https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 13:44:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-decide-1#post-2590096 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 15:40:59 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2590096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The rest will figure it out. </p> <p>Our oldest will be 5 when #3 comes. So when she's 10, the baby will bet 5 and in Kindergarten as well. So hopefully they would all be doing similar activities. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-decide-1#post-2590089 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 15:34:47 +0000 codeitall 2590089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you're spot on. If you know you'll regret it, I'd say go for it and it will all work out. I'd say #1 and #2 may be valid arguments, but you'd be surprised how things fall into place. As an older kid, I loved the feeling of being trusted by my mom to help her with my younger siblings. #3 is the hardest one because it is the most inflexible, but you can probably make things work.</p> <p>Going off to college, I knew that I wanted at least 4 kids and when I got married after college, I got some very practical advice. "You'll feel done when you're done. If I looked at my youngest and he was no longer a baby, I'd start thinking about whether I wanted him to be my last baby. Everything else was secondary." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-decide-1#post-2589684 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 10:50:00 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2589684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're maybe 3 as well. We haven't decided but your reason #4 makes me want to ignore all the possible "cons" having a 3rd. It's a hard decision! No advice, just comiseration </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-decide-1#post-2588835 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 10:45:00 +0000 LuLu Mom 2588835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are still in the "maybe 3" club. We go back and forth and know we have to decide by next summer. I want another spring or early summer baby, so we would have to start trying next summer to have hte kids in a decent age gap. </p> <p>My hesitations:<br /> 1. having enough patience and time to spend with all 3 kids.<br /> 2. How to handle activities as they get older since there are only 2 parents and 3 kids to shuffle around.<br /> 3. financially it's a big jump for daycare/vacations/activities, ect.<br /> 4. if we don't, I'm scared we'll always regret not having "one more" or feeling like our family is not complete. </p> <p>I feel like because of reason #4, that means we take the jump right and the rest will work itself out? </p>