https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 01:08:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-say-no#post-571696 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 04:10:52 +0000 808love 571696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I give plenty of boundaries without saying the word NO. I say, we don't ..... I don't like it when....Redirect, instruct. I save NO when no other words will do. But almost every situation can be rephrased I found. Stop, Wait, etc. The other day LO refused to give back a toy before we left someone's house. On a subsequent attempt to gain 'the precious' item back, I reasoned that we didn't come with it...we came only with the cupcake bag. Her wheels were turning but not enough. I then said Give it to Mommy or you are going to get a timeout. She complied. Lots of praise for listening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-say-no#post-553965 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 12:54:15 +0000 mrbee 553965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Olive does it now and it was driving me crazy. I have a little bowl I give her with just a few food items in it. If she pushes it away, I take it as a sign she doesn't want that item and take the bowl away. Then I fill the bowl with something else and offer that.</p> <p>That way, there's a natural consequence to her throwing something on the floor; I take the bowl away. It seems to help with her behavior, and most of all it definitely limits the amount of food she can throw on the floor at once! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-say-no#post-553941 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 12:42:57 +0000 irene 553941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Thanks Mr Bee for the link! </p> <p>I was reading your situation where charlie threw food on the floor where I have a similar problem... but he was older then (he's speaking in sentences!) and you can communicate with him. Did he threw food on the floor when he was around 1 (or Olive do that) and how did you guys deal with it?</p> <p>I have a similar problem where my 1 year old threw food on the floor - mostly the food that he didn't care for. He just thinks the floor is a giant trash can. I did start with saying no but husband thinks I should ignore him (as he thinks LO was seeking my attention)... which is not quite working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-say-no#post-545502 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 21:45:00 +0000 mrbee 545502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: there are lots if tricks when it comes to saying no! Here are a few from an old blog post:</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/02/13/three-ways-to-say-no-to-your-kids/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/02/13/three-ways-to-say-no-to-your-kids/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-say-no#post-545500 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 21:43:17 +0000 mrsmenow 545500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to tell what they should do intead of no- </p> <p>"Let's put the bag on the counter" instead of "No touching the bag". I try to do this, but know that I do say no a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-say-no#post-545495 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 21:36:29 +0000 irene 545495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When do you say NO to your kids?</p> <p>I was having lunch with my friend (who has a 1 year old also) and she said don't always tell your LO "no" because they will become a rebel. She reserves "no" for things that she really doesn't want him to do. </p> <p>She said her MIL has a way to interact with her baby. I was telling LO to not pull the bag that contains to-go food (as I am afraid he'd drag the whole thing on the floor). She said if it were her MIL, she would go, "hmm, it makes a nice sound when you rub the plastic bag between your fingers, huh." Like, defusing his attention.</p> <p>I tried to take her advice, but then after a few days when I say no (like, don't pull my glasses off my face!), LO starts breaking down and cry hysterically. I feel like man, even though I shouldn't say no all the time, I need to give him boundaries!! I am rethinking my approach.</p> <p>What is your approach to discipline and the general "no"? </p>