then the people who really want to be there, will be there. Don't worry about gift grabbing mentality, people in the church probably want an excuse to get to know you. All moms love a baby and a new mom to be...no obligation necessary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-7#post-223081 Mon, 16 Jul 2012 19:36:56 +0000 tequiero21 223081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>if u were to pick a date after the baby is born, i'd wait until after 2 months - just so hectic before then and the baby isn't vaccinated and should not be around so many people. especially people you don't even know well.</p> <p>i'd just pick a sunday if you're feeling up for it. before the baby arrives. more time then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-7#post-223070 Mon, 16 Jul 2012 19:27:36 +0000 matador84 223070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At that point, I'd probably pick a time after the baby is born and have something like a sip and see. One of my friends did something I thought was so smart. She didn't want her newborn baby being passed around, so she showed up in a moby wrap and no one even asked her to take her sleeping baby out!!</p> <p>Or, if you really don't want them to do anything, just insist that it isn't necessary. I didn't want a work shower at work, because not everyone I work with was invited to my "real" work shower, but they insisted. I finally caved and said fine, but as gifts diapers only and it ended up great because i got tons of diapers/wipes i probably wouldn't have gotten otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-7#post-223028 Mon, 16 Jul 2012 18:57:22 +0000 Rubies 223028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it were me, I would say that you'll pick a date after the baby is born and leave it at that. If she asks you again after the baby is born, be honest. Maybe you will have a wonderful labour and delivery and feel comfortable having guests over? Or, maybe you're just not ready. They should all understand.</p> <p>OR, maybe a couple of hours after church service? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-7#post-223023 Mon, 16 Jul 2012 18:53:30 +0000 eeh 223023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lady from our church called today wanting to throw us a baby shower. It's very sweet of them and I don't see any way we can reasonably say no. However, I'm torn for a couple of reasons.</p> <p>First...although we've been going to church there for about a year and a half we really don't know all that many people. My inlaws have been going there for much, much longer so people know them but not really us (especially since my husband is typically working Sundays and I go by myself). So, I'm not really sure who all will show up at this shower and don't want people to think we're gift grabbing.</p> <p>Also, they told me to pick a date. I'll be 37 weeks on Wednesday which means we're running out of time to do it before hand. Especially since it needs to be on either a Sunday or Wednesday. Will they have time to announce the date, have the shower, and still have time to get things organized and thank you's written before the baby arrives?</p> <p>They said I could pick a date after the baby arrives which I like the idea of because then at least there would be a cute baby to coo over. However, I'm not sure I'm too keen on the idea of pass the baby when she's so tiny. Also, who knows how long it will take us to get any kind of routine and I would hate to have to leave to feed her in the middle of a shower in our honor or have her be fussy. </p> <p>Thoughts on what I should do? </p>