https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 21:26:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213573 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 17:21:44 +0000 sorrycharlie 213573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call them by their first names. When we were married, MIL told me I can call them Mom/Dad, but I just never really did. Nothing personal, and they're great, but I've got a Mom &amp; Dad and I'm a little sappy/sentimental when it comes to things like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213570 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 17:19:32 +0000 Mrsbells 213570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never really called them anything specific lo. I dont feel comfortable calling them by their first names they are west african and that would be seen as rude, and Mr and Mrs seems a bit too distant so I just avoid calling them anything lol, but now that LO is here I refer to them as granma and granpa. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213494 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 16:27:09 +0000 lovehoneybee 213494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call them by their first names unless our nephews are around (and after our LO is here), then they're Nana and Pops. </p> <p>I think it would make DH happy if I called them Mom and Dad, but he's satisfied with Nana and Pops (and that I saved their address in our GPS as Mom and Dad). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213473 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 16:02:21 +0000 dnmommy 213473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think 2 years </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213435 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 15:32:24 +0000 Jumpingjacks 213435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't and won't. I call them by their first names. I've never been comfortable with the notion of calling people 'mom' and 'dad' who aren't my mom and dad. Besides' DH calls his mom Mumsie (which I would NEVER do) and calls his dad by his dad's first name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213370 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 14:46:12 +0000 rattles 213370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we were dating, they had me call them Mr. and Mrs. LastName. When engaged, we shifted to Mom Lastname and Dad LastName. I dropped the last name and started with just mom and dad at the wedding. Both of our parents made it clear it was important to them, and we grew up seeing them refer to their own in-laws as mom and dad too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213236 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 13:11:12 +0000 birdofafeather 213236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i call them by their first names. and DH does the same for my parents. when LO arrives, i'm sure they will be some form of gma and gpa. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213209 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 12:32:42 +0000 SugarplumsMom 213209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto @owlmom. MIL made it perfectly clear a long time ago that she thinks it's odd. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213191 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 12:12:36 +0000 mamimami 213191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never! I don't even call my MIL by her first name... it's all "señora" and "usted." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213101 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 11:18:25 +0000 ninja 213101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do call them mom/dad. To me, it's a respect thing, and I can't imagine calling them by their first names. I'll also refer to them by their grandparent names to our dog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213078 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 11:02:32 +0000 Meridian 213078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sadly, we've been married for almost 5 years, and I don't call my IL's anything!! I just say, "Hi!" or wave... pathetic, haha. They don't speak much English, so years ago it was suggested that I call them MIL and FIL in Cantonese. Since I don't speak Cantonese, it just never came easily to me (ok, I don't think I even tried because it seemed so odd), so now I don't call them anything!! Awkward... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad/page/2#post-213056 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:47:46 +0000 Honeybee 213056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: Ditto. We use Grandma and Grandpa now (or Nana and Pop Pops, for my parents). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-213050 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:42:26 +0000 Running Elley 213050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use their first names. Once LO gets here they’ll probably be Grandma and Grandpa though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-213045 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:40:37 +0000 Mrs. Blue 213045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both use first names for our in-laws. I'm looking forward to having kids, so I can just call them grandparent names! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-213017 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:21:12 +0000 LAGS 213017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure I'll even call them Mom/Dad. My Dad calls my grandparents Mom/Dad and it seems natural... but not for me/my ILs. Although, now that LO is here they're often Grandma/Grandpa. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-213014 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:18:36 +0000 pelikila 213014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use their given names as that is what they asked me to call them. Even if they asked me to call them mom/dad I don't think I would as they aren't my parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-213000 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:11:44 +0000 chopsuey 213000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL: mammy<br /> FIL: dad/father </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212859 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 09:18:33 +0000 meaganceleste 212859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call them by their names, not Mom &amp; Dad, but they are divorced and both remarried, so its just easier to use all of their names. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212855 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 09:17:05 +0000 Pipers Mommy 212855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First Names or grandma and grandpa now that LO is hear. I could never call them Mom or Dad </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212853 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 09:16:02 +0000 Alivoo01 212853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I called them mom and dad in Khmer (their native tongue) about a year before we got married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212845 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 09:11:44 +0000 StrawberryBee 212845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't yet because it's never really been brought up, but I have a good relationship with them and I too have been wondering if it's something they expect me to do. Mostly I'm really good at avoiding calling anyone by a title or name :). Sometimes I stutter and refer to 'your husband' or 'your wife' when I'm talking to one or the other.</p> <p>Here's a weirdness though (to me). My husband's ex wife still calls them mom and dad. Now, I understand that she was used to calling them that, but at the same time she only does it when she needs something from them (mostly help in watching the kids) so it feels a little manipulative to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212826 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 09:00:27 +0000 smith 212826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just first names, but the exception is that I add "Momma" before DH's stepmom's first name. She told us that it would mean a lot if we could call her that, and we figured it doesn't harm anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212821 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 08:59:01 +0000 Shutterbug 212821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call them by their first names, except when addressing cards and stuff like To Mom Love, Rachel and _____ (DH). When we first started dating I didn't know what to call them so I just avoided having to call them anything, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212820 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 08:58:52 +0000 oliviaoblivia 212820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could see myself calling FIL Dad someday...though I'll probably just switch to Grandpa. I'm the same age as his grandkids so I'm used to hearing him called Grandpa. Right now I call him Sir. Don't know why, it just kind of stuck.</p> <p>I have not yet referred to MIL by any name. It's really awkward. A few years ago I looked at the gift tag on my Christmas present for a clue as to what to call her. It said "To: Oliviaoblivia From: Mrs. Firstname Lastname". No clues there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212818 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 08:58:37 +0000 mrbee 212818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say Grandma and Grandpa, at Grandma's request! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212810 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 08:50:15 +0000 hilsy85 212810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. First names for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212794 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 08:40:03 +0000 kml636 212794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's too weird for me. I personally call them by their first names, and so does my DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212784 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 08:33:48 +0000 Rubies 212784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never will. I will always call them Mr. and Mrs. ___. My MIL wants me to call her lailai ("MIL" in Cantonese) but it makes me uncomfortable so I don't and it drives her mental. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212783 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 08:31:10 +0000 mrsjyw 212783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>more comfortably in the last year (our 2nd year of marriage). the only reason it works is because we call my parents by "appa" and "umma" mom/dad in korean.</p> <p>even still-- i only call them mom/dad in 3rd person ref either when i'm talking to dh about them, or if i'm talking to one of them about the other. i never directly call them anything STILL and it's been 6 years! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-call-your-in-laws-momdad#post-212779 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 08:26:21 +0000 stargal 212779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope, i wouldnt feel comfortable doing that, that title goes to my parents :) i dotn really call them anything lol </p>