https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 19:44:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so/page/2#post-2496728 Wed, 16 Mar 2016 13:04:26 +0000 Kemma 2496728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and nursing my almost one year old so I do the majority of the "parenting" the majority of the time but DH is awesome at tidying, cleaning the kitchen at night and doing lots of other helpful stuff so it works for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so/page/2#post-2496156 Wed, 16 Mar 2016 06:58:50 +0000 looch 2496156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll be honest, having a 50/50 split with my husband isn't something I really strive to achieve...namely because we have my parents in the mix and they do a good 80% of the work during the week.</p> <p>For example, my mom will make sure my son gets dressed, has breakfast, makes his lunch, drops him off at school, picks him up, takes him to his weekly speech appt (she has a lot of experience in this arena because of my younger brother's special needs), gives him a snack when he comes home, takes him to the library, dinner at least 2 nights a week....so when it comes down to the nightly bath, I have no problem overseeing it 7 nights a week, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so/page/2#post-2496066 Wed, 16 Mar 2016 00:28:03 +0000 daniellemybelle 2496066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM so 75/25. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so/page/2#post-2495795 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 17:39:50 +0000 MrsRcCar 2495795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Weekdays 90/10 weekends 60/40. DH works and goes to school during the week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so/page/2#post-2495778 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 17:21:40 +0000 Mrs. Pickles 2495778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>60/40 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so/page/2#post-2495450 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 14:16:02 +0000 Adira 2495450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: This. We're pretty 50/50, but I do all the appointments and make sure they have everything they need for daycare/Preschool, so that's the only reason I'd say 55 me/45 him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so/page/2#post-2495434 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 14:09:30 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2495434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably 70/30, but that's only because he's out of the house way more for his job. When he's home, it's probably closer to 50/50 or 60/40 (60/40 because of the days he sometimes needs to nap). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2495335 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 13:18:00 +0000 YouGotMe 2495335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Its 65 me 35 him Monday - Friday I do all daycare drop offs, most of the pickups. I'm the one who gets up with her every morning because he's at work and I prepare her dinners. </p> <p>but Saturday and Sunday it's 55 him 45 me. He lets me take naps, he takes her places on his own if I have to work. It's her general preference for anyone but me on the weekend though lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2495307 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 13:05:54 +0000 anonysquire 2495307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When he's home it's 50/50 for sure. He's actually really helpful, which I'm so grateful for. But o try and get stuff done while he's at work so he doesn't come home and have to do more stuff. But weekends and nights we all go out the 4 of us and we each take one. Not sure what we will do with #3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2494102 Mon, 14 Mar 2016 10:38:01 +0000 catlady 2494102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say 50/50 but DH would probably say that he does more. I admit that he does more obvious stuff (like cooking). He doesn't count all the stuff I do to keep us stocked though (making sure LO has diapers/wipes, clothes in the right size and season, presents for holidays, etc). We also have a family vacation coming up that I basically planned entirely by myself, so even though it's "fun", I feel like that should count. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2494094 Mon, 14 Mar 2016 10:34:02 +0000 mfa_lady 2494094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now, probably 65/35 DH/me. He's been a real champ--the first trimester is kicking my you-know-what.</p> <p>He's out of town this week, though, so....let's hope I survive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2494059 Mon, 14 Mar 2016 09:54:36 +0000 petitenoisette 2494059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Prob 55/45. Only because I'm still nursing and consequently do bedtime and naps on the weekend. Idk if it's just that she's a bit older now so it's easier or if something clicked for my husband but I am really feeling like things are as even as they can possibly be these days! Even when I'm doing bedtime he is sooo much better about actively doing other stuff around the house (he picks up her toys every night at that time, etc.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493998 Mon, 14 Mar 2016 09:02:52 +0000 jape14 2493998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say it's probably about 60-40 in my favor. Face time is split pretty evenly (DH does mornings/drop-offs, I do pick-ups/dinner, we share bedtime duties), but I do the lion's share of mental work and prepping things like lunches, buying clothes, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493991 Mon, 14 Mar 2016 09:00:05 +0000 bushelandapeck 2493991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably 80/20 during the week as I SAH 3/5 days and DH works late. On the weekends more like 60/40 or 50/50, depending on what we're doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493983 Mon, 14 Mar 2016 08:54:09 +0000 snowjewelz 2493983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say pretty evenly? DH actually solo parents her way more than me, so I try to take her the moment I'm home and I mostly take care of her on weekends (not that DH isn't around, but then DD also prefers me). He's always happy to help anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493852 Mon, 14 Mar 2016 03:01:29 +0000 Cherrybee 2493852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we are both here and DH isn't working on the house (which I'm always pushing him to do), its 50/50. But given that DH leaves for work just as E gets up, gets home just before the bedtime routine starts, works some Saturday mornings, its currently 70/30. He genuinely doesn't realise how much I do, either, because on the rare occasion he gets her dressed, he doesn't brush her hair, doesn't brush her teeth, doesn't wash her face and then huffs at me that "she's fine" when I go to do it. Yeah, she's fine because I do it every other day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493836 Mon, 14 Mar 2016 02:06:22 +0000 Boogs 2493836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>70 me, 30 DH is how this year has been. It can get pretty tiring at times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493827 Mon, 14 Mar 2016 00:49:32 +0000 BabyMats 2493827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>55/45 I do night wake-ups with the twins (nursing) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493824 Mon, 14 Mar 2016 00:31:25 +0000 HLK208 2493824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say 90 me/10 DH. He's been working a lot of hours so I've been solo parenting. He's so great when he is here though! Definitely 40 me/60 DH when he's home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493794 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 23:20:11 +0000 meganmp 2493794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>50/50! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493793 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 23:19:26 +0000 Ms. RV 2493793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Weekdays: 70 him/30 me most nights, 50/4p some nighrs. Weekends 90 me, 10 him. But he gets all night wakings and let's me sleep in as late as I want on the weekends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493788 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 23:03:59 +0000 Portboston 2493788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Week- 90/10. I SAH and for some reason DH doesn't want to do bedtime. He helps but I think he's intimidated. I don't get it. And MOTN wake ups are all me. </p> <p>Weekends- 60/40. He tries to take LO on an outing every weekend just the two of them so they can bond and I can nap or do whatever. It's a nice little break for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493781 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 22:35:12 +0000 Eko 2493781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like it's pretty 50/50. DH does daycare drop offs and pick ups, we both hang out as a family before bed, and I take care of bedtime and anything motn. Weekends are pretty even like that too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493775 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 22:26:33 +0000 gingerbebe 2493775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, I feel like we do a pretty good job splitting things when we are at home, especially on the weekends. But during the newborn stage and this weekend when we were traveling (DS is 18 months) it was like so much me! I have to pack everything and plan everything and I'm the one who's calming him on the plane or holding him if he's asleep. Ugh. Made me resentful but that's why we don't travel a lot - DS is a terrible traveler and it's soooo much work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493755 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 22:05:45 +0000 BabyTsMom 2493755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>weekdays: 90(me)/10(DH). weekends: 60(me)/40(DH). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493751 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 21:59:28 +0000 Anagram 2493751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're pretty 50/50....probably 55% me, 45% him because of the mental part of parenting (doctor's appointments, preschool registration) that DH doesn't ever think of/take care of. But fairly equal on all other parenting/household stuff if you look at the hours we are both home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493750 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 21:58:52 +0000 Torchwood 2493750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SAHM, so... 90/10? During the week. On weekends it's closer to an even split, but I still do more. And he only takes Friday night wake ups. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493747 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 21:55:48 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2493747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably 80% me, 20% DH. But I'm a SAHM and DH is out of town 4 days a week every week for work.</p> <p>It is a lot closer to even when he's home (although still slightly skewed to me). It is just hard to balance out the multiple days where it is 100% me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493746 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 21:54:50 +0000 simplyfelicity 2493746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh and I have nearly identical jobs and I would say it's 65/35 but I am also factoring in that I do both daycare drop offs, pick ups, pump and breastfeed. While it's not equal, I will say that it's getting better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-current-ratio-parenting-with-so#post-2493745 Sun, 13 Mar 2016 21:54:40 +0000 arosebyany 2493745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>90/10 mon-Thursday I SAH and DH is up at 4 for work and doesn't get home till 630 and is in bed by 9. Fri-Sunday when he's off it more 70/30, mostly though just because he's been catching up on outside chores 😕 </p>