https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 09:03:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-768554 Wed, 08 May 2013 18:15:07 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 768554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know anyone in real life or on my Facebook feed that does this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-768518 Wed, 08 May 2013 17:44:21 +0000 travelgirl1 768518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate it when I see people call their kids little shits on Facebook... Just so unnecessary. I imagine as A gets older I might say things such as monster or naughty or terror, but I hope never swear words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-768440 Wed, 08 May 2013 17:12:54 +0000 sarac 768440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think name calling is just over the line, period, honestly. Don't do it to my husband, my friends, to anyone. I'm all about labeling behavior, not the person. My toddler literally just started throwing tantrums, and it has been as awful as you might expect. I've been griping all over facebook about it. But I would just never call her a jerk. Ever. I say that her behavior is making me nutso, sure. I say that I am really not having fun when she's screaming at me. But to say that SHE is a jerk when she's really just doing something totally developmentally normal (though totally annoying) is to label her really unfairly, imho. </p> <p>Now a teenager is totally different. Teenagers can be huge jerks. I sure was. But I'd still try to refrain from name calling to anyone but my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-768153 Wed, 08 May 2013 14:57:02 +0000 rachiecakes 768153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: totally! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-768107 Wed, 08 May 2013 14:46:04 +0000 Meltini 768107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't call my 10 year old a jerk or a-hole to his/her face or post it on the internet but saying it in a joking way to a baby or to other adults seems fine to me. Now, grabbing a baby and screaming "SHUT THE EFF UP YOU A-HOLE" is inappropriate but I think we can all agree on that lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767916 Wed, 08 May 2013 13:48:42 +0000 regberadaisy 767916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can kinda see both sides. On the one hand it's possible certain bloggers are saying that to instill some humor into their posts. But if parents were *really* saying that to their kids I would have a problem with that. I grew up with brothers that always teasingly call me fat or whatnot. I *knew* they did not mean it but didn't make it hurt any less or make me have self confidence issues. My brother teases my 9 year old niece all the time that she eats too much. Every time I hear it I yell at him and tell him to stop. I scream at him that he's going to give her confidence and weight issues. I *know* he does not really mean it, but she's a kid, she might not know it.</p> <p>I have a pretty foul mouth but even on M's fussiest day I wouldn't say to my husband she was being a jerk or a little sh*t. I just say she was super clingy or fussy. Who knows, when she's a teen I'll probably call her a little sh*t. :P</p> <p>Words hurt, period. Whether meant in a malicious manner or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767793 Wed, 08 May 2013 13:13:15 +0000 daniellemybelle 767793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like @pui we call our dog a "jerk" but I'm pretty sure he is not fluent in English so I don't worry about it. :) I would probably joke like this privately before LO could understand, but I wouldn't post anything publicly, or say it to our LO once they know what the word means. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767600 Wed, 08 May 2013 12:14:37 +0000 ladyfingers 767600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie @blackbird agreed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767592 Wed, 08 May 2013 12:10:43 +0000 sorrycharlie 767592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This isn't aimed at any one poster, but just further clarifying my response - I don't want anyone thinkin' I'm all witchy and trashy, lol!</p> <p>I also have to point out that I think this could be in danger of kind of sliding into the whole mommy wars thing...judging other parents based on a single word or phrase. Just because a parent says something like that in a joking manner doesn't make them a bad parent at all. It doesn't make them trashy. It doesn't mean they don't love their children.</p> <p>In my personal experience, my parents were the BEST parents I could have asked for. In fact, they were - and are - better parents than a loooot of parents I see today. They never name called to our faces, or even as far as I know, behind our backs. </p> <p>But my point was simply if my mom had ever been frustrated with my antics and complained to someone, I would not have held it against her. I think there would be only so many times I could hear, "I hate you! I wish you aborted me!" and not need to vent to someone. Yeah, I was a gem sometimes. Ha.</p> <p>If I grew up with her constantly calling me names to my face, that is different (in my opinion). I do not agree with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767578 Wed, 08 May 2013 12:04:38 +0000 pui 767578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not yet a parent, but it makes me cringe whenever I hear a mother/father refer to their child as an "***hole" or a "little sh*t".</p> <p>I would refer to my dog as a "jerk" or a "brat" when he was difficult, sometimes in jest and sometimes seriously, but I wouldn't use bad language. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767573 Wed, 08 May 2013 12:02:20 +0000 shopaholic 767573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! I've never come across anyone calling their kids that IRL or online! Sad... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767570 Wed, 08 May 2013 12:01:21 +0000 Freckles 767570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I agree. I have to admit, i've mentioned to others how LO is being annoying because of her whining and clinginess but it's how i was feeling at the moment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767545 Wed, 08 May 2013 11:43:57 +0000 nana87 767545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we don't have kids yet, but dh and I refer to our furbabies using names all the time in a joking way. I'd never actually use bad words to a child directly, but I don't see anything wrong with joking or venting about it to friends or family. Especially before the kid is actually cognizant of their behavior enough to regulate it--like it seems more likely that I'd refer to a baby waking up in the middle of the night as a jerk--because obviously they can't help that and therefore I wouldn't actually think the baby is a jerk!-- than to refer to a 7 year old throwing a tantrum as one, bc by that age they should know better, so calling them a jerk is a more serious accusation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767514 Wed, 08 May 2013 11:35:15 +0000 BananaPancakes 767514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I'm with you on this one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767475 Wed, 08 May 2013 11:23:24 +0000 Bao 767475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: You said it perfectly, I agree! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767441 Wed, 08 May 2013 11:12:33 +0000 mediagirl 767441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I would have a big problem to this day if my Mom ever called me a little sh*t, even if it was just to my Dad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767420 Wed, 08 May 2013 11:03:43 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 767420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would never say it to their face!!! That's absolute. But, maybe to my husband if be like "yeah our teenager is being insane...or acting like a jerk." I don't think it can ben apply to children under 12, ever! I def wouldn't write about it.<br /> Sometimes I call my babe a little monster;) hehe again, never to his face! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767338 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:35:47 +0000 Mrsbells 767338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont know anyone calling their kids a holes but I do know parents that rerfer to their kids as annoying or bratty but not in hearing of the kids like @sorrycharlie: said. WE dont use curse words to describe our kids but we sometimes call her a terror when speaking to other parents because its true she does terrorize us sometimes </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767336 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:35:33 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 767336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see it on blogs a lot and definitely thinks it's intended to create humor for the readers. I still don't like it, but I don't think it means any of those people are bad moms. Recently a blogger used a name like that and was surprised to get negative feedback. When I read it - I was shocked that she used the word so casually...sometimes the blogger will use it and then kind of explain themselves. It just didn't feel appropriate. </p> <p>On a corollary, sometimes NICU nurses would say that D was being "naughty" if he had been crying or fussy and it made me so mad! If he's crying, he's upset or in pain, not naughty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767335 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:35:17 +0000 Maysprout 767335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kids and babies can be tough, if someone's having a tough time I'm not offended when they express that. </p> <p>Now when someone's yelling at their kid with name calling on the playground aggressively that's a different story. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767327 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:31:12 +0000 plantains 767327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: well said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767326 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:30:51 +0000 littlebug 767326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Yup, agree with you. I have no doubt in my mind that at some points, my mom called me a brat or a jerk or maybe even an a-hole. Because, guess what, kids can be a-holes. Intentionally or not, it happens. Would I say it to my kid's face? No, never. Would I say it to my friend? Definitely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767323 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:30:11 +0000 meredithNYC 767323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Agree. There is a BIG difference (in my opinion) between jokingly referring to your kids that way in conversation with other adults or on a mom blog and actually referring to your child that way in his/her presence. Full disclosure: I am one of those moms who does this with my friends and my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767320 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:29:19 +0000 Ra 767320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: @blackbird: I agree completely! My dad called me a little shit my whole life, too. I always knew it was a term of endearment. I would never call DS a name out of anger or malice, but even I don't see anything wrong with a joke or using a curse word in an endearing manner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767285 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:16:30 +0000 Andrea 767285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: totally agree! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767276 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:14:48 +0000 mrsjyw 767276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"um never" is what i thought in my head when i read this post title.</p> <p>maybe because DS is only an infant? FIL does call the furbabies lil shits sometimes, so i have no doubt he'll do that about DS in the future when he's being clever or sly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767274 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:13:05 +0000 blackbird 767274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I will jokingly say other kids are being jerks or assholes or douches :p. sometimes we say that E is a honey badger and don't give a fuck when she's being crazy, too.</p> <p>I don't see an issue with telling my kid she's being a jerk and to knock it off, though, if she really IS acting out of line </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767271 Wed, 08 May 2013 10:10:08 +0000 .twist. 767271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I totally agree. You said it perfectly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767166 Wed, 08 May 2013 09:21:23 +0000 sorrycharlie 767166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>are we talking about people who actually say, 'you're an asshole' to their kids? or like - blogs that jokingly refer to their kids as names? cause I follow some blogs that do that, but she doesn't actually say, "hey DS, you're a beep-beep." </p> <p>I think people who actually insult their children - yes, I disagree with that. But I don't think it's any new behavior..I know adults older than myself that jokingly have referred to their kids as names, or even on mom blogs, I think it can be funny. I personally wouldn't hold anything against my mom if she referred to me as a little shit to my dad years ago, or something. I mean really...I know she loves me, and I definitely had my days of being one! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-it-become-okay-for-parents-to-openly-call-their-children-bad-words#post-767147 Wed, 08 May 2013 09:14:16 +0000 HLK208 767147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure I've ever heard anyone call their kids names? But I wouldn't like it if I did. I mean, I've heard someone in a store or something say, "you're acting like a brat" to their kids which I'm not sure why the parents can't say, "you're misbehaving.".</p> <p>I couldn't imagine saying anything mean about either of my children. </p>