Hellobee Boards Topic: When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?

Hellobee Boards Topic: When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 03:22:37 +0000 Freckles on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2555406 Tue, 24 May 2016 10:49:42 +0000 Freckles 2555406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DD is a little over 4 and DS is almost 18 months. I feel like it's been really good the last few months now that they can play together. I think it helps that DS is really easy, though DD has her ups and downs. DS has been a little more clingy but i just roll with it and put him in the Ergo if i need to. Hope it gets better soon! Anagram on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2555301 Tue, 24 May 2016 09:13:01 +0000 Anagram 2555301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm guessing it's going to be ups and downs. We have been in a really good stage since LO2 arrived (knock on wood). So I'm wondering if they will fight/argue a lot when they are teenagers, haha. We still have really hard days, but they are more related to their illnesses (which is out of our control), or my schedule as a WOHM trying to balance with childcare and home chores--that stuff stresses me out, but it's not the kids/ interactions with each other that stresses me. ValentineMommy on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2555293 Tue, 24 May 2016 09:09:02 +0000 ValentineMommy 2555293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think it's going to forever be ups and downs. We were totally good going from 1 to 2, until just recently. Ds1 is 3.5 and Ds2 is 10m. Ds1 did amazing with becoming a big brother and the boys never had a problem.....until Ds2 started crawling. Now Ds1 is all the sudden super threenager-y and it's exhausting. We really want more kids, and now I'm scared of ttc/being pregnant/throwing another child into the mix! Mrs. Sketchbook on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554871 Mon, 23 May 2016 15:57:10 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2554871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mine are 3.75 and 13 months. Months 0-4 of LO2's life were glorious. He was little and it was summer and I knew his infancy was a good time to do stuff so we were very active that summer and he slept through it all. Months 4--9 were rough. He settled into a two nap schedule and stopped STTN. For various reasons I pulled my oldest out of childcare which meant I didn't have a break and it was fall/winter so stress! At 9 months he started sleeping through again and things have gotten better. It is spring and even if we are stuck in nap jail we have lots to do outside. So for me the easy element has so far been a combination of sleep patterns and weather. When both are good, life is great! But he isn't walking yet...that'll be a game changer. Hoping he is a late Walker like his brother and that doesn't happen until fall when my older is in 4k. 2PeasinaPod on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554833 Mon, 23 May 2016 15:04:19 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2554833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We're doing pretty well right now. Both boys, 3.5 years and 8 months. I have a feeling once the 8 month old is mobile, we'll be back down, but the 3 year age difference really helped us. Cherrybee on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554775 Mon, 23 May 2016 14:12:01 +0000 Cherrybee 2554775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We are only 6.5 weeks in, so I know we have plenty of ups and downs to come, but we had a very rough initial adjustment with E - it turned a corner at 3 weeks and we are in a pretty good groove at the moment. HappyBaker on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554774 Mon, 23 May 2016 14:11:01 +0000 HappyBaker 2554774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @oliviaoblivia: Haha that is sort of why I asked! I really want a third and was totally on board a few months ago when things were awesome...but now I'm like holy cow I can't imagine adding to this crazy! But you're right, once it's CRAZIER this will seem like a cake walk! winniebee on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554773 Mon, 23 May 2016 14:10:26 +0000 winniebee 2554773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We've had our ups and downs. The first six months was really hard for us (DS was 2.5). Then it got a lot better with just a few bumps in the road. DS2 is 17 months and is taking SO much of my attention because he just does physically unsafe things, so it's a little hard right now. kodybear on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554770 Mon, 23 May 2016 14:08:33 +0000 kodybear 2554770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ we had an easy adjustment when ds was born (dd was 20 mo). it got rough when ds became more mobile around 1, and dd was going through a clingy stage. the last couple months have gotten alot better tho. ds is 22 mo and dd is 3.5yo and we seem to have hit a sweet spot. dd is alot more independent and she hasn't had too many threenager moments these days, and ds has been more independent, able to communicate pretty well for his age, etc. i know there will be more ups and downs tho. but im' def soaking in this age gap right now! Foodnerd81 on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554748 Mon, 23 May 2016 13:53:49 +0000 Foodnerd81 2554748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mine are 2.75 and 5 months and I feel like things have started getting a little easier- the toddler had a rough go of it between adjusting to being a big sister, getting sick a bunch, and just being 2.5. For the last few weeks I feel like she is getting back to her old self, and the baby is in a pretty good stage sleep wise, plus she is an easier baby than her sister was. I am imagining it's going to get a lot harder once the baby is mobile though! So yeah I'm anticipating a lot of ups and downs... travelgirl1 on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554717 Mon, 23 May 2016 13:28:44 +0000 travelgirl1 2554717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @oliviaoblivia: 😂 My SIL says exactly the same! Mamaof2 on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554711 Mon, 23 May 2016 13:24:21 +0000 Mamaof2 2554711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ There were always easy times here and there but when my youngest was 3 and oldest was 5 it got easy! KayKay on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554695 Mon, 23 May 2016 13:08:26 +0000 KayKay 2554695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mine are 31m apart and both girls. It was easy-peasy until the younger one was mobile, then a bit rough when she could get into the older one's stuff but wasn't much fun to play with, and now we are back in a sweet spot (4y and 18m) where they seem to be able to play together pretty well. I'm sure it will see-saw like this for awhile (forever). oliviaoblivia on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554685 Mon, 23 May 2016 13:00:58 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2554685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ As soon as we had three. Now when I only have two of them I feel like I'm on vacation. hellobeeboston on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554633 Mon, 23 May 2016 12:16:00 +0000 hellobeeboston 2554633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ curious to read what others say about this.... I'm guessing it's a constant up & down. Mine are 3.5 and 7 months old and I'm just starting to feel like now it's getting a little easier, whereas I've felt the whole thing has been pretty tough. The transition to two was much harder than I thought, so perhaps I'm just finally adjusting to it.... Some of it also has to do with the fact that LO 1 had a really tough adjustment period and I think he's also finally getting there, or just getting through the threenager-ness he was in. HappyBaker on "When did having 2+ get easier? Were there certain ages that were harder?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-having-2-get-easier-were-there-certain-ages-that-were-harder#post-2554567 Mon, 23 May 2016 10:42:57 +0000 HappyBaker 2554567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My kids are 3.5 and 16 months. The transition to 2 was really not that bad at all, and we hit a great groove around 6 months old, and just generally were enjoying having 2 kids. The past few months it seems like we're back to square one, the three year old is threenager-y and the 16 month old is now tantrum-ing / cranky all the time. Wondering if there is a magical age we will hit where things will go back to being great again, or if it's just a constant up and down!