Hellobee Boards Topic: What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?

Hellobee Boards Topic: What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 21:09:37 +0000 chopsuey on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-14323 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 20:59:57 +0000 chopsuey 14323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'd sell the house and cars and move back to CA. Not sure if I'd live with my parents, but I'd definitely live in the same city. LivsMama on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-14313 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 20:36:01 +0000 LivsMama 14313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @themcmom-big fan of #4 =o) themcmom on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-14003 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 13:26:45 +0000 themcmom 14003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My husband almost died from what the medical community calls the "widowmaker" heart attack before Wombat was born, so I actually had to think about what I'd do. What I came up with, and what I told him once he was out of the hospital is as follows: 1. Make my sister move in with me, which she would've gladly done 2. Move closer to his family so that Wombat would know him through them 3. Learn how to fix stuff like he did so that Wombat would tinker like her father 4. Become the most bad ass mother I could possibly be since I would be making up for her father not being there daniellemybelle on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-14000 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 13:22:51 +0000 daniellemybelle 14000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would definitely want to live closer to my parents, and probably want to stay with them for a while, but I wouldn't move in permanently. When my parents divorced, my mom, brother & I moved in with my grandparents for a year or so, but she eventually bought her own house about 10 minutes away. We lived there until my mom remarried. Just want to say that this is why life insurance is so important! Whether or not your husband is the breadwinner, if losing his income would affect your ability to pay your mortgage and things like that, you should get life insurance. HLK208 on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13965 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 12:34:03 +0000 HLK208 13965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Well, I'd probably have to go back to school because I can't make as much as DH does with my degree. I would sell our house and go back to work, and I know I would have to rely on my parents and in-laws for child care. I don't think I could handle it on my own. geekinheels on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13956 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 12:09:42 +0000 geekinheels 13956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've had recurring nightmares about this when I was pregnant. And according to the dreams, I would get into a big fight with my in-laws because they would want to take the girls to Hong Kong, and we would become estranged as a result. I wouldn't be able to afford our mortgage so I'd sell the condo at a huge loss and move back in with my parents. I'd go back to work making 3/4 what I made before, while my mother sells her store to watch the girls so that I could work. ...and as nightmarish as this scenario sounds, this is probably what would happen. Mrs. D on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13870 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 10:40:14 +0000 Mrs. D 13870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't know what I'd do, but I worry about it more than I should right now. It can't be good for the baby! DH works in a high risk job, which he loves, but it worries me when he has really long days and I don't hear from him. It doesn't help that he's working a three hour time difference away right now, so it's pretty late when I finally hear his voice every night. i imagine I may move in with my mom or my grandmother. I think both would be great options, and if I moved if my Grammie, then my mom would feel better about her too right now, since she's older and forgetful. LuLu Mom on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13799 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 09:06:53 +0000 LuLu Mom 13799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ This is such a hard thing to think about, if my DH were to pass & we had children, then I would probably sell our house and move closer to my parents/ in-laws. I'm sure for a few months I would live with my parents but would want to get out on my own again. HabesBabe on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13796 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 09:00:17 +0000 HabesBabe 13796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would sell out house and move in to my mom's house, or sell my mom's house and have her move into our house. We actually had a discussion about this because we bought life insurance awhile back (but then canceled it). mommytobee on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13794 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 08:57:30 +0000 mommytobee 13794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Good question, that I never thought about! I know the door would be wide open for me at my parent's place; however even if I love my parents to death, living with them is not something I could do for longer than 2 days... I'm independant and my mom tends to be controlling although she doesn't mean it that way... I would suffocate very fast. I think I'd sell the house (couldn't move on if I had to live in this house full of memories) and buy a smaller one and get all the support I can from my family to raise our children. tequiero21 on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13767 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 08:30:44 +0000 tequiero21 13767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ i don't think i could take care of them myself. luckily, my husband took out a good life insurance so for awhile, i don't think i'd change anything (like live with my parents)... .but who knows. i haven't had kids yet so lol. Rubies on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13744 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 07:29:37 +0000 Rubies 13744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I often think about this. I would definitely have to sell the house but not necessarily move back in with my parents. They would for sure want me to, though. I don't know how I would do it, though. Andrea on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13741 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 06:40:39 +0000 Andrea 13741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have life insurance so at least I wouldn't have to work. But I would probably sell the house and relocate to Hawaii where my parents live. mediagirl on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13734 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 05:59:34 +0000 mediagirl 13734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have no idea. I would probably sell the house and move to a condo or townhouse near work. We'll have life insurance, so that will help for a while but it would be a huge struggle. I don't know how I would be as a parent without my rock next to me. SugarplumsMom on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13732 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 04:33:08 +0000 SugarplumsMom 13732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh man, it's tough just thinking about it. First of all, I'd have to sell the house. I'd want to move back to my Mom's house. Without my husband, I have no reason being here! I'd need my family and friends back home in California. Then maybe when I get back on my feet, I'd find a place of my own. But my Mom's house would be pretty convenient so I'd likely take my time doing it. MaisyMay on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13731 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 04:31:00 +0000 MaisyMay 13731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't know how I would do it. I would probably move closer to my in-laws, or get my mom to move closer to me. looch on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13724 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 03:01:10 +0000 looch 13724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'd like to think I could raise our son on my own, but it would require that I went back to work and had some childcare options. I would likely move close to my parents, probably with them until I could manage on my own. runsyellowlites on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13693 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 00:03:15 +0000 runsyellowlites 13693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was a single parent for the last 5 years BUT did move back with my mom (rented from her) while I went to school. If something happened to DH right now, I'd probably move back till I could get on my feet (his income is primary right now) BUT then I'm sure I'd get a place for us and just stay close to my mum.... b/c she's pretty much my best friend and keeps me straight when I get stressed. lol Moreso than something happening to DH, I worry about something happening to me b/c DH is my son's step-dad and the law here says that DS would go back to his biological dad.... something that I SOOOOOO wouldn't want... =/ Mrs. Bee on "What would you do if something happened to your SO and you had to raise your child by yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-if-something-happened-to-your-so-and-you-had-to-raise-your-child-by-yourself#post-13689 Thu, 10 Nov 2011 23:52:21 +0000 Mrs. Bee 13689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have to give it up to all the single parents out there because it's hard raising a child with both parents. It must be 1000x harder as a single parent! If something happened to Mr. Bee, I would definitely move back in with my parents. I know I couldn't raise Charlie and Olive on my own, and I'm lucky that my parents would be happy to have me move back home (my mom wants me to move to LA with Charlie and Olive right now until the winter is over!). Do you think you could handle being a single parent?