https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 15:32:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483281 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 14:06:38 +0000 megjay18 2483281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ugh. this makes me so sad. we had my son at a daycare (now at a different, better one) and when i came he was crying and they were just like "he's been like this for a long time, he won't stop" but they had him like sitting by himself in a loud gym full of 5 year olds running around (he was 2 at the time). well no shit he's crying, he's probably scared and you left him by himself, assholes. but yeah, that's not okay. i definitely said something. and then when a few other things happened, we pulled him out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483252 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 13:54:21 +0000 mediagirl 2483252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: my husband made sure to do that. He also made sure they know that she just needs a hug when she is inconsolable. She has never refused a hug when upset. Ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483249 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 13:53:27 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2483249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 hours straight of crying is a LONG time. To be fair though, maybe they did try to comfort her and it just wasn't helping or making it worse (this happens with my DD sometimes). </p> <p>But yea they should have called. When I drop my kids off when I know they are a bit off I try to reiterate, PLEASE call me if they are just miserable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483243 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 13:51:18 +0000 mrsjyw 2483243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not okay!</p> <p>Like PPs, they would've sat with him, consoled him, etc. If he was still inconsolable, they would've called me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483187 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 13:32:27 +0000 mediagirl 2483187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: @regberadaisy: @Mamaof2: yeah. my thoughts exactly. Well, mine were more on the anger side. The teacher told us she was crying all afternoon!! She wasn't sick. I'm like - are you punishing us for leaving or something?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483180 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 13:31:37 +0000 Mamaof2 2483180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: OMG! Was she sick? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483153 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 13:26:15 +0000 regberadaisy 2483153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: 😮 How did you know she was crying for so long? Did they tell you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483150 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 13:25:12 +0000 winniebee 2483150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: :shocked: I can't believe they didn't call. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483148 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 13:24:37 +0000 mediagirl 2483148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: @JoyfulKiwi: @Adira: it was my kid. She's 3.5. It is totally out of her normal behavior. No one called. I'm pissed and thankful she only has 6 days left at this daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483064 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:46:14 +0000 yoursilverlining 2483064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: @winniebee: Our daycare sounds like yours. If a kid is crying hard for longer than like 30 minutes, they assume something bigger is at play (sickness) and call the parent. You don't have to get your child early in that situation, but I've gotten that call once that LO "was just not herself after naptime" (wasn't even crying hard!) and I did pick her up. Of course she was perfectly fine. </p> <p>I would want them to call me if LO was crying hard for more than 20 minutes, because that's very out of her nature. Some of the other kids - I dunno, maybe that is more within their range of normal? Maybe they did call the parents and no one came? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483054 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:42:59 +0000 gingerbebe 2483054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Ugh, its so annoying. They were like "he has a 99 point something temperature." I was like that's not a fever! And when I got there he had his fleece on and it was 74 degrees outside! He was probably just hot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483053 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:42:35 +0000 kodybear 2483053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>they try their best to console, but if it was going on for too long they would call, esp since its out of the ordinary. they wouldn't tell me i have to pick them up, but would just call as a courtesy so i can make a judgement on whether to pick them up </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483051 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:41:14 +0000 winniebee 2483051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: My son's school also called once saying he wasn't himself, was very weepy all day. He didn't have a fever, but they made it seem like I should pick him up. So I did. And he was totally fine. And I was annoyed, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483050 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:40:16 +0000 Adira 2483050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: Yeah, my daycare is similar. If they can, they will hold, snuggle, rock a crying child, but obviously they can't do that ALL the time, and I wouldn't expect them to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483049 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:40:04 +0000 winniebee 2483049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They would try cuddling/ consoling/ engaging the child. If the crying doesn't stop, call the parents to pick up. But as @Adira: mentioned unless the child has a fever, they don't *have* to go home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483048 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:39:49 +0000 Alivoo01 2483048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Ditto! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483045 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:37:59 +0000 gingerbebe 2483045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daycare usually assumes the kid is sick if they can't be cajoled, hugged, whatever after a reasonable period of time. Also, you don't know that the kid had been sobbing that hard for 2+ hours - they could have been pitching a fit off and on and just been in a generally cranky mood. </p> <p>I got called to pick up my kid one day who was NOT sick and still had to keep him home for 24 hours the next day because he was fussier than usual all day and really unhappy and the daycare people were like "we think he's sick." Sorta the flip side story, but yeah, my folks call. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483043 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:37:35 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2483043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd need more information if we're taking about someone else's child. Our center has a more "case by case" approach, so it would depend on the kid's age/personality, the parents, why they were crying, etc. In general, the teachers check for a fever, try to figure out the problem &amp; find a solution, but if a child is just inconsolable they'd likely make him comfortable and let him cry, checking on him often (I'm thinking an older child here). They may courtesy call parents depending on the teacher.<br /> If it were my kid, hes 3 and I know his temperament, so I'd be concerned that he'd been crying for hours because that's not like him. I wouldn't have expected them to call, because I can't really leave work for a sad kiddo. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483038 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:35:00 +0000 Adira 2483038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's totally possible the daycare DID call the parents and the parents chose not to pick him/her up early, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483030 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:30:58 +0000 regberadaisy 2483030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Her teachers would've held her / snuggled with her. If she still won't stop after a while they will call me.</p> <p>That's exactly what they would've and have done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483028 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:30:10 +0000 pregnantbee 2483028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd imagine they'd give tons of snuggles and try to distract him.....but I'd hope they'd call me if it went on for more than 30-40 min. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483017 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:21:49 +0000 snowjewelz 2483017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have been so upset! </p> <p>They usually would hold a crying child, even if they're still crying! </p> <p>We've def walked into DD crying before, but def not for that long and usually it's because they legitimately had their hands full. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483016 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:21:48 +0000 MaisyMay 2483016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For that long, if cuddles and soothing or distractions didn't work, they should have called DH to come get her. He works closer to the daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483012 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:18:29 +0000 Mamaof2 2483012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They would have called me and that's what I would have wanted!</p> <p>I would be livid in your scenario! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-would-your-childcare-provider-do-in-this-case#post-2483004 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:15:19 +0000 mediagirl 2483004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is a child sobbing uncontrollably. When the parent arrives, they find their child crying hard with snot dripping down their face. The teacher says, "(S)he has been like this since naptime." If a child at your center had been inconsolable since naptime, and it has been over 2 hours, what would your childcare provider do? Would they try to console the child? What if that wouldn't work? Would they let them keep crying? Would they consider calling home?</p> <p>On another note - what would you want your childcare provider to do if this happened to your child? </p>