https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 22:52:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-613617 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 10:11:23 +0000 Modern Daisy 613617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably at least let them know there is a possibility you will be pulling your child in May and try to give them a deadline of when you'll be making a decision. That way they can at least be mentally prepared to search for another family even if they decide to wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-613585 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 09:59:11 +0000 irene 613585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: I just read your previous comments and didn't know your husband will be off for the summer! In that case, I'd tell your nanny and the share family that you are pulling your baby out in May because of your job situation. They will understand. Then you'll have the whole summer to look for work, and figure out a new childcare situation... and you give your share family time to find a suitable share family replacement too! I think it is a pretty good plan :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-612855 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 21:11:48 +0000 mrbee 612855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go for the savings, especially since your husband could potentially buffer things in the summer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-612841 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 21:05:17 +0000 mrsjazz 612841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: 6 months salary after mid-April. I'm nervous about keeping her in the nanny share when I don't have a job--that's a lot of money we could save in the mean time in case it takes me longer to find a job. There are so many unknowns! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-612813 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 20:43:36 +0000 irene 612813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You will have a severance for 6 months right? That's a pretty good deal! Do you think you can find a job within, say, 3-4 months? This way you don't have to pull your baby off of the nanny share until June/July. </p> <p>I just think if you like the arrangement, keep it. Work will always come. It is more troublesome if you pull your child off and then you got a job, you'd have to figure everything out allover again. Besides, it is not like you will have no pay... you will have 6 months salary after April, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-612504 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 18:16:14 +0000 Anagram 612504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the PPs of telling them sooner. I'd imagine the other parents will go through a short period of panic looking for another family that works as well as your current situation, so giving them more time is nicer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-612499 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 18:11:22 +0000 EBSC 612499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the sooner you tell them, the better, but you don't need to tell them all the details of your decision-making process! It sounds like you and your husband have decided what you're going to do - pull her out in May - so I'd tell your share-family that. And maybe mention that you love being in the nanny share and would continue if you could, but it's not going to work. That might leave it open for you to join again if it works out in the future.</p> <p>As a nanny myself, the more warning I have the better. Now that you've decided, let them know. If things change, you can always talk to them again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-612482 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 18:00:24 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 612482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: omgoodness...that's awesome! I forgot your husband was a teacher.<br /> If you don't find a job until June...then you wouldn't have to pay for a nanny May-Sept and you would have all summer to find one? That's awesome.<br /> I hope you find one this summer and I hope the current family you're with is understanding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-612396 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 17:33:09 +0000 mrsjazz 612396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: Thanks. I just wasn't sure how much I should tell them about our situation. The good thing is that if I do find a job say, in July and we needed to find childcare--DH is off for the summer until September so we wouldn't have to scramble too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-612374 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 17:25:30 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 612374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Why would you need to tell them it is a voluntary leave? </p> <p>I would tell them now that you are done in May. They don't need to know when you will leave work, all they need to know is when you are leaving the nanny-share (May).<br /> Chances are they won't find another family by May so you could come back if you get hired, stating you found work.</p> <p>If you don't (and you said chances are slim), then you will leave in May without guilt because you warned them and they can continue their hunt to find a family.</p> <p>If you find work in say...July and they have found a new family, then , I mean...that's just too bad? I guess at that point it would just be that you need to find a new nanny :/ But, maybe they haven't found a new family...I'm assuming they'd love to have you back? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-amp-what-to-tell-nanny#post-612178 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 16:36:09 +0000 mrsjazz 612178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm leaving my job at the beginning of April and don't have another job lined up yet. (This is a buyout package, I have a severance that will be about about 6 months).</p> <p>We haven't mentioned anything to the nanny share family or nanny because DH and I were still trying to figure out what to do. We were thinking we'd leave LO in the share for April so that I can look for a new job full-time. If there are no leads then we'll pull her out at the beginning of May. Obviously if I was to get a job before the end of April (doubtful about that) then nothing would change.</p> <p>Everything is so up in the air--they have until May to find a new family to share with...but then what if I get a job and they find a new family? </p> <p>Do I tell them this is a voluntary leave? (It doesn't really feel that way though) And do I tell them now or wait until April (a month's notice?) </p>