https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Jul 2026 23:24:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-133111 Sun, 22 Apr 2012 05:48:09 +0000 tequiero21 133111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @MamaMoose...especially about inconveniencing u... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-133093 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 23:48:29 +0000 Navy_Mommy 133093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I agree there isn't long term damage to what she's doing. I say spoiled and mean she is teaching her son to expect that kind of treatment (and to demand it by crying) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-133092 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 23:46:51 +0000 Navy_Mommy 133092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just can't imagine pulling over with other people in the car just to snuggle my baby if I was well aware it wouldn't actually solve the problem. If snuggling for 10 minutes meant he'd actually calm down for a portion of the trip, yeah pull over. But to pull over every 15 minutes just to have him break down every time we got going again doesn't make sense to me. It just isn't a cycle I would want my baby to get used to.</p> <p>Needless to say, we won't be driving anywhere together anytime soon, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-132979 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 18:37:42 +0000 pastemoo 132979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: This makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-132977 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 18:19:39 +0000 MamaMoose 132977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think there is a difference between "spoiling" a child and just training them to behave in a certain way. I wouldn't say her child is necessarily spoiled or that she has done irrepairable damage to him. But she has obviously trained him to be incapable of self soothing at all. That's great if SHE doesn't mind having to constantly hold him. But if that's the case she shouldn't have agreed to such a long road trip with you. I think it's a little rude to so inconvenience you and your baby because of how she has trained her baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-132968 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 17:41:13 +0000 cyndistar3 132968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I believe you can "spoil" them, as in if they are used to you holding them all the time they won't want to be put down. My step sister held her son all the time, through naps and everything so he flipped out everytime she had to put him down. I on the other hand started putting my daughter down really early (not even making her cry it out or anything) and I believe thats why she was always fine on road trips or when I had to put her down to get things done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-132960 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 17:27:17 +0000 chopsuey 132960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We took our LO on a 3 hour road trip when she was around 2.5 months old. She really hated the car seat. We did pull over every once in a while to hold/soothe her, but she never got spoiled from it..<br /> I co-slept with her and held her a lot in the early months too. My daughter's really well adjusted I think. No separation anxiety, no stranger anxiety, doesn't want to be held all the time, plays well on her own.<br /> I didn't "wear" her at all though and only held her for some of her naps in the early weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-132958 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 17:21:31 +0000 mrbee 132958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend is a baby nurse and says that babies can definitely be spoiled and want to be held all of the time! I'll have to defer to her on that one, since she's definitely raised tons of babies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-132951 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 17:09:51 +0000 Mrs. Pen 132951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I HATE when my son is crying in the car, honestly he hates the car and if I were driving for an hour I definitely would have stopped at least once to take care of him, maybe nurse him to calm him down. For a car ride that long, either my husband or I are usually willing to sit in the back seat with him. If our hand is on him and we give him his paci, he can be comforted.</p> <p>I don't think she's spoiling him, and as long as she doesn't mind a baby that won't ever be put down, then good for her. I couldn't baby carry ALL DAY. I like my LO to take his day nap on his own (though he doesn't always to that, so I know it's a lot easier to just give in and carry him all day). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-132946 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 16:58:49 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 132946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I studied infant development in college and everything they taught us said babies can't be spoiled that young and letting them cry for long periods of time can do more harm that good. </p> <p>Having said that I have no experience with infants so I really don't know. Not everything you learn in a book works in the real world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-can-you-start-spoiling-a-baby#post-132945 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 16:55:37 +0000 Navy_Mommy 132945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just on a day trip with a friend and her three month old son. The drive was about an hour and a half and on the way there both the babies slept (at 6 am). On the way home her son started crying. He had just been fed and changed, he just didn't want to be in his carseat.</p> <p>She pulled over every 15 minutes just to pick him up.</p> <p>As soon as she'd pull him out of his seat he'd be fine, as soon as she put him down again he'd cry.</p> <p>She's REALLY into babywearing and stuff so she RARELY puts him down. He's actually in a carrier for both of his normal naps. They cosleep 100%. She admitted he was only crying because he wanted snuggles, and part of me thinks if she wasn't holding him ALL day EVERY day he wouldn't be that against being in the car for an hour.</p> <p>I don't think I would have been bothered if she didnt keep stopping just to snuggle him...am I crazy? Lol</p> <p>And honestly, at what point is it considered spoiling? I know "they" say you can't spoil a newborn....but when can it be considered spoiling? </p>