https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 23:09:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-148465 Fri, 04 May 2012 14:36:07 +0000 looch 148465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My unscientific opinion on these kinds of things is the more you forbid something, the more obsessed your kid is with those things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-148388 Fri, 04 May 2012 13:48:13 +0000 meredithNYC 148388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally, I detest the idea of pink/princessy stuff. That said, I am really, really going to try not to project my feelings onto my future daughters. I will not buy her such things and while I haven't outright told friends and family not to, they know me well enough that they probably won't. But, if she is interested in such things as she gets older, I am going to have to try for a more balanced approach. </p> <p>I will admit that this book is absolutely biased, but I think it's a good read for those who have/are having daughters: <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Cinderella-Ate-Daughter-Dispatches-Girlie-Girl/dp/0061711527" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/Cinderella-Ate-Daughter-Dispatches-Girlie-Girl/dp/0061711527</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-148080 Fri, 04 May 2012 11:01:58 +0000 Mrs. Pen 148080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: that's basically my stance. A little girl will decide what she likes on her own, regardless of what you do/don't offer her.</p> <p>the little girl i nanny for is 5 years old now. I've been with her 2.5 years. Her mother had never bought anything pink or princess themed for her, but somehow that's what she wanted/fell in love with.</p> <p>I'm okay with the stuff, just not the "princess" attitude. I think that as long as you create a balance with letting a little girl know that a true princess is one with a kind heart, then she can have all the princess stuff she wants. But if my little girl (if i have one) ever did the whole diva/entitlement attitude- I wouldn't hesitate to take it all away in a heartbeat until she got her act together. THAT I will not tolerate. It's easier to fight in a toddler than a teenager - and if there is one thing that is most unattractive in a lady it's the diva entitlement attitude. Sure it starts out cute at 3 years old, but at 13 it's downright unacceptable in my book. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-148079 Fri, 04 May 2012 11:01:11 +0000 prettylizy 148079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think half the fun of having a little girl is getting to play dress up with her when she's little. After all, one she develops opinions they won't be easily ignored if she's anything like me! We were team green so we have a decent amount of neutral stuff that she wears, but we got a ton of pink girly stuff now. I love putting her in both, today she is in lime green and grey. Do what you want while you can, but I'd never deny her something she like because I don't like it (be it GI Joe or a tutu). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-148076 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:59:57 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 148076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: Ditto!</p> <p>I wouldn't mind my daughter dressing up girly if she wants to, but I can't stand all the labeling of princess stuff. </p> <p>And it's true too! My oldest niece was "princessed" out to the max. She had a NYC princess room with tiaras and glitz everywhere (it actually was super cute), but I didn't like all the "diva" signs everywhere. Everyone always called her princess from day 1. And it shows! She's much more entitled and things must go her way.</p> <p>Her little sister is totally different! They didn't go as "princess" with her and she a perfect balance of girly, with not so girly. She does get excited over clothes sometimes, but most of the time it will have a puppy or some sort of food on it, haha. But she is much more flexible and friendly!</p> <p>I really want to stay away from the 'princess' labeling with my daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-148062 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:55:52 +0000 Andrea 148062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind pink but I don't want her prancing around and thinking that she is a "princess" and deserves royal treatment! :-P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-148053 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:53:31 +0000 lavender 148053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a fan of pink but everything LO owns is literally pink-and it's all been gifts. I can't turn down free clothes but there are days where it looks like pink has thrown up all over her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-148046 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:51:14 +0000 loveisstrange 148046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no problem with girly stuff and pink, but I HATE the "princess" thing purely because I don't want LO growing up with the princess mentality of bratty entitlement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147960 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:15:04 +0000 Goldilocks1107 147960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like anything else - "moderation". I think both examples outlined in the OP are probably not in the best interest of the little girl - just the mom projecting her own strong belief system which completely goes against the first mom's claim of wanting her daughter to be able to decide.<br /> My baby girl is due in 17 days (yay!) and we've gone with a "colorful" nursery scheme, which includes pink and purple, along with green, blue and yellow. And since other people love pink girly things, she'll have lots of pink items along with some gender neutral things we purchased on our own.<br /> And her toys will probably be a mix of Barbies and Tonka trucks. I'm going for well-rounded to start with, until she can reach her own conclusions about what she prefers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147957 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:13:05 +0000 Mrs. Bee 147957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i was a tomboy and never into princessy stuff. i gotta admit that i'm not really into being a girly girl. also my brother and i were only 14 months apart, so the few toys we had were much more gender neutral/boyish (since he got his way much more often).</p> <p>since olive has an older brother, i imagine that she will have a lot of boy toys to play with. i'm not going to buy her the princess stuff myself, but if she wants it, i won't be against it.</p> <p>i am enrolling her in karate/taekwondo... something my parents didn't let me do because i was a girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147953 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:11:31 +0000 heffalump 147953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know someone also who said no pink or girly gifts. But the second her lo went to school and saw the other little girls all in pink, she wanted it too. Last time I saw her she was in pink from head to toe, including shoes, leggings, and a tutu. </p> <p>Ill let lo decide what she wants. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147946 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:09:52 +0000 chopsuey 147946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha. I was never into princessy stuff. If my LO likes it then I'll buy her outfits and stuff.<br /> Our niece has a few princess dresses and loves to dress up, but she's super active and tomboyish too.<br /> Healthy balance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147944 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:08:43 +0000 Rubies 147944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: Cool! Yeah, I think I want my daughter to like princess things if that's what she really likes. Don't offer, don't refuse. Maybe that'll be my stance. :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147939 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:06:42 +0000 dc yoga bee 147939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bring.it.on. My mom HATES pink. Never bought pink stuff for me on her own, and my nursery was yellow (gross). As soon as I was about 2yrs old, I wanted pink. I needed it. She didn't say oh my no pink. I wanted to do pagents so she signed me up. And I wore pink tutus because I LOVE pink I am still OBSESSED with pink, and am a die-hard feminist soon to be bad ass lawyer when I graduate (and pass bar exam this summer hopefully). My mom on the other hand-still hates pink. She's a yellow gal. Just because you're into pink and princess things doesn't mean you aren't strong and independent. I certainly have managed to do both! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147932 Fri, 04 May 2012 10:03:05 +0000 Honeybee 147932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been very "girly" so we've never really bought pink/princess-y/girly things for our daughter. Sure enough, she loves pink, loves playing dress up, etc... But it's balanced; she also loves animals and books and doesn't mind playing rough and getting dirty with the boys at daycare. I'm not a huge fan of the "Disney" princess stuff, but otherwise we try to encourage her interests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147919 Fri, 04 May 2012 09:57:47 +0000 Mrs. Train 147919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had three boys before my little girl came into our lives. She wears pink and princess things. We are Disney fans and go to Disneyland all the time so I am sure her grandma will buy her a dress when she's old enough. </p> <p>On the other hand she plays with all the boys toys. There is no way I am buying new toys in pink when I have plenty of toys at our house. So right now she plays with cars, dinosaurs and she loves watching them play with light sabers. At six months she's a little young to wield her own weapon but once she can I'm sure she will get her own. I can see it now. Wearing a Cinderella dress and playing star wars light saber battles with her brothers. I think it's a good balance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147863 Fri, 04 May 2012 09:39:11 +0000 Minnie_Girl 147863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I have a daughter, I wouldn't push her to like certain things either way. I played dress up as a little girl and turned out to be a perfectly strong, free-thinking feminist, not a brainwashed Barbie zombie! </p> <p>I'm more concerned about the different treatment little boys and girls often get, even from their own parents. You're "allowed" to rough house with boys, but not with girls, and are more likely to sooth a crying little girl than you are a boy. </p> <p>Those little things are what cause these strong behavioral differences, I think. It's not the toys the kids play with that make a difference, it's the nature of their play and upbringing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147828 Fri, 04 May 2012 09:28:32 +0000 mediagirl 147828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My initial reaction is "yech, barf to princess stuff!" That being said, I am having a daughter and she is going to have her own ideas on things. I won't tell her no if she wants princess stuff even though it's something I'm not a huge fan of. I've also given in to the color pink and she's not even here yet. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-take-on-little-girls-and-princess-y-things#post-147822 Fri, 04 May 2012 09:26:51 +0000 Rubies 147822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know of a lady who is adamantly against anything princessy or even pink for her daughter. She wants her daughter to make her own decisions and be independent and not become overly girly and...Well, pink. When it comes to gifts, she tells people "no pink, no princess stuff." </p> <p>On the other hand, I know a lady whose daughter is obsessed with princess things and has a closet full of princess dresses and toys. She says her daughter finds the most joy dressing up and acting out princess stories.</p> <p>I haven't decided how I feel about girls and princess things.</p> <p>What's your take? </p>