https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 15:01:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371583 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 09:29:31 +0000 MamaMoose 371583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just have your mom tell people if they ask, but don't proactively try to put th info out there now that the invites have already been mailed.</p> <p>I would however go to your registry and do some editing. Cut it down to the things you REALLY need (like bottles). That way, if fewer people are actually buying you things from the registry you know the things you do get will be the essentials. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371581 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 09:29:00 +0000 MrsHotDog 371581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your poor mom! I bet she feels horrible. </p> <p>If I got the invite, I would look for the registry myself or ask someone. Since it says "in lieu of card", I would think the registry info was left off and look at the normal places. If my mom got the invite for a shower, she would call me to see what I thought since I am in the baby making stage. Also, if some people just show up with a book and some people with gifts, I would think the people would go online and order a gift after the party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371579 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 09:28:25 +0000 mrsjyw 371579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think most ppl would ask about a registry. We had some people who internet stalked and found our registry, just because they wanted to gift us (non shower guests). I think a baby registry is the norm (in most regional areas) and people assume every parent has one (esp first timers!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371577 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 09:27:24 +0000 photojane 371577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the only problem is that she pretty much invited her entire church. it's the church i grew up in, and all of these women were part of my life for a long time. they all demanded to be invited.. haha. just the number of church people alone is in the 50's, so word of mouth is going to be difficult! i think i'm going to have her run around like a little mockingbird on sunday morning. :)</p> <p>i'm hoping y'all are right though... i hope people just know to look up the registry information. i'll be so bummed if i get 50 pink onesies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371563 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 09:23:07 +0000 ladyfingers 371563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would assume there is a registry as well, and would probably just look in the usual places (BRU, Target, Amazon). Or I'd ask the host when I RSVP'ed. Your mom can totally just spread it through word of mouth! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371536 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 09:15:37 +0000 Shutterbug 371536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally I always search the usuals (BRU, Target, etc) for the person's name, even before I get the shower invite. If I got an invitation like yours I would probably search for your registry anyway. </p> <p>I agree with @IcebergMom that you (or your mom and MIL) should start spreading the word. It should be pretty easy to get that info out to family, and maybe one of your friends can spread it to your friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371496 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 09:00:47 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 371496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: I agree.. you need to start word of mouth! You might end up with people thinking "oh, I will just get her a bunch of books then!". Get your mom to call a few key people and spread the word from there. "OOPs, forgot the registry info! Can you please spread the word?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371390 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 08:08:23 +0000 Foodnerd81 371390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Especially since people are used to registries in your circle, I really think most people would look online or ask about a registry, not just assume you only want a card. I've been to a few showers with the book instead of card (which I love, because a lot of time cute cards cost the same as a book and it's so much more useful!) and people always bring a gift with the book. I would look at the usual registries-- Buy Buy Baby, BRU, and if I couldn't find you, I'd ask the host probably. There may be a handful of people who don't get it, but I really think it will be a small amount.<br /> I do think your mom could mention it to some relatives, just in case, and then they can keep passing it on in case someone brings it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371359 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 07:36:36 +0000 Smurfette 371359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was disappointed when I got one of my wedding showers invitations and they forgot the registry information. I got so much that I didn't need/want. </p> <p>I would still bring a present reguardless. I would try and find the registry myself (BabiesRUs, BuyBuyBaby) and if I couldn't find it, I would reach out to the host and ask. Could your Mom maybe pass on the registry information to those that she/you are closest to when she sees them? Or send an email to everyone?</p> <p>We did the bring a book in lieu of cards for a friend's shower and she loved it. She got so many books. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371354 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 07:30:50 +0000 IcebergMom 371354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you better start the word of mouth train! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371353 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 07:30:45 +0000 heffalump 371353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would never ever just buy a book for someone's shower. I feel like people will ask, or now a days people will know to look themselves. I registry stalk before I even get the invite and just look at the usual places (babies r us, buy buy baby, and target) to see if they're registered there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371350 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 07:27:18 +0000 MrsTiz 371350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you add a little card in with it saying where you are registered?</p> <p>I was SO excited for my bridal registry, did research made the perfect registry, and my stupid SIL made my shower invites and wrote ON THE BACK where I was registered. No one knew to look on the back and I didn't get anything off my registry, so don't do that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371185 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 00:12:21 +0000 birdofafeather 371185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would still get you a gift and look at babies r us or target to see if you're registered I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371032 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 21:16:54 +0000 photojane 371032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: i was worried about that too! it seems like when you're having a girl especially people tend to go crazy with the clothing gifts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371025 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 21:14:41 +0000 photojane 371025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: she did regrets only RSVP, so the only people who will be calling are people who aren't coming anyway. :( she wanted to send out a little postcard with the registry information, but i told her not to, since that seemed grabby and weird. i'm hoping people call to ask! and, i'm SO excited about the library! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371023 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 21:14:32 +0000 lawbee11 371023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Because it says "in lieu of a card" and not "in lieu of a gift," I would probably ask. The only thing I would be worried about is people thinking you don't have a registry and just getting you clothes or something. I would probably ask my mom to send an email (or call) to family or people she is close with and just tell them she left it out and give them the info. I probably wouldn't want my mom to do that with friends of mine that she wasn't close to, but I'd be totally fine if she did that with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371016 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 21:12:33 +0000 Mrs. Pen 371016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should ask your mom to spread it word of mouth. When people call to RSVP ask her to mention the registry information?</p> <p>also my sis/SIL did the book in lieu of card as well and we have such an awesome little library - I love it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371011 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 21:10:57 +0000 aprk 371011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think people generally ask if there is a registry </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-you-think-i-need-opinions#post-371005 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 21:08:43 +0000 photojane 371005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>(this is long... sorry!)</p> <p>so, i got my shower invitation today, and i'm so excited! the invitation was super cute, but there was one little problem -- my mom forgot to include the registry info. she said she had it typed on there, but must have accidentally erased it. she was really upset. (just to be clear, where i'm from everyone has a baby shower for every kid, and everyone includes registry information -- i know this can vary regionally.) it's a children's book themed shower, so the invitation does say, "in lieu of a card, please bring a signed book for sadie's librabry!" i'm a little worried that people will see no registry information, and see the "in lieu of a card..." thing, and think that we don't want gifts. i am obviously happy to have a shower regardless of the gifts, but i spent a lot of time on the registry, and we're really hoping to get the basics at least. essentially, if we don't get these items as gifts (rock n' play, bottles, jumperoo, swaddles, etc.), we won't be getting them -- we just can't afford to buy it all. i'll be excited to celebrate our sweet girl either way, but to be completely honest, it's kind of disappointing. i hope that doesn't make me a brat.</p> <p>so, if you were used to getting invitations with registry information, and then received mine, would you assume books instead of gifts or would you ask the hostess about a registry? </p>