https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 22:53:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135922 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 06:51:28 +0000 Honeygold89 2135922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When lo was 10.5 months he stayed over night with my parents because dh wanted to take me out and celebrate my birthday and then he stayed with my MIL and SIL overvight at 11 months because I winded up in the hospital because of an ectopic pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135907 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 06:35:45 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2135907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In 3 weeks!!! My son will be 13 months. My husband has been away on a couple of work trips but I haven't spent the night away from him yet. We're spending the night at a beachside hotel for my husband's birthday. I'm so excited!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135893 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 06:19:27 +0000 ElbieKay 2135893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son spent a night at his grandparents' house when he was 12.5 months old. I will be away on a business trip for three nights when he is 14.5 months old.</p> <p>He was EBF, and I hate pumping so I pretty much refused to pump for any reason other than (1) nipple relief during the first eight weeks or (2) going to work. Therefore, overnight visits would have been virtually impossible until I was willing to skip the bedtime and morning feed. For me, that didn't happen until he was a year old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135492 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 16:11:02 +0000 Amelieisme 2135492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you planning to BF? That makes time away more difficult! DS spent first night away at 13 mo (With IL's to allow us a date night). DD at 11 mo because we had to travel for a funeral. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135445 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 15:29:44 +0000 MrsStar 2135445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo is 2.5 and I haven't spent the night away from her. The first time I do will be when I have baby in August. Grandparents are close by and have mentioned having her for sleepovers since she was born but I don't see the point yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135430 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 15:17:21 +0000 bushelandapeck 2135430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>16.5 months with DS and we went to NYC for the night. DD is 6 months tomorrow and I don't anticipate leaving her overnight until she's weaned or close to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135299 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 14:09:12 +0000 nana87 2135299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 12 months and I've never been away from her overnight. DH has, for work trips and once a wedding out of town, but I haven't. The idea of sleeping without worrying about having to listen for her waking up is super appealing, but I'm still not comfortable with it yet... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135280 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 13:52:53 +0000 Mamasig 2135280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe 4-5 months with each son. They stayed at my sister's house. My mom also lives there. We did it to have a date night. I wanted to do it early on because I knew that one day DS1 would have to stay while I delivered his sibling. I wanted him to feel comfortable there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135271 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 13:43:14 +0000 ninja 2135271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our oldest was 2.5 years old. He stayed with my in-laws for two nights while we had his little brother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135267 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 13:41:05 +0000 travelgirl1 2135267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't yet and she is 29 months. The first time will be when I have #2 but we are hoping DH will be able to spend the night with her still.</p> <p>We don't have family here so that is probably why we haven't left her overnight for date nights etc but, even if family lived closer, I think I would prefer not to leave her overnight until she is older, five or so. Grandparents wanting a sleepover is not a good enough reason for me. That said, I used to love staying at my gran's house so I definitely don't want to rob my kids of that experience either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135211 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 12:59:07 +0000 MaisyMay 2135211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No sleepovers just for sleepovers sake, but my first night away was a 2 night women's retreat when she was 7 months old. DH was with her though. </p> <p>Her first night completely with somebody else was around a year when my mom stayed with her at our house and we house-sat for a friend. </p> <p>We had one time when I was so sick that I had to stay in the hospital and DH was out of town. For that trip, she was with my in-laws but DH got back the night after I was admitted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135206 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 12:56:27 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2135206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just did for the first time two weeks ago... the girls spent the night at my mom's house for 1 night. They were almost 3 years old and 16 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135200 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 12:52:49 +0000 lamariniere 2135200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS was 17 months and we went away for one night, he stayed with my ILs (we were living with them at the time).</p> <p>DD has never spent the night away from me and she's 16 months.</p> <p>That said, other than for 9 months while my son was under 2, we've never lived close to ANY family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135153 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 12:24:47 +0000 SweetiePie 2135153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 5 months we went on a vacation without him. It was heavenly. My mom flew in to watch him. I'm not ready to let him sleep at someone else's house, but I am fine with them staying at our place. It's just too much stress to schlep his stuff, and I know he's comfy in his own environment.<br /> I'm going on a girls trip this weekend and he's staying with DH (7 months). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135103 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 11:36:32 +0000 Finfan 2135103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is almost 3 and either DH or I have stayed with her every night. The first time I stayed away overnight, she was 22 months old and I went away for two nights to a conference. DH has been away for a night or two here and there but one of us has always been home with her. I would be willing now to let her stay overnight with either set of grandparents if she is 100% healthy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135081 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 11:13:06 +0000 daniellemybelle 2135081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When LO was 9 months old, we went to a wedding in another state and made a getaway of it for 5 days (4 nights). It was very hard but I am very glad we did it. She was in excellent hands with my mom who she saw every day of her life until then, so it was much harder on us than her. I would not have left her with anyone else. We had an amazing time and it was well worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135054 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:58:02 +0000 coopsmama 2135054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We left DS at 8 months with my mom for 5 days so that we could head to Mexico on a babymoon. It was hard but really refreshing time away!</p> <p>We've yet to leave our almost 9 month old daughter with anyone for the night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135050 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:54:03 +0000 PurplePeony 2135050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>4 months, I had a business trip. I also had to go away when she was 8, 10, and 12 months. Those trips actually weren't so bad, even though I missed her, because she was fine with taking a bottle from DH and I had a big stash of frozen breastmilk. Now that we've bottle-weaned but she's still nursing, it's actually harder because when she wants milk, I'm the only one who can satisfy her (she won't take a sippy if she wants to nurse). I had to go away for one night a couple weeks ago and she did fine, but I have another multi-day trip coming up in a few weeks and I'm worried about that one. Also not looking forward to having to pump when I haven't done that in months, but if I don't I'll be in serious pain!</p> <p>ETA: we've never both been away from her overnight, we always arrange our work travel so we don't have to both be away at the same time. And we don't have any family nearby, so sleepovers with grandparents aren't an option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135045 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:51:41 +0000 ShootingStar 2135045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last month when DS was 16m was our first time. We were visiting my parents in FL during the week of my birthday and we decided to do an overnight in a hotel. It was amazing. We don't really have anyone close by to do it, and first the first ~8 months of his life he was breast fed, so it would've been more of a hassle to have him stay an extended amount of time with someone else.</p> <p>If my parents lived close by I could see DS going for sleepovers there. I would relish the opportunity to sleep as late as I wanted. But I think it's weird for people to be anxious to take an infant overnight. Especially if you're bf-ing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135033 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:47:45 +0000 HLK208 2135033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS was 18 months for a weekend away</p> <p>DD was around 20 months just for a night. </p> <p>And my youngest, who is almost 9 months hasn't yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2135017 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:38:57 +0000 KT326 2135017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first time was at around 4 months and my mom came to stay with him. We went to a wedding about 1.5 hours away. I think we were gone less than 24 hours. </p> <p>DS is 3 now and has spent many nights with my mom. No one else has offered to keep him overnight. But he has such a great time with her and has always slept so much better for her than for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2134970 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:09:29 +0000 lovehoneybee 2134970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>14 months, he stayed at my SIL's house (and my MIL was there too). It was our anniversary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why/page/2#post-2134967 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:08:59 +0000 jedeve 2134967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 9 mo, never. </p> <p>My oldest - once at 15 mo for a work trip. There was a mouse in my room so I didn't sleep. </p> <p>At 17 mo, he went to the grandparents so that we could have a weekend away because I was 35 weeks pregnant. I didn't sleep then either - had false labor for a few hours one night. </p> <p>Then the next week, for two nights, when I delivered LO2. </p> <p>Honestly, people make such a big deal about cutting the cord and getting away from your children, but I'm kinda meh about it. For one, LO2 is still breastfed so it's not really an option right now. For another, I haven't slept well when I have gotten away, haha. But we just have our routine down and I don't usually feel a need. </p> <p>But I would love a weekend away after LO2 weans! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why#post-2134956 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:04:05 +0000 youboots 2134956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will not likely be a fan of the idea of baby sleepovers with the family just because as long as she is breast fed. There is a workshop I'm interested in attending when she is 7 months old, but I would have the option to come home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why#post-2134955 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:04:03 +0000 BananaPancakes 2134955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think DS was around 15 months. We went to a concert a couple of hours away and stayed in a hotel. It was hard, but we all survived. We've only gone overnight together one other time. Other than that, one of us has always stayed behind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why#post-2134952 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:03:28 +0000 msplatypus 2134952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following, I am doing my first over night next week for a work trip, I'll be gone 5 days and my so will with her, I'm nervous but I also know he's totally capable of taking care of her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why#post-2134949 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:00:30 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2134949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For us he was about 4 weeks old. We don't have family in town and didn't have anyone stay with us, but a sweet friend offered to take him for us for a night so we could get some sleep and spend some time together. We dropped him off at dinner time and picked him up around 9 the next morning. I am so so so glad we ripped off the band aid and did it early. It was much harder the next time, when we left him with my parents so we could go to a wedding. He was perfectly fine, and we got a much needed break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why#post-2134940 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 09:53:18 +0000 Mae 2134940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't yet at 10.5 months but I totally would take a night away if LO slept more consistently. I was hoping we could do a night away for our anniversary when she was about 9 months old, but her sleep was just not consistent enough to put that responsibility on my mom (probably the only one who will do overnights with her for a good long time). I'm hoping that at some point this summer she'll be consistent and I can ask my mom to spend a night here and let DH and I go away for a night. We could really use a night away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why#post-2134901 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 09:35:22 +0000 reyorra 2134901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter was about 2 months old the first time we took a weekend trip without her. My mother watched her at her house. She has had several sleepovers with her grammie since then, both for date nights and our travels. My son is only 7 weeks old, and I think it'll be a while before my mom offers to watch both kids overnight, so he'll likely be much older when I finally have a night without him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-spend-your-first-night-away-from-your-baby-and-why#post-2134891 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 09:29:48 +0000 looch 2134891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my son was 22 months old, he went to stay at my MILs house while we packed our apartment for a move. </p>