https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 01:51:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603958 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 21:59:07 +0000 yerpie110 1603958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually I'll just rewash it unless he did an utterly horrid job, and then I'd say something, but I try not to make a big deal out of it because I appreciate all the work he does around the house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603954 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 21:54:59 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1603954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He has never ever washed the dishes so he would get a crap ton of praise, even if they weren't clean! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603914 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 21:18:25 +0000 skipra 1603914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get annoyed but just rewash them. He's usually not around when I discover it and its not something that I even think about bringing up later on. It used to be a bigger issue but I wash about 95% of the dishes these days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603911 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 21:16:01 +0000 mrsrain 1603911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it is just an occasional dish I just re-wash it. If it is happening a lot, I mention it so that he can adjust his behavior (he does the same for me). Luckily, our new place has a dishwasher so this happens far less often for both of us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603853 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 20:40:31 +0000 MamaJ 1603853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always use the dishwasher. But he has the habit of loading it, putting soap in and never turning it on. I never discover it until the morning and by that time he is gone for work. So I never end up telling him because I forget by the time he gets home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603792 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 20:13:52 +0000 charmed 1603792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was just one time, I wouldn't say anything. If it happened frequently, I would probably point it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603734 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 19:51:23 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1603734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually I just put it back in the sink and whomever washes the next batch will clean them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603475 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 18:07:44 +0000 JerricaBenton 1603475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: lol! Good thing I love him! :-D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603472 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 18:06:03 +0000 BSB 1603472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JerricaBenton: Haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603430 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 17:48:22 +0000 JerricaBenton 1603430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He barely ever does the dishes but if he does and I have to rewash something I try not to let it bug me. I figure it's fewer than I would have had to wash! My husband thinks every pot is a 'soaker' lol. That does kinda annoy me! I always say it just needs a little elbow grease! Haha :-D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603422 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 17:42:45 +0000 regberadaisy 1603422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's only here and there so I tell him. I've committed the crime before too. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603415 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 17:40:56 +0000 BoogieBea 1603415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wash them again. I had to change my attitude about that too because I used to nag. I never understood why he doesn't wash the underside of the dish or lids to pots. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603407 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 17:37:07 +0000 mediagirl 1603407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, when *i* do the dishes and they're not clean enough for my husband, he cleans them again.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603364 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 17:16:19 +0000 pinkcupcake 1603364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's just a few thing, I don't say anything and just re-wash it - there have been plenty of times I've been careless and haven't washed something as thoroughly as I should have. </p> <p>If it's a whole batch that's greasy or dirty, though, I'll probably bring it up just in case it's an issue w/our soap or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603358 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 17:11:37 +0000 deactivated_account 1603358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If DH does anything and is happy with it, then I'm happy with it. </p> <p>If I'm not happy with it, then I do it myself. No sense in nagging when he's already putting in effort. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603351 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 17:05:18 +0000 Honeygold89 1603351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol this made me laugh because I have the same problem and sometimes I say something, sometimes I rewash them, and then there's times I'm like bump it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603334 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 16:52:06 +0000 Applesandbananas 1603334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's important, like the bottles/nipples our baby is drinking out of, yes. </p> <p>If one plate still had a spot, no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603308 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 16:38:33 +0000 snowjewelz 1603308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate it when DH washes dishes and splashes water everywhere. I go after him to clean up the area.... So usually yes I just make sure I'm doing the dishes haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603293 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 16:32:48 +0000 Honeydew 1603293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have the same problem with my DH loading the dishwasher and the way he folds the laundry. I try my best not to tongue lash my DH. Sometimes I'll just redo it and if he is around, I'll try to suggest my approach on getting it done. But sometimes it doesn't seem to sink in.... argh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603291 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 16:31:41 +0000 LBee 1603291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As the person who is the problem (my parents shoved everything into the dishwasher and I didn't really know people pre-cleaned dishes or even handwashed some dishes completely), I can attest that I get really sensitive when I feel like my husband goes behind my work. He now does @swurlygurl 's approach and acknowledges that at least I'm trying. If I was doing it to spite him or doing a crappy job on purpose, though, I would expect him to call me out. We're an equal work household and that includes the dishes. I just sometimes don't do things to his standards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603281 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 16:27:25 +0000 mrswin 1603281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I just re-wash and occasionally comment on his poor skills :silly: but I have to be careful because he makes my lunch most days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1603010 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 15:12:12 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1603010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: my solution is to not buy anything that can't be put into the dishwasher! Doing dishes is my arch nemesis. </p> <p>I would point it out to my husband but not make a big deal out of it. If I had done some vacuuming but missed an obviou spot, I'd appreciate someone letting me know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1602897 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:42:33 +0000 artsyfartsy 1602897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try and reduce my nagging too! DH works so hard and does his best. I'm just picky. I try and just quickly wash it and move on instead of making DH feel like he didn't do a good job when he puts so much effort into helping out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1602890 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:40:46 +0000 illumina 1602890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This happened today with LO's bottles. I tell him they're dirty still, then if he's got time I'll indicate that he should do them again, but if not I'll just do them myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1602882 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:39:21 +0000 pui 1602882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it happened again and again, I would let him know but try my best to say it in a "I'm helping you" rather than a "you suck" way.</p> <p>If it only happened every once in a while I'd just re-clean them without saying anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1602874 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:38:01 +0000 mrbee 1602874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: it depends on how they are still dirty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1602865 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:36:02 +0000 Caly 1602865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I generally pick my battles &amp; just revel and rejoice in the fact he washed the dishes. Especially since we don't have a dishwasher. Lately, I've been the culprit, a couple times recently he has pointed out to me that I've "missed some" spots. heh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1602842 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:30:16 +0000 gingerbebe 1602842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I pick my battles. I will say something probably 50% of the time or he gets annoyed. Also I buy lots of scrub brushes and wands (which my husband prefers to sponges) to help him along with pre-scrubbing. I've also asked him to pre-soak caked on dishes/bowls in the sink before washing (dried oatmeal in a bowl, for example) by telling him it will make pre-scrubbing easier for him (and gets the bowls clean!)</p> <p>If I'm unloading and find some dirties, I just leave them in there for the next load or soak them in the sink. If I see him unloading and there are obvious dirties going into the cabinet (or I find dirties later), I'll stop him and say "Hey, if you see that something's still dirty, do you mind leaving it in the washer to run again or soak them?" Or occasionally I'll say something like "Hey do you think our dishwasher is working okay? Some of the dishes have been coming out dirty, so I'm not sure if we need to change the soap or something." </p> <p>I'm in the same boat - I HATE doing dishes, so if I care that much, I should do them myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1602837 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:28:55 +0000 swurlygurl 1602837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If he washes them and they are still dirty, I smile and put them away anyway. I will take any and all help! He's the type where if I were to criticize his dishwashing skills, he would just prefer to not bother.</p> <p>At the same time, if I'm trying to help him out and mow the yard or something, he'd BETTER NOT tell me I'm not cutting the grass well enough!!</p> <p>So, maybe we're both stubborn? Haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-dh-washes-the-dishes-and-the-dishes-still-arent-clean-what-do-you-do#post-1602836 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 14:28:47 +0000 looch 1602836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh, we're human...sometimes my dishwasher does a crap job washing dishes, so I just pretend like they're perfect. </p>