https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 09:14:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-211687 Thu, 05 Jul 2012 14:20:08 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 211687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: I know! What frustrates me is that for the first 6 or 8 months I was off the pill, I was really regular at 35 days, O on day 18. Then it all went haywire. I think the last few cycles have been 38, 50, 39, 45, 52, and this cycle I'm CD56 and who knows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-211680 Thu, 05 Jul 2012 14:16:53 +0000 sslm 211680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@redsmarties: I agree. This is the worst. Since going off the pill it's been 35, 46, 46, 58, 32-ish (cycle I got pregnant), and now 30, and who knows because I am on CD19 with no O. Ack. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-211669 Thu, 05 Jul 2012 14:07:45 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 211669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, its never knowing what my body is doing. My cycles are crazy irregular, so its frustrating trying to plan around that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-203255 Wed, 27 Jun 2012 12:33:23 +0000 Meeshling 203255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I met with a client recently who was exactly as far along as I would have been if my chemical pregnancy had been a sticky baby. That was really hard :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-201331 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:43:42 +0000 cyneswith 201331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Having 100% clear pregnancy symptoms, faint positives... then getting my period ONE day late. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-201325 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:32:45 +0000 Smurfette 201325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meaganceleste: so true! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-201318 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:24:06 +0000 Shutterbug 201318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, definitely the waiting, and feeling like you're on this hamster wheel/limbo sort of paused life where you want to move on to the next phase, but you can't until you see that BFP. And only getting one chance a month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-201312 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:17:16 +0000 meaganceleste 201312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>WAITING! Waiting to Ovulate, Waiting to POAS, Waiting for your period to start... I feel like my whole life now is me waiting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-200392 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 09:25:04 +0000 sslm 200392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The most difficult thing for me is the unknown and the waiting. My cycles are irregular, so I have no idea when I am going to ovulate, since I've been off BC it's ranged anywhere from 30 days to 58 days. All of that waiting around hoping it'll happen is awful. I'm such an impatient person, this is sooooo not for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-200384 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 09:15:07 +0000 PrincessBaby 200384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can relate to so many of you! </p> <p>I think the hardest thing was living my life in 2 week increments....The hopefulness in the first 2 weeks that once I O'd, then THIS would be the month! The the second 2 weeks, obsessing over everything (I never knew what Cervical Position was before I was married, for example, or that I would be obsessed with where it was on any given day). And then getting BFN. I couldn't understand for the life of me HOW THE SPERM DID NOT CONNECT WITH THE EGG???? WERE THE SPERM BLIND??? </p> <p>Actually my biggest concern was that my eggs were too thick to penetrate. Which is a REAL issue that some couples have had. I have read multiple blogs where a couple couldn't get pregnant, and ended up doing IVF, and they found out during all of the diagnostics that sperm just couldn't penetrate the thick eggs without help. So since all of our testing was normal and annoying healthy (I wanted there to be SOMETHING to blame/fix), I was convinced that my eggs were made of tire rubber or something.</p> <p>And also, finding out that others were pregnant, especially if it was apparent that it had taken a very short time. It made me feel awful and broken and so mad at my body. One of DH's best friend's just broke the news to us last week that his wife is pregnant. They just got married in December and she told me she was stopping the pill in January. She is only 2 weeks behind me, so that means it took them all of 2 cycles to get knocked up. I was ecstatic that DH will have another Daddy to go through every stage of our children's lives with, but in the back of my mind, I thought about how much it would have HURT if we weren't pregnant, how bad those announcements used to wreck me. </p> <p>One thing that I will say for anyone who is struggling with TTC...When you do get pregnant, you will be the most ecstatic and wonderful parent that you could ever be. There is not a second of the day that I am not grateful for this baby. I am SO excited and SO in love with her. I know that everyone is so excited and so in love with their unborn baby, of course. But I think it's different when you've had a bumpy road. I blog about my pregnancy, and I linked it on Facebook, and I got tons of messages and comments about how passionate I am about my daughter, and how moving it is to see that. So that may not be worth much, but just know that you are going to be a wonderful, passionate mother one day- and you will be made of a little more "special stuff" than you had if you hadn't had struggles.</p> <p>Aaaannnd sorry for the novel:) Thinking about it drug up a lot of feelings:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-200375 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 08:54:37 +0000 MrsFarmer 200375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we first started TTC, it was the waiting to O and then the waiting to see if this was "the month."</p> <p>Now that we're on cycle 14, the hardest part is staying positive and hopeful that it will ever happen...Just being faced with the possibility that I might never be able to carry our own child is very devastating. :(</p> <p>And like PP who took longer TTC have already mentioned, it is SUPER hard to see others getting pregnant and having babies all around you. One couple was pg when we got married and first started TTC, had their baby, and are due again this fall. Situations like that are very emotionally stressful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-200315 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 01:25:45 +0000 SallyNy 200315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The TWW is definitely hard but for me, the worst part is when the blood test or pregnancy test comes back negative. It's just devastating and I never get use to the disappointment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199733 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 18:36:20 +0000 banana 199733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crumbs: ditto! The 2WW was always the most frustrating for me! That and symptom spotting like crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199727 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 18:28:59 +0000 SugarplumsMom 199727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hands down the 2WW! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199689 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 17:55:02 +0000 Smurfette 199689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: hang in there!! Hope tomorrow is better for you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199687 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 17:54:07 +0000 cokiezombie 199687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>During O time, I'm so excited and giddy, imagining all the possibilities of what could be (and of course having fun BD'ing).<br /> During the TWW, I symptom spot like no tomorrow and browse all the pregnancy-related forums for signs.<br /> and finally, when AF arrives, I hit a slump and feel depressed for a day or two. I console myself by thinking that at least AF showed up and I can start counting down the days 'til O again.<br /> Sigh.<br /> Just like clockwork.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199666 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 17:32:39 +0000 JoJoGirl 199666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, today everything is hard. I don't know why. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199345 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 12:59:27 +0000 Meridian 199345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Scrutinizing all the "symptoms"!! </p> <p>"My stomach doesn't feel right, could it be NAUSEA?" or,</p> <p>"I think I have heartburn" and then googling it to see if it's a symptom. </p> <p>Sadly, I just ovulated 6 days ago, so I'm pretty sure all of these symptoms are in my head!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199241 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 11:40:08 +0000 DillonLion 199241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was so hard to be out of control. In every other aspect of my life, I felt like I was in control of my future. I picked where I wanted to attend college, we chose a wedding date and planned a wedding. But, you can't decide to get pregnant and then automatically be pregnant shortly afterwards. </p> <p>And then there's the whole aspect of watching seemingly everyone else around you get what you want, even though you might be trying longer/harder/with more verve. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199238 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 11:39:42 +0000 Alivoo01 199238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beetones: @FutureMrsMcK: Me too! You hear about all the one night stands that result in pregnancies, but with knowledge now, I'm like okay. How amazing was your timing sheesh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199226 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 11:36:22 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 199226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just the waiting in general. First it was the tww, now it's waiting to see if we need to do IUI. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199185 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 11:16:30 +0000 lovehoneybee 199185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beetones: Ha, yeah, I was brainwashed into thinking all I would need to do to get pregnant was quit BC and/or have sex ONE TIME without protection... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-199097 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 10:23:13 +0000 Apex 199097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, its the waiting.....Waiting to Ovulate, and then waiting some more to test. </p> <p>I thought it was simple : Sperm + Egg= Baby. right? Ugh i never thought the whole process could be as frustrating!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-198957 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 09:16:48 +0000 Modern Daisy 198957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me it's having no idea what my body is doing. And it's really frustrating to hear "Oh you just stopped taking BC, your body is just regulating". I know that is what's going on, but it's annoying when people say it to me. It makes me feel like the disappointment and confusion I am faced with constantly doesn't matter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-198949 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 09:10:50 +0000 Trailmix 198949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I struggle with the thought that it might never happen...These thoughts often creep in and make me sort of panic...But, of course, I have no control over anything so it's kind of pointless to dwell on that thought...But I do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-198945 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 09:04:57 +0000 Alivoo01 198945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everything about TTC is frustrating, but I think the worst is waiting to O because you don't really know if you did or not and it really messes with your head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-198821 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 06:57:27 +0000 mrs. bird 198821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Waiting. For AF, to O, just waiting for everything to come together just right. Cycle day 78 today... Never Oed during it. The whole thing feels pointless sometimes, we could have BDed every day for three months and it wouldn't have mattered. Wow, I'm Debby downer this morning! Sorry. Provera is making me grouchy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-198810 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 06:47:09 +0000 Grace 198810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Oooh, I add that to my list. The unknown of when it would finally happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-198799 Fri, 22 Jun 2012 06:37:36 +0000 Smurfette 198799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: I agree. DH travels during the week. I should ovulate on Tuesday when he is in another state. Super. I am just crossing my fingers it happens earlier this month. </p> <p>I hate just waiting till the one month we get the timing right. I would feel more relaxed if I knew for sure that it would happen with 6 months or even a year. The unknown of it all just adds so much more worry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-most-frustrating-part-of-ttc#post-198688 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 23:38:18 +0000 singingbee 198688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: I agree! There are also the people that are all, "I know when I ovulate and I'm confident we will time it correctly the first month." Then, they did and I just want to stomp my foot and say, "Grrrr." at them. Like you, I don't want anyone to have to experience infertility, but come on! Don't flaunt your 'ease to get pregnant'. </p>