https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 18:43:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835374 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 19:41:14 +0000 pachamama 2835374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: same. Show me you love me by cleaning out the litter box. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835370 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 18:39:56 +0000 crazydoglady 2835370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: Acts of service 😂😂😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835362 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 18:02:47 +0000 CC Mommy 2835362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cereal: "I love you" (genuinely and repeatedly) he's recently lost patience with his hormonal, funky post partum wife and said some things that really hurt... we've reconciled after a long, rough patch, but I get so self conscious every time my mood shifts or my patience wanes... &amp; I'm honestly just so tired and overwhelmed I want to cry with this on top of everything... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835346 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 16:29:41 +0000 LCTBQE 2835346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit7: hahahaha</p> <p>personally I don't want to *hear* anything. I just want to spontaneously realize that he has done the five million annoying tasks that I've asked him to do 19 times each. my love language is the one where people don't say shit and just do stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835333 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 15:48:01 +0000 crazydoglady 2835333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: Nothing could be further from the truth! From what I have seen on HB, you are an empathetic, generous, and intelligent person (and a teacher to boot :silly: )-- a far cry from a POS. You've been through so much with your loss, infertility struggles, and getting pregnant again-- that's a lot to bear! There are so many seasons in our lives and I firmly believe that what you are going through will end someday very soon. Hugs. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835281 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 07:47:16 +0000 SweetiePie 2835281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>“You do so much more than I realized!”</p> <p>I think sometimes he doesn’t realize just how much I do to make his life easier. It’s not something I sit and fume about, I’m not bitter. I just think that unless I really let shit hit the fan he’ll never get it. How much he doesn’t have to even think about or know exists because I just do it. I’m always thinking and trying to get ahead of problems, try not to run out of things, worry about logistics...it’s not rocket science but since this is temporarily my “job” I try to treat it as such. At work in an office I often got commended on how smoothly things went for projects and launches and at home it feels pretty thankless.<br /> But it’s a stage and I try to remember that :-) It’s not like I was thrilled at work either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835280 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 06:50:59 +0000 avivoca 2835280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>“The house smells nice”</p> <p>My dog got skunked on monday night and I took the day off Tuesday to rid the house and the dog of the stench, but it smells ever so faintly of skunk and I wish he would stop commenting on it and change the furnace filters like I asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835263 Sat, 21 Jul 2018 20:10:28 +0000 Adira 2835263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Duplicate post. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835262 Sat, 21 Jul 2018 20:09:38 +0000 Adira 2835262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: I'm sorry! Hopefully it's just a hormone imbalance that will level out for you soon. Feel better! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835261 Sat, 21 Jul 2018 20:06:22 +0000 pachamama 2835261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I am with a therapist specializing in women's issues and have lots of support from friends and family, and my OB keeps her eye on me, but things are just bad this pregnancy. Not really sure what's going on but I can't seem to snap out of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835242 Sat, 21 Jul 2018 15:30:33 +0000 Adira 2835242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: Have you talked to anyone about those negative feelings...? We're all doing the best we can. No one's perfect. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835225 Sat, 21 Jul 2018 13:48:50 +0000 Synchronicity 2835225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: those are some harsh thoughts that I'm sure you do not deserve. Try to be gentle with yourself, this shit ain't easy and we're all doing the best we can :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835222 Sat, 21 Jul 2018 13:30:06 +0000 pachamama 2835222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: my husband tells me I'm a good mom and I call him a liar :-( Because I really don't believe I am.<br /> My husband asks and does all the right things ("what can I do? You're so pretty. Do you want a backrub?" etc) every day and I'm such a miserable piece of shit it doesn't even matter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835186 Sat, 21 Jul 2018 08:22:13 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2835186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is probably a good post for me to read. I can't think of anything I'd like her to say. I'd like her to DO lots of things I could easily think of. But, like @Ajsmommy: words of affirmation aren't my love language. However, they may be hers and I should be better about saying a lot of this stuff! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835171 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 23:19:40 +0000 poppygirl15 2835171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This post really hit home with me. I would love him to say, that I look nice, or to thank me for cooking, meal planning, budgeting, figuring out all childcare, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835162 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 21:52:01 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2835162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: same. I don’t think he’s ever said it to me. I’ve told him at least a handful of times that he’s a wonderful daddy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835148 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 19:04:16 +0000 Iced Tea 2835148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit7: Totally this! We do the morning part many weekends, but he’s done night duty only three times in her 13 months of life. I really want to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835125 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 14:33:05 +0000 peaches1038 2835125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>“I’m sorry I was so unreasonable and rigid when your parents wanted to take DS somewhere that might mean he would skip his nap”</p> <p>Ugh my parents are visiting from the opposite coast and he’s being so crazy about our 2.75yo’s schedule. Like it’s a couple days! He will be fine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835121 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 14:25:42 +0000 MamaBear87 2835121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my recent health issues I've realized that it's so so much better just to ask for what you need than to wish your significant other could read your mind. To be fair it would be awesome if they did this stuff on their own but sometimes you just don't think about it. A few gentle reminders might get them into the habit (and I'll bet you find they were thinking of some of these things and just not voicing them) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835115 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 14:02:16 +0000 DesertDreams88 2835115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: same!</p> <p>"You look beautiful." This mom of a 2.5 yr old and 5 month old would love that, despite my 10-15 extra pounds and floppy wrinkly stomach skin. Despite staying-at-home currently, I even put on full makeup and do my hair 4-5 days a week and still.... crickets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835114 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 14:01:16 +0000 PinkElephant 2835114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Wow, this is really hard."</p> <p>(after getting up with the kids this morning to help me out, but not doing....like 50% of the stuff that needs to get done in the AM for them to get out the door, haha)</p> <p>I'd really just appreciate his direct acknowledgement that what I do every.single.day. is harder than I make it look, and is valuable to our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835112 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 13:56:40 +0000 Littlebit7 2835112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>“Hey why don’t you sleep in tomorrow. I’ll take the baby and sleep in the guest room and turn on all the noise machines. I’ll take the toddler when she wakes up and make sure she doesn’t bang on the door screaming ‘mama mama’ I’ll also make sure all of the kids are fed so when you do get out of bed you don’t have 2 children clawing at you like bloodthirsty zombies”. </p> <p>That’s all </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835110 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 13:53:38 +0000 FaithFertility 2835110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You look great, beautiful ,pretty ,sexy etc!<br /> He is good at thanking me for all I do and being a good mom and wife, and he def shows me he is attracted to me, but I would love to hear just a "Hey you look great today!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835106 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 13:35:35 +0000 crazydoglady 2835106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Yup. </p> <p>I know my husband thinks it, but he's a man of few words. Also a "thank you for all that you do" would be great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835105 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 13:32:39 +0000 Mama Bird 2835105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd love to hear "why don't you work from home today and let DD stay with you?" It's been a rough few weeks and DD is really struggling this week (just emotionally, she's not sick). </p> <p>And a "thank you" for basically running the household solo for three weeks would be nice, but I'll be fair, he's got other things on his mind now, so it would be odd if that was even on his radar. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835104 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 13:28:09 +0000 Foodnerd81 2835104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>“I made an appointment for a massage for you, I’ll take care of the kids. Just go.”</p> <p>He’s pretty good about saying nice things and showing his appreciation. Maybe it would be nice to hear that he appreciates that I do all the planning for things since he’s terrible about planning ahead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835102 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 13:27:31 +0000 catgirl 2835102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cereal: I used to feel the same way about dinner (well, really every meal). Then one day I told DH how much it would mean for him to awknowlege when I cook for him. So he made a real effort to say it and taught DD to say it too. They now both say it for every meal and it means so much to me. </p> <p>Right now I just want to hear he missed me and is happy to be with us. He has only been home for 20 days of the past almost four months due to work. It's been hard and lonely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835101 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 13:25:15 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2835101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: This one is huge for me too. I try so hard to be a good parent and I truly LOVE being a parent, so hearing him affirm that would be great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835100 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 13:22:28 +0000 Adira 2835100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd love to hear, "You're such a good mom." I know he thinks I'm a good mom, but he rarely says it and it would mean so much to have him reaffirm it for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-like-for-your-spouse-to-say-to-you#post-2835098 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 13:15:50 +0000 Ajsmommy 2835098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm, I honestly can't think of anything. I'm pretty sure words of affirmation is NOT my love language! LOL</p> <p>Well, as I was typing that a thought popped into my head and I'd love my DH to tell me to start planning our 2019 trip to some tropical far away place. </p>