https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 05:43:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-5111 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 07:48:36 +0000 Adira 5111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the <i>most</i> important thing is communication. If you can communicate, then everything else will fall into place - whether you need "me" time, that you can trust each other, that you can laugh together, etc. All of that takes communication.</p> <p>Hubs and I still have our differences when it comes to things and we don't always agree, and sometimes things bother us, but we know how to communicate what's on our mind and being able to talk about our issues makes the issue seem so much less important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-5085 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 23:46:03 +0000 Mrs. Schoolbus 5085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We laugh a lot too and we just enjoy hanging out together. The thing that annoys me/that I like is that when I am upset or mad at him, he can do something and it makes me laugh and I'm not upset anymore. Things don't escalate and whatever I was upset or mad about isn't such a big thing anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-5049 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 22:19:13 +0000 paige 5049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@maisymay, those books are our secret! We read them before we got married and are going through them again now, two years later. It's our Sunday night ritual :)</p> <p>We also talk to each other A LOT, which might seem strange, but we know so many couples who eat dinner with the tv on and don't get past "Hi, how was your day." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-5036 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 21:33:15 +0000 bykes187 5036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is cliche and vague, but love and respect. We both grew up in homes where our parents had unbalanced respect relationships (neither is super unhealthy, but his mom and my dad tend to take a lot of crap), and we both really, really need to know from each other that no matter if you can't seem to find the hamper with your underwear or get your hair out of the shower drain, you're still loved, and you're still respected on a fundamental level. If he started being condescending to me, or being snappy... ugh. Which reminds me to watch myself because I get pretty self-righteous when I'm pissed off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4998 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 20:13:05 +0000 Boogs 4998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a great perspective Mr. Bee! We also haven't had much time to ourselves, and like you I don't regret it because this precious time with our baby is not a time we can ever get back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4996 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 20:09:36 +0000 mrbee 4996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our secret is red, red wine haha... :-)</p> <p>I'm looking forward to the kids being a bit older in a few years... then we'll be able to spend more time focused on just us. Right now, we're just focused on enjoying Charlie and Olive's first few years! They say before you know it, it'll be gone... so really just trying to not complain and just soak it all in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4990 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 20:01:14 +0000 Boogs 4990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll have to think about this one, not sure if we necessarily have a secret, though.</p> <p>Do you and Mrs. Bee have a secret? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4915 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 13:42:34 +0000 LazyLightning 4915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Communication: Clarifying what the other person means before getting upset--because most arguments seem to be due to a lack of understanding or miscommunication.</p> <p>Patience/understanding: Both working/both going to school means we spend very little time together and sometimes projects take longer than we expected, so time together is pushed off/eliminated completely for a day/weekend/week/weeks. No need to get all pissed off about it, we just keep on rolling and doing what we can! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4904 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 13:16:42 +0000 DillonLion 4904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"me" time and mutual respect </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4882 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 12:34:17 +0000 mrsjyw 4882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our secret? God. Laughter. "Me" time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4846 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 11:42:01 +0000 MaisyMay 4846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We still find books to read. I recently reread the "For Women Only" book that I read right after we got married, and it helps a lot. He had a "For Men Only" that was great too. Both books show the opposite sex how to communicate and talk about how men/women think, and kind of how they're wired. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4803 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 10:12:24 +0000 Mrs.VW 4803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to agree with @MaisyMay we put God first. And then laugh, A LOT. It keeps you from fighting :) We also communicate really well. When we were engaged and newlyweds we read a few couples books and it actually helped us a lot I think. Plus we had premarital counseling which I would suggest to everyone! Just gives you an opportunity to discuss things. We both loved it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4743 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 03:07:50 +0000 looch 4743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've got two:<br /> 1) It takes work. People are mysterious, and to think that you can just understand each other in every possible scenario is a bit naive.</p> <p>2) People only let you see what they want you to see. Chances are, every couple has rough patch and just because they are smiling on the outside doesn't mean they are smiling on the inside. Don't force yourself to live up to ideals that may not be true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4716 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 22:41:40 +0000 MaisyMay 4716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our secret: depend on God first, and put your spouse next. Be willing to laugh at the mistakes and be flexible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4663 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 21:09:08 +0000 tessabella76 4663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We also laugh a lot, we have similar ideals/morals, and we have a shared vision for our future (that sounds kind of corny!). Plus he's cute and he adores me ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4652 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 20:59:23 +0000 chopsuey 4652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We laugh a lot (we both have the same, often perverted, sense of humor) and we communicate well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-secret-to-your-relationship#post-4648 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 20:54:58 +0000 mrbee 4648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to think that there's a secret to all relationships... i.e. trust, love, etc.</p> <p>But lately, I've been thinking that maybe there isn't a secret to all relationships. Maybe every relationship has one or two things that make that one specific relationship work. Sometimes it can be hard to appreciate that one thing from outside the relationship, but that doesn't mean it's not there and making two people very happy. :-)</p> <p>Given all that... what do you think the secret is to your relationship with your SO? What makes it work as well as it does? </p>