https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 07:15:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491592 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:58:20 +0000 Weagle 1491592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew we wanted at least two years apart, but we would be fine if they were closer together. We didn't have any goals to meet before trying, so we just went with it. Overall, I think there's always a reason to go for it and always a reason to wait. I'm 13 weeks along with #2, and I question being ready some days! Sometimes you just have to decide and what will be will be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491589 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:58:14 +0000 Chillybear 1491589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. tictactoe: I also think my husband will be ready before i am. he likes the idea of 3 years between our kids</p> <p>@char54: I struggle with the emotion that i love my daughter so much that i kinda want her to my focus for a while longer before adding to the dynamic</p> <p>@Mamasig: The 9 years between my brother and I were tough too. while i'm sure it was nice for my mom to have me as a helper, My brother and i didnt have the best relationship because i was more of an authority figure than a peer. </p> <p>@autumnlove: Financially i think we're still stretching to accommodate our first, but once that starts to even out and we're a little more comfortable the decision might seem more feasible. </p> <p>@septca: I agree that age is also a factor. I'll turn thirty this year and i would like 3 before i get into my late 30s. (hubs isnt sold on #3 but said we'll see)</p> <p>@Andrea: I asked my SIL why so close (2 under 2) right after i had my lo... i believe my exact words were "why would you want to do this again" and she claims she completely forgets labor and the newborn phase.... is this some weird survival mechanism?</p> <p>@Mrs. M: at this point i work full time. I would love to have my first in public school to avoid double day care costs or be able to stay home with them by the time we have 2 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491496 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:39:59 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1491496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had talked about a 2 year gap, but when my first LO was nearing his first birthday I had a really strong feeling that he needed a playmate. To be honest, being pregnant with a toddler was really, really hard, but now that the baby turned one, the kids are already playing together and it's so much fun. I don't feel the need to entertain them as much and overall it has made parenting more enjoyable for me.<br /> Now I'm actually at an impasse, because we know we want another but I don't know when. Hopefully I will "just know" like last time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491452 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:25:21 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1491452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always knew we wanted the kids around 2 years apart. I started getting baby fever when LO #1 was just 6 months (crazy I know, but she was STTN already, we were on a great, predictable schedule, and the baby weight was gone), but logically we knew we should probably wait because we didn't want 2 under 2... so we allowed ourselves to enjoy several more months of quiet predictability, and for my body to fully recover... and started trying again when LO #1 was 16 months.</p> <p>We would've started trying at 14 months (so they'd be exactly two years apart), but I wanted to avoid an end of the year baby.</p> <p>Another thing that factored into our decision was my job. I needed to make sure that I had been at my job at least a year before I got pregnant again so that I could qualify for all the maternity leave benefits.</p> <p>My in-laws are also around to help right now, so it made more sense for us to have kids closer together because who knows where they'll be years from now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491438 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:20:14 +0000 Mrs. M 1491438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always imagined having kids somewhat close in age. We also based our decision partly on my future work situation. I am a SAHM now but will most likely go back to work when kids are in school. Since they won't have a large gap, it will be more of a clear cut choice for when I should go back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491420 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:14:43 +0000 Andrea 1491420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We never wanted 2 under 2. Just no desire to go through everything so quickly again. We always talked about a 2-3 year age gap and that is what we got. It's still a small enough age gap where the girls can be close and play well together. And maybe there isn't so much jealousy because DD1 was older when we had DD2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491324 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:54:52 +0000 septca 1491324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always hoped to have our kids 2-3 years apart, but when we had trouble TTC and I was diagnosed with endometriosis, my doctor recommended that we have our kids close together - she said that AF would stay away while I was BFing and that we should just start TTC again when it returned... well, AF came back at 7 weeks pp, so that obviously wasn't happening. :wink: I stopped BCP at about 10 months pp because it wasn't helping my endo pain and I was ready to TTC again. Cycle #4 now and still trying... if I was KU this cycle, baby and DD would be 22 months apart. Ideally, I'd like a 22-28 month gap. We think we may want 3 kids and I am not getting any younger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491307 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:51:42 +0000 autumnlove 1491307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew we wanted them close in age and we felt ready financially so we started talking about it seriously at 4 months PP. We wanted to wait until LO turned one but we got pregnant around 7 months PP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491294 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:49:25 +0000 Mamasig 1491294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My siblings and I are far apart in age - 9 years in between me and my sister and four years in between me and my brother. I didn't want that for my kids. My 1st two will be 20 months apart and if we have a third, I don't want them to be more than 3 years apart. My DH and his siblings are all very close in age - 4 kids in 5-6 years and he loved it. I also wanted to get the baby part over with - I was 33 when I had my first so my age is a factor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491292 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:49:12 +0000 Charm54 1491292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always thought I wanted them 2 years apart but now that LO is 6mo old I don't think I'll be ready next fall to TTC again. I'm thinking maybe 3 years between LOs now .., though I might change my mind again once the fall rolls around </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491291 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:49:06 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1491291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was ready when Liam was like 4 months old and I was NOT. It took us a year to conceive Liam, though, so we knew we wanted to start trying earlier rather than later because we didn't know how long it would take and we did want kids close in age. We started trying when Liam was 14 months old, got pregnant right away, and the due date was 2 days before his 2nd birthday. Then, we lost the pregnancy at 9 weeks and have been TTC ever since (7 months and counting). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491279 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:45:53 +0000 Chillybear 1491279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby is only just going to be 6 months old and i know that we're probably a couple years away for trying for number 2. A lot of my friends are about to join the 2 under 2 club in the next couple months and i'm just wondering how you knew you were ready to add to the family or if you had certain goals you wanted to attain first. Was it more of wanted X number of years between kids?</p> <p>For me and my family dynamic i dont think i could do a infant and toddler at the same time. I also dont think we could afford 2 in daycare. Ideally, we'd probably need to move to a larger house unless the kids shared a bedroom and I'd need a bigger car. and in a if we won the lottery situation I would love to stay home with the next one. My husband and his brother are only 3 years apart while me and my brother are 9. </p> <p>What was your thought process? </p>