https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 13:11:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1924622 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 15:09:46 +0000 Vegmama 1924622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I think I would just point her in the direction of HB ... *If* she's wanting advice. </p> <p>@YogiRunner: I did not read the book. I found mostly everything I needed to online. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1924582 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 14:47:53 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 1924582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Start prenatals, start tracking her cycles (I used pink pad app) and when she is ready to really TTC, just start with OPK's, I wouldn't stress about much else until some times has passed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1924540 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 14:20:58 +0000 MaryM 1924540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@YogiRunner: I had heard of TCOYF, but hadn't actually read it until after my MC. I already knew how to chart and had taken an NFP class, but there were tidbits in it that I wasn't aware of (like how much your temperature fluctuates each hour you're asleep, it was helpful on figuring out CM texture, and I still refer to the index occasionally) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1924529 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 14:17:43 +0000 YogiRunner 1924529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@adira i love that advice. When we started, DH kind of assumed it would happen immediately. We had no idea what we were doing and had awful timing the first month, but still wondered why after 2 months it hadn't happened yet (ha!) So I love that way of gently letting them know that sometimes it's a bit of a journey, and that is totally normal.</p> <p>Also agree with the prenatal vitamin advice. It's important to build up nutrient reserves before conception, and you'll have beautiful hair and nails on the wedding day :happy: </p> <p>Lastly, I got in the things I knew I couldn't really do preggo, like run a marathon! DH also completed a full Ironman (don't think I wasn't worried about his swimmers with all that bike time, but it was important for us to achieve some personal BHAGS before kids came)</p> <p>Quick q for the group -- when did you read TCOYF? We're already in month 7, so I'm thinking if it doesn't take this cycle I'm hitting up amazon... just afraid it's going to tell me the stuff I already know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1924142 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 11:21:30 +0000 looch 1924142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd tell her to read this article:</p> <p><a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/" rel="nofollow">http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/</a></p> <p>Would have saved me a lot of anxiety. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1924125 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 11:13:28 +0000 Adira 1924125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a friend who I knew was going to start TTC soon, so I lent her my copy of TCOYF and just said something like "I hope you're one of the lucky ones that gets pregnant right away, but it's normal for it to take a while." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1924117 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 11:08:38 +0000 birdofafeather 1924117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I just lent my copy to a friend who is TTC and having a hard time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1923980 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 09:54:04 +0000 fairy 1923980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup charting, prenatals, buy opks, and perhaps read tcoyf :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1923965 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 09:48:24 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 1923965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All good advice given already, but as another AMA mama, I wish I'd have started charting earlier, myself. I knew that my chances of getting pregnant were decreased, but I think it would have been nice to have had more info in general (so tcoyf) &amp; on my own cycle. Invite her to HB, too! I've learned so much here! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1923569 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 03:12:22 +0000 mediagirl 1923569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: @birdofafeather: sounds like the book may be the perfect gift for her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1923477 Thu, 30 Oct 2014 22:18:44 +0000 birdofafeather 1923477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yeah, TCOYF and simple charting. i like @Aimed: 's advice of enjoying her wedding too though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1923471 Thu, 30 Oct 2014 22:13:42 +0000 MaryM 1923471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started charting about 6 months before our wedding and it helped identify some problems BCPs had been hiding (pcos and low P). If she's eager, I'd suggest reading Taking charge if your fertility now and temping if she's willing </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1923424 Thu, 30 Oct 2014 21:20:40 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1923424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Keep as fit and healthy as possible, but generally don't change too much about her lifestyle. I know that it's totally wrong and insulting to tell people "relax and it will happen!" and that's not what I'm trying to say, but I think the more stress and anxiety is minimised, the more she will be able to enjoy the process. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1923397 Thu, 30 Oct 2014 20:58:54 +0000 Aimed 1923397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would tell her to enjoy her wedding, it only comes once and she should enjoy this time with her husband to be. Besides that, no harm in taking a prenatal and, let nature take its course. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1923362 Thu, 30 Oct 2014 20:32:14 +0000 Bao 1923362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Charting and taking prenatals. Even if it's simple charting, without temping, to get an idea of her cycles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1923358 Thu, 30 Oct 2014 20:28:18 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 1923358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have mild PCOS, so in my case I think dieting helped me. I didn't follow a specific plan but was conscious about eating and limited alcohol. I would also tell her to try not to think about it too much because it's all consuming once it happens. I also kind of think it's annoyingly true that it happens when you're not trying so hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-tell-a-friend-who-will-ttc-1-in-5-months#post-1923346 Thu, 30 Oct 2014 20:22:07 +0000 mediagirl 1923346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A good friend is getting married. She wants to start TTC the month of her wedding (she's of advanced maternal age). If she was your friend and you were close enough to talk about TTC, what would you tell her to start doing now, 5 months before TTC? </p> <p>She stopped BC months ago. </p>