https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 05 Nov 2026 15:23:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect#post-2051662 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 07:36:37 +0000 sorrycharlie 2051662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took a long time for me to feel connected with C. Started after I found out the sex and slowly grew from there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect#post-2051656 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 07:30:08 +0000 ValentineMommy 2051656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: I'm a few days behind you and having the same problem. Big hugs. I've heard from several moms that you don't really feel fully connected because of the fear until you're holding that baby in your arms. Even knowing LO2 is a boy hasn't really helped me feel closer. Also, every time I buy something for his room or start planning things, I start to feel MORE detached and I say something like "hopefully I don't have to return this" or "if the baby makes it". It's really terrible. I'm sorry you're feeling disconnected as well. Know that you're not alone. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect#post-2051567 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 23:45:28 +0000 brownie 2051567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't connect with babies until after they are born and little people. Seriously, I didn't with my son until probably 3 or 4 months old. I had two CPs and am 30 weeks with number 2 and still not horribly connected. It will be different this time around because of my jobs and how I plan to get back to them. I love them but I don't connect if that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect#post-2051544 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 22:43:39 +0000 littleblessings 2051544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was connected with my first child beginning at the positive test.<br /> I never really connected with my second until after he was born. Makes me feel bad but it is what it is </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect#post-2051523 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 22:10:47 +0000 macintosh 2051523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never experienced a loss, but after struggling through infertility I think I kept myself from getting too attached early on. I kept expecting something to happen and it took a while before I realized this unstoppable force was really growing inside me! </p> <p>I didn't feel much movement early on but on the day of my anatomy scan at 19 weeks, I felt my first kick! Seeing the baby in detail on the scan and finding out the sex really helped me feel connected to the baby, Then we named him and it's almost like he's already here. We both already love him so much :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect#post-2051496 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 21:35:44 +0000 blackbird 2051496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kinda not really until I deliver? It's just sort of an abstract baby to me until then. I've had two miscarriages and I have E and it's just this weird thing to me, I guess. Or maybe I'm just distracted because it's my second and I've been sick and miserable the vast most of my pregnancy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect#post-2051489 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 21:29:26 +0000 Torchwood 2051489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, never, really? Last time once we found out she was a girl it helped, but it still never really felt like I was all that attached. I don't know how much of that was knowing she might not make it. But we didn't find out she had issues until I was 20 weeks, and I felt nothing much up to that point. 13 weeks now, starting to feel flutters, and still nothing (and we already know she's a girl and it made little difference). I love being pregnant, and my body changing and having a big belly and feeling movement, but there's not much of an emotional connection for me between that and the reality that we're having an actual BABY. I'm sure my history affects that, but really I think it's just my personality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect#post-2051466 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 21:11:31 +0000 Anya 2051466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Finding out the sex was a big turning point for me. It really allowed me to start connecting with the baby as a BABY instead of as sort of an extension of my previous (lost) pregnancy. I found out the sex before I was able to feel movement, but I think if it had been the other way around, feeling the first real kick would have probably been a similar experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect#post-2051465 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 21:10:15 +0000 MrsH 2051465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: I'm 15 weeks today and don't feel connected with our second yet. I'm guessing it's just second time mom stuff. Hopefully? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect#post-2051458 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 21:07:28 +0000 mrsjyw 2051458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't sure where to put this so I just added to general pregnancy. </p> <p>I am 15 weeks pregnant with lo#2 after an early cp loss a couple of months prior to this pregnancy.</p> <p>I think most days I am past the early first trimester weeks of worry that taunted me internally for a while. Some days I don't feel pregnant aside from the lingering nausea. </p> <p>I think Im starting to feel flutters and when I use the doppler it rings it home for me that I am indeed pregnant. Yet most days I feel disconnected, even though I'm more consciously trying to enjoy every week of this much desired pregnancy/baby instead of wishing it away like I did in my first time mom eagerness to meet baby. </p> <p>Whether it's being a second time mom or pregnant after loss, I'm not sure which is affecting me. Jw when you felt emotionally connected to the baby/pregnancy?</p> <p>I will say that even w my pregnancy w dS it didn't really click for me until well after the anatomy scan, however, I wasn't plagued w worry and the conscious "don't get your hopes up" attitude I carried w me through first trimester this time. </p>