https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 15:11:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1567153 Mon, 14 Apr 2014 09:55:32 +0000 Greentea 1567153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that is why dh and I worked so well from the beginning. He knows everything about me and has seen me at my worst and he doesn't judge. We met when we were both in a rough place. I still sometimes struggle with acting "perfect," because I was forced to my entire life growing up. I was the star athlete, the top of my class, blah blah bullshit because I was forced to be charming, perfect, popular. I am a great actor. I felt awkward for years admitting who and what I really am, kind of like @Mae: I am an artist. I hid it for years because it didn't sound like a career. I still feel awkward in some ways because anyone who knew me back in school would have thought I was middle-class like the rest of the Midwest when actually my values are quite different. DH has helped me a lot to be who I actually am. He's the best. And I have helped him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1567012 Mon, 14 Apr 2014 09:08:28 +0000 mrs. bird 1567012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: i'm so sorry you went through that! you are so brave to talk openly about it now &lt;3</p> <p>i'm comfortable with who i am, i like who i am as a person, but there will always be parts of my life that will remain hidden. it's not because i'm embarrassed or ashamed, but there are things that would make other people uncomfortable, that effects that way they view/interact with you. it's completely understandable why that would happen, but i just don't want to feel penalized for things that aren't within my control or have others feel like they need to involve themselves or try to fix things that aren't for them to worry about. it's really hard for people to sit with someone they care about in times of distress &amp; do nothing but be still with them, if i don't think they can't just be still with me &amp; my pain, then i don't share it with them. </p> <p>maybe once you've had time to distance yourself from things it's easier, i am pretty open about my past, but wounds that are fresh are harder to expose, they still haven't healed and can sting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1566924 Mon, 14 Apr 2014 08:39:14 +0000 snowjewelz 1566924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I really grew into my skin until after college! Took a long time to find out who I was and be comfortable with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1566427 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 21:35:27 +0000 wonderstruck 1566427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. Downer answer, but I suffered from abuse as a child at the hands of a relative for a long time, and was really shut off as a result. I was 17 when I finally 'let it go' and told my parents everything, then cut my abuser and all my relatives who supported him and blamed me out of my life. Words cannot even describe the weight it was off my shoulders, I don't think I even realized how much that one thing was holding me back from being a whole person until afterwards. Now I don't hide who I am, I'm proud of all the parts of me (okay, well, realistically - most of them!) and what has led me to this point in my life, which is probably why I'm willing to be open about something like this on such a public forum! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1566369 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 20:54:28 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1566369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a work in progress for me! But it is like a snowball...once you get momentum...you can't stop! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1566356 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 20:44:29 +0000 Mae 1566356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think in the last few years. For me it was letting go of the vision everyone had of me as the super-achiever I always was in school. I think if you'd asked anyone who knew me before 22 they would've said I'd be a CEO or partner of a firm or something super impressive before I was 30-- I was just always the youngest/super driven/high achiever person through school. Then I got a job that I didn't like in a field I don't really like and I also got married and realized that (unexpectedly) I did REALLY like spending time at home/with my family and that I really wanted to make photography (which I'd always considered not "impressive enough") a career. But I think for a long time I was embarrassed to admit that I didn't care about being a lawyer anymore, and wasn't trying to be top of my field. That really what I want is to get out and be a photographer and have more time at home (and I'm okay with that!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1566345 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 20:40:03 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1566345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't let it go! I have a major social anxiety disorder, so I constantly 'act' when I'm around other people. Even with close friends, I still rehearse/overanalyze everything I do and say. </p> <p>Guess I need to listen to that song a few more times ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1566343 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 20:39:48 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1566343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not one bit. On the contrary - when DH proposed I actually had a serious discussion with him about what he was "getting into" so to speak! I'm not a bad person and I have a great family - but there are just some things that I knew might eventually annoy him in our marriage and I wanted him to be okay with that and go into marriage knowing full-well who I am. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1566341 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 20:38:34 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1566341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm...I really don't think I ever conceal who I am but the real me is not something you'd see right off the bat. I am so to warm up and private. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1566339 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 20:38:13 +0000 mrsjyw 1566339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, never felt the need to conceal myself. I'm pretty much an open book. :) Maybe, too much so to a fault. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1566336 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 20:36:33 +0000 chopsuey 1566336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hhurmm.. don't think I've ever had to conceal who I am.<br /> It can take some time for certain people to get to know the real me though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-learn-to-let-it-go#post-1566316 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 20:31:45 +0000 mrbee 1566316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As the song puts it:</p> <p>Don’t let them in, don’t let them see<br /> Be the good girl you always have to be<br /> Conceal, don’t feel, don’t let them know<br /> Well, now they know</p> <p>Let it go, let it go<br /> Can’t hold it back anymore<br /> Let it go, let it go<br /> Turn away and slam the door</p> <p>Did you ever feel you had to conceal part of who you were? When did you start to let that go? </p>