https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 12 Nov 2026 14:05:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-187645 Wed, 13 Jun 2012 07:05:18 +0000 googly-eyes 187645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85 I have been the same way. I'm 26 weeks now and still worry! But I think it has been significantly less since I have been able to feel her more consistently, in the past couple of weeks or so. There was also a decrease in worrying when I got to the second trimester. I don't think it will ever really go away but I'm trying not to focus on it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-187226 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 16:14:07 +0000 sorrycharlie 187226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a natural worrier about everything and everyone, so I'm sure I'll never stop, unfortunately. Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-187158 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 14:46:19 +0000 mediagirl 187158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worried about her until I heard that first glorious cry when she came out. Now I have other things to worry about. I don't think we'll ever stop worrying about them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-187155 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 14:42:41 +0000 kml636 187155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 18 weeks and it's such a struggle for me. Today at work I actually googled "rates of stillbirth". I don't think I'll ever relax! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-187154 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 14:41:23 +0000 GrapeCrush 187154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. And then when he was born it was a different type of worry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-187153 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 14:36:17 +0000 birdofafeather 187153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: that is so true. i love that.</p> <p>i think we'll always worry, i know my mom always worries about us, but not in a panicked way. just in, i love them and i hope they are okay. i'm at 9w and feeling fine, so i'm worried about a missed miscarriage until we hear the heartbeat at our appt at 11 weeks. i guess not freaked out, but not letting myself get super excited until then. maybe it will feel more real?</p> <p>luckily, we're traveling this weekend for a week, so the time should pass quickly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-187067 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 13:14:53 +0000 Sammyfab 187067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am typically not a worrier but I was not offered an ultrasound when I first saw my GP and midwife. It was too early to hear a heartbeat at 8 weeks but we got to hear it at 11 weeks. During that time I was constantly worried that something was wrong or i was getting pudgy and soft for no reason! </p> <p>Once we heard the heartbeat though, I felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders and didn't worry too much after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-186968 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 11:13:33 +0000 winniebee 186968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sadly, never. I had had a miscarriage so the first trimester was worried about that. Second trimester, I didn't feel movement until 20 weeks so had no reassurances til then. I relaxed a bit from weeks like 24-28 when I felt consistent movement. Then started worrying again at 28w when I had constant Braxton hicks contractions. At 30w was hospitalized for preterm labor and then was put on bedrest until 37w so was worried that whole time about delivering early. Thankfully only delivered 10 days early. </p> <p>Now as a new mom I worry about whether DS is eating enough or growing enough. He was low birth weight so I've been worried about his gain since birth. Always something! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-186932 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 10:22:24 +0000 loveisstrange 186932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly? Never. Up until the week she was born, I would still freak out if I thought I hadn't felt her move in a while. It happened like every other day. I found out later that she was just giant and couldn't move because she had ZERO room. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-186922 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 10:17:04 +0000 plantains 186922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I'm very excited. Today is my last day in the office so it will probably feel a lot more real now! Plus I had a call from Mount Sinai the other day going over what I needed to do and it felt really weird. I still can't believe it is time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-186709 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 07:43:52 +0000 hilsy85 186709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: oh my goodness, I can't believe your LO is almost here!!! I'm so excited for you :) And that's how my worry is as well--it's not like a panic attack, just an unsettled feeling. @cyneswith: Ha that's true..my mom is still SUPER worried about me all the time. Maybe it's genetic! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-186708 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 07:39:48 +0000 MusicaV 186708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the longest I've gone without worrying is about a week - something always comes up or comes into my mind. In the 1st trimester it was miscarriage or if I was inadvertently doing anything that would harm the baby. Now it's defects and early labor. I'm fairly confident that I'll still worry once baby arrives, just about new things. At least then it won't fall just on me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-186291 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 18:22:41 +0000 plantains 186291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm due on thursday and I worry a great deal about movement at the moment. My OB does a u/s every time I go in which is weekly at this point, but I still hold my breath each time until I see her little heartbeat. </p> <p>I have to say that my worry isn't panicky at all though, it just constantly gnaws at me which leads me to believe that it is here to stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-186278 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 18:13:52 +0000 cyneswith 186278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My grandma STILL worries about my mom, so I'm pretty sure I'll always have a small part of my mind actively concerned for each child I have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-186277 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 18:13:42 +0000 Minnie_Girl 186277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My worry seems to be growing with the baby. In the first trimester I was completely unconcerned and knew everything would be fine...and it was! Sure, I was miserable, but I knew the baby was strong and healthy without needing to hear a heartbeat or anything. </p> <p>Now that I'm in the second trimester, I find myself getting more anxious. It feels like there's more to lose if something does happen, and the waiting is enough to drive anyone batty. I've already invested so much, physically and emotionally. The stakes are so high between me and the baby already. I can't wait for the baby to finally arrive and let my body rest a little! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-186240 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 17:41:59 +0000 skibobrown 186240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was constantly worried the whole time. During the 1st trimester I was worried about miscarriage and missed miscarriage. During the 2nd trimester I was worried that our baby would have some kind of terrible genetic defect. Then I worried that I wasn't feeling the baby move yet. During the 3rd trimester I was constantly counting kicks, and I would freak out if I didn't feel enough kicks. Or course, when she kicked a ton I would still get annoyed b/c it hurt! </p> <p>Now that I'm a mom I still worry about DD. I definitely check if she's still breathing while she's down in her crib. I guess I'm just destined to be an anxious mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-186154 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 16:27:27 +0000 hilsy85 186154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: lol! So true. </p> <p>@jessiejo17: me too!! I am the same exact way--I hold my breath until baby shows up on the screen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185945 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:36:17 +0000 chopsuey 185945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was never a big worrier until I started reading about miscarriages and problems other women experience during pregnancy! I'm at 12 weeks now and I'm usually pretty good about not worrying, but I definitely have moments of mini panic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185931 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:28:48 +0000 LuLu Mom 185931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I'm right there with you worrying. I think each appointment will get better, but as soon as they pull out the heart monitor I get butterflies in my stomach that it will be a low heartrate, or they won't be able to find it at all! She is starting to move/kick enough for my stomach to move, so that is more reassuring. I can really feel them now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185918 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:21:43 +0000 Mrsbells 185918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah never... there was always something to worry about all the way up to the day LO was born and now the worrying continues since she is only 7 weeks old </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185901 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:17:49 +0000 Andrea 185901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never...the worry was worse once I had a newborn to take care of! </p> <p>Now I do stress less, since DD is 2, so it does get better eventually! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185877 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:06:55 +0000 ladyfingers 185877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been a ball of worry every since getting the BFP. I've had brown discharge for the past week and even though we had an ultrasound last week at 5.5 weeks, I'm not going to rest until we see a heartbeat, hopefully Wednesday. And then I probably won't rest after then, either. DH asked me the other day, "When are we out of the woods in terms of concern?" And I said, "When we die." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185799 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 13:13:31 +0000 dookie32 185799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly- never! I was a freaked out pregnant lady and now I'm a freaked out Mommy. Everyone always says that you are a lot less anxious after the 1st kid but I have a feeling I'm going to be just as bad with the 2nd. I'm just a worrywart by nature- I don't think it's going to change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185707 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 12:28:14 +0000 littlebug 185707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, totally a worrier here. I'm only 9 weeks so still in the tenuous first trimester. I've been feeling really good, minus some *midly* tender boobs, a few random bouts of nausea, and a few scattered days of exhaustion. So I'm in a constant state of worry that I'm not *actually* pregnant. We had our first appointment at 8 weeks and the OB didn't do a dopler or u/s, just an internal. She said my uterus "feels" like 8 weeks, but that doesn't make me feel better. I'm not gonna feel good about it until our next appointment at 12 1/2 weeks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185703 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 12:21:05 +0000 Running Elley 185703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Exactly!!! I don’t want to say “it’s just a backache” and then it end up being a sign of something more that I could have prevented/gotten treatment for. I’m glad I’m not the only one in the “worrying for viability” stage (even though I wouldn’t wish this paranoia on anyone). I thought I was a lunatic :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185698 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 12:18:44 +0000 mamimami 185698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Worry is part of being a mom. Once you're pregnant, you worry about miscarriage, defects, etc. Then they're born and you worry about SIDS, child care baddies, etc. Then they can move and walk and you worry about all those falls and head injuries and what if they run away at the mall.... A few years more and you worry about school, romance, getting home late... SIGH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185691 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 12:15:11 +0000 lemondrop 185691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha- yeah, not until I had him in my hands... then it is of course a whole new level of worry! Of course it is easier to stand by the crib and watch him breath now instead of shaking my belly and hoping for a kick- but I'm even more attached now that I've gotten to know the little guy better. </p> <p>I think my biggest anxiety was towards the last few weeks of pregnancy, I'm sorry to tell you. There would be mornings I didn't feel him move, so I would drink some orange juice and lay down. Most of the time if I thought that I hadn't felt him in a while he would suddenly kick me and I'd feel better. </p> <p>Delivery was a whole new level of worry- I wanted him monitored the whole time so I could keep an eye on him. So much for walking around, which I had originally planned. </p> <p>I'm a worrier, but not usually a neurotic freak- this boy just brings it out in me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185679 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 12:08:24 +0000 hilsy85 185679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: Ha very true that this is probably just preparing us for future worries! And I would be going crazy if I had to wait that long for an u/s! My doctor does one at every OB visit, and I've had 2 anatomy scans...so I get to see little man quite often :) </p> <p>@Running Elley: I agree, I actually feel more worried now than I did in 1st tri--like you, I feel like viability is so close and I feel more responsible now. In 1st tri, if something happened, I couldn't really prevent it. But now that he's moving around I feel like I'm supposed to be on the lookout for any "warning signs". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185674 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 12:05:32 +0000 mrsjyw 185674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>going through the same thing right now! fears subsided ever since i hit the 2nd trimester... but now the wait for "feeling movement" is absolutely making me worry again!</p> <p>it doesn't help that we haven't had an u/s since 6 weeks, just heartbeat check at 10, 13, and 16 wks... alls well, but i still cant shanke that twinge of fear/worry.</p> <p>anatomy scan in two weeks will tide me over til the next appt, etc.</p> <p>i did tell dh though (first trim) that this is all probably just a test run of what parenting will be like for the greater part of forever! "worrying" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-stop-worrying#post-185664 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 11:58:09 +0000 chrispygal 185664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am at 33.5 weeks and I really haven't stopped worrying. That being said, I've been fairly calm with my worry and not panic-y at all but I most certainly have been nervous and worried the entire time. In the beginning it was if it would be a viable pregnancy, then it was any genetic disorders, then it was viability, and now its whether or not she moves enough. I just want to meet her and know that she is ok. I'm sure I'll have different worries from there on out. I think it's just par for the course. </p>