https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 19:20:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-1103 Mon, 26 Sep 2011 14:43:48 +0000 Adira 1103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll probably tell my best friend as soon as I know because we've been talking about me having kids for over a year now, haha. But I don't think I want to tell anyone else (family included) until 12 weeks. I mean... maybe I would like my parents to know, but I would really hate to tell people and then lose the baby. <i>Especially</i> my husband's parents, because they are seriously pressuring us to have children, and the last thing I'd want to deal with after a miscarriage is hearing about it from them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-1099 Mon, 26 Sep 2011 14:33:20 +0000 mediagirl 1099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stephbwill - I love the shirts for the dogs, that's hilarious. I also find it amusing that your dad didn't get it. My parents would probably be clueless, as well but that's a great way to announce it!</p> <p>I have had a few friends who have told everyone and their long lost sisters at 4 weeks and then lost the baby, so it makes me cringe thinking of telling people before 12 weeks. I have a few very close friends who know that we are trying and who are very good secret keepers. They are also out of state, so they won't be hanging out with other friends who they could gossip to. They have told me to feel free to tell them as soon as I want and they will be there for me through whatever happens. I like that idea b/c they can be there for me as I struggle to not tell my Mom who I'm SUPER close with until 12 weeks. Once Mom knows, the world will know. </p> <p>I will probably tell my boss at 12 weeks. He needs to know because I travel for my job and manage a department. I will let everyone else at our small office figure it out on their own. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-1067 Mon, 26 Sep 2011 08:15:30 +0000 lavender 1067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our parents right away, siblings at 8 weeks, and close friends soon after. We just made it "facebook official" at 13 weeks, after my dr visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-780 Thu, 22 Sep 2011 14:44:27 +0000 miranlee 780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our close friends at 9 weeks and our parents at 13 weeks. We see our friends more and they knew something was up when I was tired and sickly all the time. Now I'm 6 months along and everyone's healthy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-708 Thu, 22 Sep 2011 12:46:39 +0000 Parental Unit 708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I ended up telling my friends as soon as I took the pregnancy test... My family however I waited until about 12 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-707 Thu, 22 Sep 2011 12:45:55 +0000 MaisyMay 707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out at 4 1/2 weeks, told parents at 6 weeks, and told everybody else before 8 weeks, and miscarried at 10 weeks. It was hard to tell people about our loss, but having the support was awesome. I imagine that when we get our BFP again, we'll probably tell parents within a few weeks (I'm diabetic and have to make a lot of adjustments with eating and testing, so if we're around them, they'll notice), friends after that. I doubt we'd be able to make it to the second trimester without telling people. I imagine we won't put it on facebook as quickly though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-668 Thu, 22 Sep 2011 09:28:36 +0000 LazyLightning 668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamadopt Yeah, I'd really rather just people think I'm putting on a few pounds. Though when I've done that recently, I've actually had people ASK ME if I am pregnant (when I've put on like 5 lbs. How rude?!). I guess I have no problem lying to acquaintances though, so if someone asked me in the future and I actually *was* expecting, a "no" would still be blurted out most likely!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-648 Thu, 22 Sep 2011 07:08:38 +0000 StephBWill 648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our first pregnancy that ended in miscarriage we didn't tell anyone until after the fact and that was hard. Going back to tell them we lost the baby and sadly since no one knew our family and close friends just weren't as comforting since they hadn't had the excitement building up that we had experienced. With our second pregnancy we told everyone almost immediately, sadly we lost our 2nd baby as well, but at least we had much more support that time around since people had been excited with us! </p> <p>Having gone through both scenarios...our 3rd time around we told my parents face to face while they were visiting. We put our pups in shirts that said Big Brother/Big Sister and video taped it - its hilarious because my dad totally didn't get it. My parents were visiting 5 days before our first ultrasound at 6 weeks to make sure baby was doing ok so they knew before we even knew for sure things were alright. With the rest of the family and our friends we waited until that 1st ultrasound to make sure baby was there and things looked good. When the RE found baby's heartbeat flickering away and told us that took our miscarriage rate down to 5% we called our family (we're in KY, they're in VA) to share the news. With our siblings and close friends we texted a picture of the ultrasound saying "Hi Auntie/Uncle".</p> <p>I finally came out on Fb once I hit the second trimester and came out on my blog around 10 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-632 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 23:11:43 +0000 Liesal 632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 6 weeks right now, and we really want to wait until I'm closer to the end of the first trimester, but it's so hard not to tell! We usually have drinks with friends on the weekends, and they're starting to notice that I'm not boozing it up. </p> <p>I really want to avoid the hounding and advice from family and friends. I know it'll be because they want to help, but I really don't want to hear it. </p> <p>Right now, our decision is to wait until after the first ultrasound (9 weeks) to tell our parents. Then we'll tell close friends and the rest of the family. Then once I'm past the first trimester, Facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-617 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 21:51:09 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Nodakademic- You totally get it! I wish you luck in keeping it secret! And it was nice to get that reprieve from advice and critique. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-582 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 18:31:08 +0000 LazyLightning 582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamadopt that's what we want to do too - because it's nobody's business, we hope we can wait until after we know the gender and such, 17-20 weeks. depending on how much I show, we'll see if that happens. But I definitely don't like people being up in my business, giving me unsolicited advice or hounding me about things and it sounds like these are pretty unavoidable parts of people knowing you're expecting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-549 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 16:09:28 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited until 20 weeks because it was nobody's business and we were nervous about miscarriage. I was also worried about work drama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-541 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 15:29:34 +0000 Jenna 541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely plan on waiting. I'm not sure how long, but I'm actually looking forward to the time when my pregnancy will be something that in which my husband and I alone can take joy. We'll probably stick to the normal 12 week mark to let everyone in on it, but I'm not sure. </p> <p>A close friend from high school is a labor and delivery nurse and has two children of her own with one on her way. If I do decide to tell anyone before then, it will probably be her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-521 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 14:30:05 +0000 winniebee 521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First pregnancy (which ended in an early miscarriage) we told our families right away and I told a few of my close girlfriends. In the end, I wanted them for support when I had the miscarriage so it was nice that they already knew.</p> <p>This time (am currently 4.5 weeks) we did the same thing, except my husband waited for the results of my repeat HCG blood test before telling his mother. Same reasons - if something happens *knocks wood* I'll want to lean on my family and close friends for support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-516 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 14:10:35 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With Mavrick we decided to wait 3 months. I was scared that I would miscarry seeing I knew so many people around me did, so I wanted to be extra careful. I did announce at christmas so that was an extra special gift for them.</p> <p>Next time, I"m going to tell immediate family and a few friends, but I won't announce it to the world until I've had my 3 month mark checkup. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-504 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 13:08:12 +0000 LazyLightning 504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really struggling with this. On one hand, my hubs and I really value our privacy and we both say we plan not to tell anyone for as long as possible (until it's not longer deniable, basically). On the other hand, 12+ weeks is a long time to not talk to anyone about it--even my mother, who'll tell my father, and then that makes it unfair that my in-laws don't know, etc etc... I am curious to know how people make the choice. If you waited to tell people, does that mean EVERYONE? Or did you still tell your mom, or a friend, etc? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-487 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 11:54:18 +0000 tequiero21 487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>with our first pregnancy, which ended in miscarriage, we told our immediate family right away. told some people by the 8th week. and had to tell everyone we lost the baby by 12 weeks. this time, i'm 11 weeks pregnant and we only told my immediate family. we're probably not going to tell anyone else until at least 2nd trimester.... but since it's twins and it's a higher risk pregnancy, maybe by week 20 or 24..... maybe. but by then, i'm sure i'll be showing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-tell-people-you-were-pregnant#post-484 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 11:14:24 +0000 mrbee 484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With Charlie, we actually waited a really long time before telling anyone! I guess we were gun shy after a few miscarriages.</p> <p>How about you: when did you share the news with friends and family? </p>