https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 06:03:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677954 Wed, 11 Jan 2017 11:53:02 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2677954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Daycare now. Honestly, she is going to be ridiculously sick no matter when you make the transition -- better to be sick in the winter than to miss the entire summer of playing outside! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677936 Wed, 11 Jan 2017 11:35:25 +0000 snowbaby 2677936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs.shinerbock: Thanks so much for sharing your experience -- I just wish I could fast-forward to the time when LO will be loving all her new daycare friends and teachers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677525 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 20:34:45 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2677525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a similar situation- we had a wonderful nanny that we loved as part of a nanny share and the other family wanted out just when I was due to have LO2, so we were planning on keeping the nanny to watch both kids. </p> <p>Unfortunately she had a family emergency and had to move to another city the week my son was born, so we were unexpectedly without a nanny. We chose to enroll my daughter in preschool. She was 26 months and it was a pretty rough transition for about 6 weeks, but now she loves school and talks about her teachers and friends all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677359 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 15:05:08 +0000 Boogs 2677359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowbaby: It's always so much harder on us than them, it seems! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677344 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:57:28 +0000 snowbaby 2677344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlejoy; @Travellingbee: Thank you for sharing your happy ending stories! This makes me feel more confident. I really do expect (hope!) that LO will have an easier time with the daycare transition than I will. </p> <p>Like with BFing, I was so sad to wean her at 15 months, but after our very last pre-bedtime BF session, she never even asked again, and I was shocked! I didn't realize how ready she was. Hopefully we'll have a repeat experience with the daycare transition. Also, hopefully LO didn't inherit my resistance to change :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677331 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:47:09 +0000 travellingbee 2677331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also would just do one transition now. We transitioned to day care at 18 months too and it was a bit rough as he was having a lot of separation anxiety then. But after a couple of weeks, it was great and he has loved school ever since. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677319 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:40:30 +0000 littlejoy 2677319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We transitioned to daycare at 13 months (we had a nanny before). It was a wonderful choice for our family, and our LO has thrived. If you can find a daycare you love, and feel confident in, I'd say go for it!! </p> <p>As far as illness, our LO pretty much got sick for a year off and on (we started in March). It was rough, but it's going to happen no matter when you start. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677309 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:31:25 +0000 snowbaby 2677309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@codeitall: Ugh, germy little buggers! Thanks for sharing your experience - very helpful. I think increased clinginess is probably exactly what would happen if we found a "temporary" nanny or sitter :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677306 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:29:08 +0000 snowbaby 2677306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PSW27, @Sapphire, @Eko: There actually does seem to be a daycare opening right now, so I should probably jump on it.</p> <p>@Boogs: Thank you!! It's super comforting to see the consistency in everyone's responses. And the feedback matches up with my gut (despite my reluctance about "ripping off the bandaid")! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677302 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:26:44 +0000 codeitall 2677302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went the temporary sitter route and it just meant a lot of instability for my little guy. He never bonded with her and was really clingy with DH and I for months afterward.</p> <p>He started his first real daycare in late March and he was sick with Hand Foot Mouth, Roseola and a straight up cold within the first 6 weeks. Then his immune system seemed to kick in! Kids will bring germs home regardless of season ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677295 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:18:44 +0000 Eko 2677295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with doing daycare soon, but my only concern is being able to find anything on such short notice. You may just end up going with whatever is available. Good luck </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677283 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:07:08 +0000 Boogs 2677283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome! I vote daycare. If you're headed that way at some point anyway, might as well rip the bandaid now. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677281 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:06:21 +0000 sapphire 2677281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is there an opening at the daycare? Around here waiting lists are 9-12 months so we wouldn't be able to make a quick switch like that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677280 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:04:50 +0000 winniebee 2677280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowbaby: it was definitely a transition (for me!) because I was used to having her do stuff around the house and she picked the kids up from school etc. But overall it's calmer around here without an extra person, and my younger son is doing much better with more time at school - he still was having issues with drop off and then when we upped his days he stopped crying at drop off and loves it now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677276 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 13:57:14 +0000 psw27 2677276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted daycare now mostly for simplicity. It will be a transition for your and LO but you only have to do it once. Plus I think it would be hard to find a nanny for a short amount of time. Also, if there are daycare openings now, I would jump on them if the market is tight around you. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677271 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 13:50:49 +0000 snowbaby 2677271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Yay, I love hearing that you were happy with your decision! I'm feeling much more at peace with this situation. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677270 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 13:49:50 +0000 snowbaby 2677270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pumpkin pie: That's a great point about daycare demand going up at 18-24 mo. I hadn't thought about that, and the daycare market is super tight where we live, with wait lists pretty much everywhere. I might be kicking myself in a few months if I pass up daycare openings now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677269 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 13:48:33 +0000 winniebee 2677269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a nanny for 15 months and for 2 of those months our kids were both in school some. Our son started school at 21 months. When our nanny unexpectedly left in November I was faced with simmilar dilemma but decided to up their hours at school. It's been great....I vote no more nanny :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677264 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 13:39:02 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2677264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted daycare. I'm a fan of good daycares vs nanny. I really liked that kids get the social interaction and they do so many different activities. It's also s great way to meet other parents. </p> <p>Not sure how the daycare market is in your area, but for us it's harder to get in the longer you wait because most parents want to start their LOs around 18-24mo for the socialization. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677260 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 13:25:18 +0000 snowbaby 2677260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Totally agree - I'm hoping that our nanny will come through and at least stay through February. That would give me more time to mentally prepare. As much as I adore our nanny, I really wish she'd given us more of a heads-up about her move! </p> <p>LO has been on the waitlist at our neighborhood daycare center since birth, actually (she's gotten off of the list several times, but I haven't been ready to pull the trigger and move her into daycare, so I keep telling them to put me back on the list -- they're probably sick of me!). I'm not sure where she is on the waitlist currently. I just spoke with a new daycare, which I hear great things about, and they do have availability now and likely will continue to have availability over the next couple months. I'm taking LO to visit it tomorrow to check it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677255 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 13:21:29 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2677255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think your ideal situation would be to hang on to the current nanny for another month and then go straight to daycare. </p> <p>Do you have a daycare lined up? Are there opening? And yes, I would talk to them about how long she would be in that classroom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677252 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 13:17:16 +0000 snowbaby 2677252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is SUCH helpful feedback, thank you ladies. This supports my gut feeling that going ahead with the daycare transition now is probably best for everyone, even if I'm not quite there yet emotionally. :bummed: </p> <p>@snowjewelz: I think you're right that a new nanny is a big transition, and won't necessarily be that much easier on LO than the daycare transition.</p> <p>@banana330: This makes sense. And at least we're past the beginning of flu season, which always seems worst for everyone. </p> <p>@raspberries: You're totally right that the odds are low of finding an awesome nanny who is willing to work 3.5 days/wk for only a couple months.</p> <p>@purplepeony: This is a great point that I hadn't thought about! I'll ask the daycare center about when LO would move up to a new room. I agree that maximizing stability is the goal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677238 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 12:54:37 +0000 PurplePeony 2677238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The fewer transitions the better, IMO. However, if you're going to use a daycare center, look at their schedule for moving kids up to the next room -- here, most do it around the child's birthday but I know others keep to a "school year" type schedule. I would try to get her into daycare now if I were you, or wait until she's old enough that she would be in the same daycare room for awhile; I'd try to avoid having a new nanny for 1-2 months or putting her in daycare and then moving up a room after a couple months. Basically, go with whichever option would give the most stability for the longest time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677236 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 12:53:18 +0000 raspberries 2677236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd also be concerned about finding a quality nanny who can fit into your 3.5 day/wk schedule who's okay just working for the next few months - I feel like it's one of those situations where you can make 2 of 3 things work, but it'll be reeeally hard to get all three (great nanny, fits in your schedule, and wants temporary work.)</p> <p>So I'd go with the daycare transition now - if it's happening in the next few months anyway, might as well get it over with. I don't think there's any way to avoid daycare sickness, unfortunately! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677234 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 12:51:44 +0000 Banana330 2677234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we started daycare in april... she was sick a ton the first month then it disappeared mostly for summer. In Sept we transitioned to a new daycare.. sick again for about a month. Since then she's had a cough, runny nose but nothing too bad... i think either way they get sick in a new environment as they adjust to the germs there. i would just transition now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677232 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 12:47:09 +0000 snowjewelz 2677232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just transition to daycare now... I think getting a new nanny is still a pretty big transition. As for getting sick, I totally understand not wanting to transition in the thick of flu season, but I feel like they get sick no matter what...? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-do-new-nanny-or-daycare#post-2677219 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 12:37:15 +0000 snowbaby 2677219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello! This is my very first Hellobee post, but I have been a lurker for quite some time :silly: </p> <p>I would love to tap into the hive wisdom for the following issue that just landed on my lap last night:</p> <p>We have an 18 month old DD, and a nanny who we absolutely adore. I WOH 3 days a week. The nanny comes 3.5 days a week so that I can squeeze in an extra half day working at home. This is our second nanny, and she has been with us for the last 4 months. Our plan (prior to last night) was to use our nanny until later this spring or early summer, and at that point move our DD into daycare 3 days a week (for the benefits of socialization, out-of-the-house stimulation, and our budget!). But last night, our nanny dropped the news that she is moving out of the state at the end of January (i.e., in two weeks-ish). I'm so so disappointed! And now we need to revisit our plan.</p> <p>So, our options are (a) to fast track the transition to daycare at the end of the month when the nanny moves, or (b) to find another "stop-gap" nanny until the daycare transition in the spring/summer. To complicate matters a bit, our nanny may be willing to stay an extra month or two to help us transition into daycare, but that's uncertain at this point. For now, though, I'm preparing for the worst and assuming that the nanny will be gone at the end of the month. Given that we are going to transition our LO into daycare in the coming months anyway, do you think it would be easier on LO to just do it now and get the transition out of the way, or find another nanny (which, in itself, is another transition for LO) and then transition to daycare after a couple months with the new nanny? A huge part of my hesitation with finding another nanny is that I just can't imagine finding one on such short order who can hold a candle to our current nanny. </p> <p>So I guess my question is whether it's easier on LO to have one big transition now at 18 months (the move to daycare), or one smaller transition now (new nanny) plus the big transition when she's closer to 2?</p> <p>BTW, I have this nagging sense that the daycare transition is going to be tougher on me than on LO, and would LOVE some input...</p> <p>And one final thought: one of our reasons for wanting to wait until the spring or early summer to move LO into daycare was the thought that it would be easier on everyone to wait until cold/flu season has passed. Is this logical, or is LO's immune system going to get hammered regardless of when she moves into daycare?</p> <p>This ended up being really long-winded. Sorry to write a novel. Thank you for any input!!! </p>