https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 22 Aug 2026 17:01:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-202420 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 15:58:34 +0000 winniebee 202420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should mention that my sis has been nothing but thrilled to be an auntie to my baby the past 6 weeks. It's definitely been a great experience and now I'm happy the boys will get to hang together : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-202414 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 15:52:08 +0000 rachiecakes 202414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I would've felt the same way!<br /> And I'm so glad things turned out the way they did with two beautiful healthy boys!! :) congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-202407 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 15:47:15 +0000 winniebee 202407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: Awwww. I can't imagine how you are feeling - it must be so so tough to be around friends and babies but you are doing a great job! I hope that you and your husband are doing well these days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-202398 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 15:42:47 +0000 singingbee 202398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: wow! Thanks for the update. My mom and I were talking about this same thing, except it wasn't about my sisters. I have a friend who just found out she is probably 4-5 months pregnant and had no clue. She was upset to tell us since she is close to us and knows our whole story, etc. It just upset me so much that she is just pregnant. Like that! My mom was like, "you have got to get over your hang-ups on stuff." I was upset because I had a friend who was due after me and she was going to have her baby shower before me. It bothered me. Then, I lost my baby and her baby came early. So, of course I feel bad for having those thoughts and I know I need to get over myself before I see my friend that just found out she is pregnant next week. I know she is scared and worried so I need to be a good friend. I just needed to see this post and it helped me. Thanks for that and sorry for the novel!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-202386 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 15:34:55 +0000 wheres_c 202386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Sounds like the best of both worlds! You got to have your baby first, but you get the hand me downs. YAY! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-202372 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 15:24:31 +0000 winniebee 202372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here's an update to this saga - where my sister and I were BOTH on bedrest with our little boys. </p> <p>My baby boy was born May 17 - 10 days early - weighing in at 5 lb 5 oz. My sister's baby boy was born June 24 - two days early weighing in at 9 lb 10 oz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My son is just now 8 lbs so he will be taking hand me downs from his younger cousin. Both boys were perfectly healthy : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-76695 Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:38:14 +0000 winniebee 76695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: Thanks : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-75310 Wed, 15 Feb 2012 16:27:22 +0000 Boogs 75310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( I'm so sorry. On the plus side, is this the first grandchild or grandson on your husband's side? She can't steal your thunder there! ;) And who knows, you could also deliver early, I did. In the end, here's hoping you both have healthy little boys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-75277 Wed, 15 Feb 2012 14:50:26 +0000 winniebee 75277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For anyone who followed this, my sister already has her cervical issue again and is now on bed rest (21 weeks). There's no way I am going to deliver before her. Whole situation sucks, but most importantly I hope that her LO stays put for at least another 13 weeks... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55884 Fri, 20 Jan 2012 13:43:09 +0000 pastemoo 55884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: They'll be such cute little cousins!</p> <p>But, it's still ok to be jealous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55677 Fri, 20 Jan 2012 08:00:48 +0000 winniebee 55677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone who responded to my meltdown yesterday. I'm feeling better about the situation already. I probably make my sister sound like a monster, which she is not. Obviously, she couldn't control the gender of her baby (though, ehem, she probably could have waited until the urine dried on my pregnancy test before getting knocked up again, esp. b/c we had trouble conceiving, but I digress). Also, she's the type to never really ask how I'm doing but to call and say "Ugh, I feel huge" or "Ugh I'm SO tired" and not ask how I'm doing or how excited I am about this baby, etc. I just always had dreams of her helping me when I was a new mom and being there for me I have been there fore her steadfastly since before her first baby was born. When I say that I have been super auntie to her little girls, I am underestimating how much love and time I give them. Of course, it's all worth it.</p> <p>In the end, I know that having our kids close in age (and both little boys!) will be awesome for our kids. I know that my family couldn't be any more excited for my husband and I if our baby was the first and only. So, I should be feeling lucky and not annoyed. I know that the feeling will subside and in the end I'll just be focusing on our special little guy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55618 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 21:33:48 +0000 tequiero21 55618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i guess i haven't been in that position, so not sure how i'd react. my brother's actually holding off having his 2nd so we can be in the "limelight" with our 2 babies. lol. not that i care. at all. he'll probably start when our babies are about 6 months old. he felt like the thunder was stolen when his SIL (wife's sister) had a baby right after theirs. they still had the first grandson! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55555 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 20:19:06 +0000 pastemoo 55555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awwww. Hugs! That is so difficult! Life isn't a competition but when someone is obviously competitive it's nearly impossible to avoid getting sucked in. </p> <p>It's ok to be jealous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55515 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 18:04:47 +0000 heffalump 55515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand exactly where you are coming from. When I was pregnant I knew my SIL was TTC too... and I kind of wanted her to not get pregnant until I had my baby. But then I did always think that if she did get pregnant, it would be fun to have our babies be the same age and grow up together. But she didn't get pregnant anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55495 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 17:11:37 +0000 calsmom 55495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would annoy the crap out of me. I cannot blame you for feeling upset. Just know that nobody can overshadow the birth of your son. I'm sure your family is very excited for your son too. For the sake of it all though, I hope you deliver before she does ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55485 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:39:04 +0000 BabyLove 55485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is nothing wrong with you at all. I can see myself having a very similar reaction. The trick is to work on getting past it. My sister-in-law is the one I have felt this way about. She just gets everything to fall into place first. Everything. She's never been very good at sharing the spotlight. It's my opinion that as soon as we got pregnant, she decided to try. She became pregnant a few months later. But, as soon as we had our precious, perfect LO none of that stuff mattered anymore. I think you'll find the same. You're just so in love. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55480 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:30:11 +0000 Crisark 55480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There isn't anything wrong with you...because if there is there would be a lot of us in the same boat.<br /> you are just human sweetie and there's nothing wrong with that :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55477 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:16:50 +0000 MrsLMA 55477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I TOTALLY understand how you're feeling. I wrote a post a while back about how ocmpetitive I was feeling with my sister. Your feelings are 100% normal so don't worry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55459 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:46:20 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 55459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont think anything is wrong with you either. Based on what you said I would be upset if I were in your shoes as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55451 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:27:22 +0000 LuLu Mom 55451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: My sister was 4 months pregnant at my wedding, and made SEVERAL points of saying that if her dress didn't fit she would have to find another one that she liked better or that she didn't know if she could manage to stand for the entires 20 minute ceremony so maybe we should put a chair up for her. At that I said if she feels weak she can sit her ass down in a pew as not to draw attention to herself during my ceremony. She thought I was being rude by not serving food she was craving since chicken and roast beef were just "gross" to her. One of my other bridesmaid went off on her and told her to shut up, it helped for about 10 minutes! ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55449 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:24:40 +0000 CameronsMomma 55449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I get exactly how you feel, and I'd be cranky about it too. My younger BIL's ex found out we were pregnant and getting married so she went off he birthcontrol and didn't tell my BIL. Lo and behold, she got pregnant in Sept... just incase I ended up having the first girl in the family. I'm not, I'm having a boy, and she already had the first boy last year so I don't get the point.</p> <p>Some people just always have to be "better" and one up you though. It's never fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55443 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:14:21 +0000 jennylynn 55443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you're a mean person at all. It is irritating when things can never just be about YOU. I have a little sister, and while she's not pregnant or anything, she always seems to try and find a way to take some of the attention from me and make it about her. It's so annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55429 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 14:33:59 +0000 winniebee 55429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: LOL thanks for the cheering squad : ) I'm due May 27 and she's due June 27 (but she's measuring a little large already...)</p> <p>@jessiejo17: Yep, my sister had her first baby just before our wedding too. She'll be just as big as me for my baby shower since this is #3 for her! DH knows how I feel and agrees it is "classic." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55408 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 14:03:49 +0000 LuLu Mom 55408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am the same way but with my younger sister, I feel like she hates NOT being the center of attention so everything is about her. We are TTC and my mom mentioned to her, and she was like oh awesome we are going to TTC this summer again (she just had a daughter in September.) I know I should be happy for her, but I want to be able to enjoy being the pregnant one and my showers without sharing it with her. She "stole" my wedding from me at times due to her first pregnancy and I don't want this to happen again. I feel so selfish saying these things and the only one who knows how I feel is my DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55402 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 13:52:04 +0000 mediagirl 55402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dude, I totally get it. I've got the younger sister syndrome too with my brother - he always has to be first, better, smarter, whatever. When I told him and his wife that we were expecitng a girl (they recently had a baby boy) I was shocked he didn't call back 2 weeks later and say they were adopting a little girl. Just so they could be first with the girl.</p> <p>I will keep my fingers crossed that you have your boy first!!! When are you due? Keep us up to date, okay? :) I'm on team @winniebee, not team sister of @winniebee. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55394 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 13:39:18 +0000 winniebee 55394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies. I know that it's a great thing in the end, just feeling like this is so classic. I didn't even really need to know the ultrasound results to know she is having a boy : / </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55376 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 13:16:34 +0000 plantains 55376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is like that with my older sister too. When we announced our pregnancy, she was shocked, a bit of a naysayer amd then voila, 6 weeks later she was pregnant. I didn't even know she was going of BC and found the timing really weird. Never mind, soon we'll have our beautiful babies and none of this will matter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55357 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 12:59:44 +0000 tlcbaby 55357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @CYNDISTAR3 - this is your first baby which is super exciting and special for you and for your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55345 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 12:49:04 +0000 GreenThumb 55345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have that trouble with my older sister... everything with her seems to be first, bigger, better. I always play second fiddle and it drives me CRAZY! </p> <p>But, it is true, after a tought time gettng started, you should be excited for YOU (all us bees are!) and don't worry about who's baby is first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-wrong-with-me#post-55338 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 12:43:34 +0000 banana 55338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably feel the same way too. Every baby is so different that I'm sure you'll soon figure something out that makes YOUR baby the first of something. :) </p>