https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 19:08:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846317 Wed, 03 Sep 2014 06:12:27 +0000 ValentineMommy 1846317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I'm sorry. I don't know why people don't understand how intrusive those questions are. I get asked on an almost daily basis when we're giving DS a sibling. Someone actually asked me the other day "Oh, don't tell me you're pregnant too" (a lot of people are pregnant at work)...to which I replied "not anymore" (I had a m/c). Oops. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846212 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 22:58:32 +0000 Crystal 1846212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaguar: exactly this!!! </p> <p>@Mum: I'm so sorry, that is so rough. I wish I could have a snappy comeback ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846210 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 22:52:54 +0000 irene 1846210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs girl.... I've been there.<br /> I would have literally said, well, I would have been 38 weeks pregnant now if I didn't miscarry. I will let that awkwardness drown her. If she comes back with another stupid question I'd excuse myself to get a drink or something. I know she didn't mean harm but come on. She needs a dose of harsh reality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846208 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 22:51:15 +0000 Jess1483 1846208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. No one has asked me anything like that since my m/c, but I'm sure it's just a matter of time. I'm trying to figure out a diplomatic answer that also puts people in their place a bit...I'm open to suggestions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846205 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 22:47:41 +0000 mrs scrapbook 1846205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry she said that to you. But your response was AWESOME! I hope she thinks twice before asking that to anyone again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846156 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 21:50:50 +0000 jaguar 1846156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely think it's a question from people who just have NO EFFING IDEA about falling pregnant being a difficult thing. Lucky them. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846085 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 20:49:09 +0000 Mum 1846085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, @Mrs. Champagne: @Adira: @AmeliaBedilia: @LalaLove: and @Hoots: </p> <p>It is nice to be able to get on here and have some people who understand! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846039 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 20:08:44 +0000 Hoots 1846039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, people just suck. I will always be in the camp that you should say something. Sometimes people need a wake up call that it's not an appropriate question and that not everyone who wants kids can have them right away or even at all. And you're not a mean girl for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846033 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 20:03:11 +0000 LalaLove 1846033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you had to deal with that. </p> <p>I'm always a little surprised when pregnant women ask this question. When I was in my early 20's and not thinking about babies yet, I definitely asked a few people not knowing how obnoxious I was being. Once I even started to think about babies I think I realized how delicate this subject is and it really should always be handled with care. You're right to feel the way you do and I think you handled it great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846030 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 20:02:29 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 1846030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! I hate getting this question. I always want to give a sarcastic answer (like "when the condom breaks") and get so flustered or chicken out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1846027 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 19:57:18 +0000 Adira 1846027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Boo, I'm so sorry!! :( I really think that people just don't know any better. Until you've had to try for months and months on end and suffered a loss or are familiar with others who have been through so much, it really doesn't occur to people that others might be struggling. I'm glad you said something to her though so maybe she'll think twice next time she feels like asking this question! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1845996 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 19:41:25 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1845996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gah I'm sorry. I'm glad you said that to her! Hugs. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-are-yall-gonna-have-a-baby-barely-an-acquaintance-asks#post-1845993 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 19:40:16 +0000 Mum 1845993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. So is this something only people who have to actually TRY to get pregnant, get multiple BFNs, and suffer loss know not to ask???!</p> <p>A (PREGNANT) girl who met me 5 minutes prior asked me at a party in my own home this weekend. Whenever people ask that question I get so mad on the inside. Thankfully I am at the point after my miscarriage where I can hear that question and not cry, but I may take the brutally honest approach from now on. </p> <p>I looked her in the eye and said, "We ARE trying, HAVE been trying for almost a year. It's not that easy. Trust me." </p> <p>Because seriously, unless you're about to become my confidant and be there for the BFNs, blood tests, TWW, etc., then why does it matter to you??? She was 14 weeks pregnant and proud, I should have been in my 38th. Maybe that's what I should have said to her. Or maybe I'm just a mean girl. Yeah. On Wednesdays I wear pink. </p>