https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 18:27:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1754677 Sat, 12 Jul 2014 18:31:51 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1754677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am SO excited to be pregnant again and that I will have two children but I also get a little sad thinking I won't be able to give Tor all of my love and attention. That said I feel like in some respects I'm less connected this time and in some more. I'm less connected because I have T to enjoy and he is my love but I'm more connected because I know the love I have for him and I envision his teeny tiny sister or brother in there forming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1754670 Sat, 12 Jul 2014 18:18:11 +0000 winniebee 1754670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I constantly am thinking I feel bad for baby 2 because I just don't have time to be as connected I think? Like I would talk to my son and constantly thought about him but with this one it's just life as usual. Maybe once I know the sex in a few weeks? I would be devastated if something were wrong but I just don't feel as in tune with the baby yet (17w). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1754153 Sat, 12 Jul 2014 02:58:37 +0000 erinpye 1754153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Somewhat around the 20 week anatomy scan, but mostly forgot I was pregnant (just sick!) and connected when she was born! Haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1754142 Sat, 12 Jul 2014 02:14:01 +0000 lamariniere 1754142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't let myself feel connected until we found out the sex around 20 weeks. I was really afraid of having gender disappointment and couldn't envision my relationship with the baby until I knew the sex. I think part of being a second time mom is also being so busy with the first LO that I simply didn't have time to obsess over the pregnancy. I often had to stop and think about how many weeks I was, whereas with LO1, I could tell you weeks and days without hesitation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753974 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 21:11:45 +0000 skipra 1753974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, it took a long time and it was never as strong as my first pregnancy. It even took a while to really connect after he was born. I mean it was there just different because while I was so happy and excited, I was also a little sad about how my relationship with #1 was changing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753927 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 20:48:38 +0000 bhbee 1753927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 13 weeks and not feeling it at all. Just started telling people and I feel like a fraud because I forget I'm really pregnant. Combo of what everyone has said about being obsessed with #1 and also still being sick and tired. I'm hoping once I can feel movement or have a good bump it will be different. Second time around is just really weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753813 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 20:01:33 +0000 MrsF 1753813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's nice to hear that I'm not the only one having trouble connecting with #2. I'm almost 20 weeks and I mostly feel freaked out about having 2 kids and guilty that a newborn is about to take so much of my attention away from M. I'll sit in the rocking chair and sing to her and I'm crying just thinking about it. While I know it's not true, it's almost impossible for me to think about loving another child as much as I love M :sad: </p> <p>All that being said - I do feel a little more connected after our anatomy scan last week ( :boy: !) and now that I am feeling consistent movement. It helps that DH can feel him move now too. I'm feeding off of DH's excitement in that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753797 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 19:52:13 +0000 Bao 1753797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to say after I felt her move. I was SO busy with A that I barely had time to think about my pregnancy, maybe that's why it took so much longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753788 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 19:48:20 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1753788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I'm truly connected yet, but after baby started looking like a baby on the ultrasound and not a blob, I felt like it was real and that this is happening! Probably won't feel truly connected until after it's born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753785 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 19:44:50 +0000 wonderstruck 1753785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly? I didn't connect with L until he was born and I got to really meet him. So far I'm almost in my third trimester with this pregnancy and am expecting it to go the same way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753751 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 19:23:59 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1753751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: well said. It's exactly how I feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753748 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 19:22:52 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1753748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BeachMama: same!</p> <p>@sorrycharlie: I had a lot of those guilty feelings, thinking I was going to miss out on my time w/ #1. It's tough at first, but then it's so much fun to have 2. The kids adore each other! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753703 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 18:57:42 +0000 Mrs. M 1753703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took longer because I was overwhelmed with issues that arose after getting pregnant. My milk supply dropped for my then 10-month old and I was freaking out! Once I saw baby on the ultrasounds I felt as attached as with my daughter. I have been more relaxed with this pregnancy, but mostly because I have a toddler to look after. I think I will be more emotional this time around now knowing how awesome it is to have a baby and watch them grow and develop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753687 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 18:42:34 +0000 BeachMama 1753687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Funny, I'm kind of the opposite. I think with #1 I was overwhelmed and stressed wondering if I was really ready. And it took me a good couple months after her birth (and dealing with PPD) to really bond and feel connected. Now I'm 5 weeks pregnant with #2 and I think I already feel pretty connected. I'm just as obsessed with looking at my pregnancy apps everyday. I think it's because I discovered how much I could love LO#1 and I realize I'm going to have that again with #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753673 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 18:27:07 +0000 Maysprout 1753673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt bad too. When I saw her on the anatomy scan I felt a little more connected. When the tech went out she left this beautiful picture of her face up. But all she gave me was a CD of her insides, none of her cute lil pose all curled up or her little expression. After I had an ultrasound with my first daughter I stared at those ultrasound pictures a lot but I didn't get that with my second. When she started kicking more I felt more connected too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753407 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:45:59 +0000 MrsB2012 1753407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm only 10 weeks and I have huge guilt that a day or so can go by and I don't even think about the baby. Like another poster said, I was obsessed with every detail with B. I was looking at my pregnancy apps every day, thinking about her every second. I had an early scan and I felt emotional when I saw the bean, but then after it was back to the same. I'm hoping I connect once we find out the gender and I start feeling the kicks etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753398 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:42:34 +0000 Freckles 1753398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: I agree - i always looked forward to the next babycenter weekly email, but i haven't had time to think of this pregnancy!</p> <p>I think i definitely felt more connected and excited after our 20 week anatomy ultrasound and found out it was a boy. I felt those old feelings rushing back (just in amazement at this baby moving around inside of me). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753377 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:34:10 +0000 sorrycharlie 1753377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: yes..exactly that. I sobbed and sobbed when I found out I was pregnant with #2 because I didn't' want to lose my mama/O time. I don't wanna share my attention. :( I felt so idiotic thinking that.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753369 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:31:25 +0000 Radish 1753369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm too overwhelmed and exhausted to connect, though I tend to not have a strong connection until birth as it is. </p> <p>@sorrycharlie: I want to see NT pictures! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753367 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:30:33 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 1753367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: I had a similar problem. With P I wasn't connected to the pregnancy (and had planned to blog about that) but I felt more connected to O. But that didn't mean I was really thrilled with either pregnancy and though I felt connected more to the pregnancy the second time (much less depressed feeling), I still didn't want to lose P being my only child. He was just starting to get fun at a year old and I was enjoying him so much that I didn't want to 'ruin' it by bringing in a newborn. And you know how much I adore the kidlets. </p> <p>Would this be helpful if I blogged about this experience for you guys? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753359 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:27:51 +0000 sandy 1753359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: I feel exactly the same! Obsessed with my first pregnancy and obsessed with my LO :)</p> <p>I'm a little over 19 weeks and don't feel connected at all and feel a lot of guilt over it. Even at the anatomy scan I didn't feel the amazement that I did at LO's scan. I'm sure it will change once baby arrives </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753354 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:26:38 +0000 Sophs Mama 1753354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I really connected with this baby until we found out there might be something wrong. I always loved her, but I didn't feel as.. defensive? protective? of her until a couple weeks ago.</p> <p>It doesn't hurt that that's around the time she started really kicking me so I could feel it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753348 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:25:02 +0000 swurlygurl 1753348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>34 weeks and still no connection :(</p> <p>It's really weird - I was obsessed with every single detail of my first pregnancy, and this one has flown by sooo fast with very minimal thought to the baby! I think I'm a little sad to be losing L as the center of my universe, even though I want more kids! I just can't even imagine having another kid as awesome as her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753344 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:23:56 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 1753344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty sure I was a late bloomer with both my kids. I didn't really connect with P during the pregnancy and it took me until I was in my third tri before I connected with O. And I had those same fears! You're not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753325 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:19:14 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1753325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took a lot longer. Probably around 20 weeks. I was just too busy to feel as I connected as I was the first time around. First pregnancies are so indulgent. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-connect-with-your-2nd-pregnancy#post-1753311 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:15:59 +0000 sorrycharlie 1753311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just had my NT scan today and finally feel somewhat connected! :) still not quite as much as I did with LO 1, but part of that is worries about not loving this baby as much. silly, but it is what it is! </p>