https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 05:02:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173841 Mon, 11 May 2015 07:45:34 +0000 Alivoo01 2173841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We picked/decided on DS's name right before my baby shower at like 30 weeks? Only because everyone wanted to personalize something for us and needed a name. We planned on sharing anyhow so that wasn't the issue. We just couldn't pick a name with so many of DH's friends with babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173781 Mon, 11 May 2015 06:15:29 +0000 Anya 2173781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FannyMae: "I think it plays into the whole attitude that permeates through motherhood - this person did something different to me, who is right/wrong?" so much this. </p> <p>OP, you are not irrational or crazy! Do whatever feels right for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173779 Mon, 11 May 2015 06:04:11 +0000 FliegepilzHut 2173779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GoGoSnoGirl: Exactly! I really don't care what anyone else has to say about the name. :bummed: With enough prodding from a couple of fairly sweet but random people, I have now said "we're considering this name" on a couple of occasions...I'm just not sure why it matters so much (enough to prompt persistent lines of questioning) to anyone BUT me and DH! I think this week I will say "we think we know...but are not sharing yet" and see where that gets me. Congrats on 38weeks, BTW!!! :grin: </p> <p>@TheSwissWifeStyle: I definitely get that reasoning! We recently ceded a name to close friends with a harder naming task... :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173767 Mon, 11 May 2015 03:41:10 +0000 lamariniere 2173767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were fairly certain about LO1's name and not certain at all about LO2's name. We didn't share either name until after they were born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173762 Mon, 11 May 2015 02:50:57 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 2173762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We shared at 21 weeks. We nailed the name down probably 2 weeks before. We had been going back and forth with boys names for a while, but when DH suggested the name we picked, it totally just clicked and that was it. </p> <p>We shared because after dealing with TTC for 3 years, we had seen many names we loved "taken" by friends! So we wanted to announce as soon as we nailed it down so that it somehow didn't get snatched up. (I have a few friends who are pregnant right now.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173743 Sun, 10 May 2015 23:07:08 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2173743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: I think we are having the exact same experience! DH shares an annoying amount of info about our pregnancy with his coworkers &amp; the naming is right up there at the top of the list. We aren't decided, &amp; I was inclined to leave it at "We will decide &amp; announce when she is born", but he shared the short list &amp; is even just now thinking of new names (mn's, at least) 2wks from our dd. I'm frustrated he &amp; I don't fully agree, but I really don't want others' opinions on this matter. People are very opinionated &amp; I don't care which names THEY prefer or dislike, so I haven't shared much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173738 Sun, 10 May 2015 22:49:33 +0000 SupernovaJ 2173738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we decided on the name fairly early and once we knew the pregnancy was healthy, we told anyone who asked. i was never worried if someone else was going to "steal" the name, or said "oh i know so many babies named _______" or any other odd comment that came out of their mouth. at the end of the day, it's our baby's name whether they like it or not. didn't really care about other people's opinions and their comments would never change our minds. :)</p> <p>i don't understand why people don't share if they are certain, however, to each their own, seriously. if people want to remain private, just respect that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173719 Sun, 10 May 2015 22:05:28 +0000 erinpye 2173719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We picked by 20 weeks each time, and kept the names secret until birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173601 Sun, 10 May 2015 19:01:27 +0000 FannyMae 2173601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: I'm honestly amazed at so many posts about being annoyed with other women not sharing their unborn child's name. Everybody does things differently, and I think it plays into the whole attitude that permeates through motherhood - this person did something different to me, who is right/wrong? Some people love to share every nuance of their pregnancies, other people like to keep things private until the birth... why get annoyed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173536 Sun, 10 May 2015 16:54:40 +0000 Anya 2173536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: agreed. I can't imagine needing to know the name of someone else's baby so badly that I'd be put off by not being told ahead of time. Plenty of parents don't decide beforehand anyway what difference does it make. I ask people if they've picked a name too, but like @MamaCate: said, I don't really care if they share or not (And I would react positively even if I didn't like the same) I'm just making conversation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173530 Sun, 10 May 2015 16:45:49 +0000 Torchwood 2173530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't get people who get pissy about not sharing the name. Why on earth does it matter if we want to keep something to ourselves? I don't like monogrammed/personalized things, so that's not a good argument for everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173524 Sun, 10 May 2015 16:24:10 +0000 clover 2173524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We picked a name early but didn't announce until after birth. When we told MIL some names we were considering she kept making faces and that sealed the secrecy decision for us. People seemed to think it was really weird we weren't telling but I'd rather have that then them judging what I choose to name my child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173510 Sun, 10 May 2015 15:49:31 +0000 MamaCate 2173510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a hard time picking out a name for DD and I think we finally decided around 32 weeks. We did not share until she was born. Currently 30 wks with DS and no name yet.</p> <p>A few thoughts:<br /> -I didn't want to jinx anything somehow by sharing early<br /> -since we found out the sex and had shared it, I liked having something to announce once she was here<br /> -sometimes I think people ask about names just out of curiosity or to be polite/keep the conversation going, especially acquaintances. My ob asks at every appointment and I am sure she doesn't actually care, she is just making conversation.<br /> -my family would love to talk to me about names but there is so much guilt there with family names and potentially hurt feelings that it was better to just not open that can of worms.</p> <p>But that is what worked for us. We will do the same this time around. To each their own though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173508 Sun, 10 May 2015 15:42:31 +0000 Bubbles 2173508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had our girl name picked out very early on, but didn't settle on our boy name til much later (we found out he was a boy at 20 weeks). I think around 30ish weeks we were 100% decided - and we told only immediate family. </p> <p>The reason I didn't tell is because I didn't want people's negative opinions! Once the baby arrives no one wants to criticise their name, but beforehand people seem to think it's fair game. I even regretted telling family a little as you could see from their reactions what they thought. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173485 Sun, 10 May 2015 15:08:39 +0000 Applesandbananas 2173485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We picked out names early on and shared. I don't understand the secrecy but if you feel strongly, I'd say something like "we're working on it" or "we're waiting until we meet her". I haaaaaate when people are like "we have a name but we aren't telling". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173460 Sun, 10 May 2015 14:23:20 +0000 GrapeCrush 2173460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With DS, as soon as we settled on a name we told. We knew that we weren't going to be swayed, and didn't care what people thought of it, because that was his name. </p> <p>With DD, we could settle on a name. We both had a name we liked, but weren't willing to budge and let the other 'win'(we both liked each other's pick though). We didn't share the choices, because we didn't want to be swayed either way, we wanted to see her and decide then. I found it amusing how worked up some people got over is not sharing. We didn't not share because we wanted to be mean, we just truly didn't want to be swayed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173431 Sun, 10 May 2015 13:10:18 +0000 BSB 2173431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Twins aren't born yet but since finding out the sexes, I have gotten a few more questions about the names. I have shared them with some family and friends but not all. I have been telling everyone that we'll probably decide their names when they are born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173420 Sun, 10 May 2015 13:00:48 +0000 artsyfartsy 2173420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We has tossed around boy name ideas since I found out I was pregnant, and once we found out the gender, we sat down and settled on a name the same day. I shared it immediately </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173397 Sun, 10 May 2015 12:03:05 +0000 simplyfelicity 2173397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: It is! I started off deleting when my dad commented with the name and eventually gave up. My parents know about our losses and are just so excited. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173376 Sun, 10 May 2015 11:05:58 +0000 gentlelunette 2173376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green, and had one boy name and two girl names picked with one being the front runner. When our DD was born, we were pretty sure we knew which name we wanted to give her, but we waited about 3 hours before finalizing it. We didn't tell anyone our choices before birth because we didn't want anyone's unsolicited opinions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173300 Sun, 10 May 2015 08:58:21 +0000 dc yoga bee 2173300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before I got pregnant, I had thought Ava for a girl. Once I had my anatomy scan at 18 weeks on Jan 5, Ava didn't feel right for some reason. Her name came to me about 1.5 months later on February 15! I was twenty-something weeks then. I immediately told my mom, then co-workers, his family last. Not to my surprise, mil doesn't like the name, but not my problem. Everyone else loves it, and we love it. We won't share it on facebook until she's born however. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173297 Sun, 10 May 2015 08:43:10 +0000 cheesetomywhine 2173297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were TG both times so we didn't finalize until after they were born. </p> <p>However I love names and discussed which ones we were thinking with anyone who asked. Sometimes we got odd comments but they didn't bother me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173276 Sun, 10 May 2015 08:02:24 +0000 skipra 2173276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It kind of drove me crazy how persistent people were about us sharing when we made it clear that we wouldn't decide until we met the baby. With DS1 I got negative feedback on a couple names we were throwing around and it just kind of ruined them for me so I didn't want to share any after that. For DS2 I told some people our 2 finalists but we went with a totally different name. I think what worked best was telling people we had no idea but would love suggestions - took the focus off us and on to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173247 Sun, 10 May 2015 06:39:56 +0000 sunshineandsushi 2173247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't name them until after they were born. Partly because we hadn't 100% decided on both names, partly because we wanted to meet them to decide who was which name and part because I wasn't interested in hearing people's negative reactions do they didn't like our names. My approach is that it's easier to tell you they don't like your baby's name when the baby is still in your belly. Not as easy, and a lot more rude when they're already born and that is officially their name! Since we weren't 100% sure, we also didn't share our short list of names either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173240 Sun, 10 May 2015 06:13:09 +0000 Rocker2014 2173240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We picked a name early, as soon as we knew she was a girl. She's named after her grandmothers, and the first people that we shared the name with was our mothers on Mother's Day last year, when I was about 4 months along. They both cried! After that, we told anyone who asked, and fortunately we never received any negative feedback, likely because I always immediately told people the family connection to the name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173230 Sun, 10 May 2015 05:43:25 +0000 Charm54 2173230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We decided fairly early but since we were TG no one really pressured me that much for a name. If someone asked I would say "oh, we are waiting to find out what this little one is first before deciding!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173216 Sun, 10 May 2015 01:07:50 +0000 ShootingStar 2173216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like it's really weird when s name has been decided and it's a secret. There's a girl I knew who was due around the same time that I was and when I asked her if they'd picked out a name she said "oh yes but we're not telling anyone" and it totally rubbed me the wrong way. It wasn't that they weren't 100%, which seems more reasonable. My theory was she didn't want people to tell her anything negative about the name she picked out (which when I did find out I thought it was ridiculous). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173202 Sat, 09 May 2015 23:49:57 +0000 Ginabean3 2173202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With DD1, we did not decide on her name until I was in labor. However we did have a list and in my mind I had a favorite (I did not tell DH which one was my favorite until decision time though!). But from the beginning, we had decided even if we knew what we were going to call her, we didn't want to announce until she was born. I just didn't want to hear anyone's opinion about it. (Example...."oh, I know a dog named that" or "that's the name of my math teacher" etc etc) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173201 Sat, 09 May 2015 23:38:23 +0000 FannyMae 2173201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kitty: I've only ever seen this many gender reveal/name announcements on a US forum (and pinterest!) It seems like its the normal expected thing to do, and though the gender reveal thing has become more common here it doesn't seem like its *that* huge as it is in the US. It sounds like its almost part of the rite of passage of pregnancy? </p> <p>when I was preg with DD I got asked so many times if we knew what we were having/naming the baby - by totally random people who would get snarky if I said we don't know/keeping to ourselves. Dunno why! Its not like it would have any bearing on their lives at all, but people are wierdos :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-name-your-lo-did-you-share/page/2#post-2173179 Sat, 09 May 2015 22:45:43 +0000 kitty 2173179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FannyMae: I'm also Australian and while we haven't decided on a name yet at 24 weeks we won't be sharing it until the birth. I never thought about it being different between cultures.</p> <p>So far I'm almost glad we haven't decided because when people ask I can say "we don't know yet!" but I feel like I will get more annoyed with people asking when we have actually made a decision. </p>